DMD. I don't understand why you are fed up, having nightmares and sound so angry. You sound like you are happy with your little ones development, so what's the problem? At the same time, there is no need to judge other family's choices. Remember that it's not a competition, this parenting thing.
I came from the UK, and from my experience lots of babies and toddlers go to nurseries and then pre-schools of some sort, part time or otherwise. Most days I hear one parenting guru or a study saying children are best raised in a "home environment" until 3, but as I worked and needed day time child care, my gut feelings told me to ignore that as noise (there are so many conflicting views/theories on parenting) and chose to send DD to nursery instead of a child minder's (those were my options). So I had the same niggles about my decision to send DD to nursery, I guess similar to yourself about not doing so. OK, rambling now...
I am so fed hearing that everyone seems to be sending their children to 'nursery' from as early as 1 year old in Dubai... all my friends here and people who I know through other people and even overhearing conversations between people I don't know...they all have their kids in a nursery...is this just a Dxb thing to get a bit of time on your hands away from our children cos it certainly isn't the norm in the UK and the friends that I have their are gobsmacked when I tell them! I really wonder if my daughter is missing out on something as I choose not to send her! I LOVE my time with her every day, doing different stuff, going different places, arty things, cooking, spending time with books, writing etc...and meeting her little friends regularly for playdates (on the days they don't go to nursery!) she will soon be 3 is a VERY confident, outgoing and switched on little girl, she can count to 20 with no mistakes, has been saying the full alphabet perfectly since she was 27 months, can write the first 3 letters of her name, can draw a perfect face with smile, eyes, nose, etc etc and can now tell me when its each 'o clock' of the day to name but a few things...I'm sure my opinions will cause some reaction here but I'm trying to understand the full reasons for this big Nursery Hype! What exactly are they gaining????
Hi Daisymacdoo! I am not really sure I understand the point of your post? I am from the UK and know heaps of friends who have their little ones in nursery over there. It is no different from here really! Maybe it is your perception and because there are so many nurseries here? No one is forcing you to send your child to a nursery and yet you sound so angry about it! Most people put their LO's in nursery here for the social interaction with other children. It is only for 4 hours in the mornings so it really isn't that big of a deal! The nurseries are really lovely and they do all kinds of activities with them and follow the British curric is most cases, they even do swimming with them! I really don't see your problem or how it is a bad thing?
And you know what I am sick of..these judgemental expatwomen who have nothing else on their hand but gossip about how other women raise their kids. Why is it of your concern if anybody else puts their kids in nursery? What about women who have no choice and their husbands dont make enough money to be stay at home moms. In my country at 3 months babies go into nursery, and not because their parents dont love them, or want to get away from them but because they have to WORK and make money to feed their children. So from now on there should be a new law, you only have the right to reproduce when you can stay 2 years and a half at home with your baby? Sorry but that is utter ********. I cook fresh for my baby every day, does that mean I have the right to judge women who choose to give their babies jars? I buy branded clothes for my baby, does that mean that women who buy clothes in carrefour for their babies are bad mothers?
Sorry for lashing out, but I think each to their own. Some of my friends give their children french fries and carrot cake, I wont do it myself, but should I start a thread about how awful mothers they are? No, because they are not, and my motto is each to their own.
There I said it, finally!
I am one of the only ones in Dubai whose kids have not/will not go to nursery. It does seem strange not to send your child. Nursery is definitely the norm in Dubai. I don't know how all these parents can afford it!
DS is 14 months, I honestly wanted him to go to a nursery. He's a smart toddler & can already count to 3, he speaks in English & Arabic & uses some sign language. My concern wasnt learning, as I have all the time to sit with him & teach him new things. I live in Shrjah & there are no decent baby/toddlers groups here, & going to Dubai to go to a group is not easy due to traffic. I wanted him to socialize with other kids as he's my 1st & we dont have many friends with kids. But I was told they dont usually play with kids their age before the age of 18-24 months, this is why I changed my mind. I take him to different play areas every other day to see more kids.
I might send him to a nursery when he's 2.5 yrs old & only for 2-3 hrs 2-3 time a week but not full time.
Well, where I come from which is the Netherlands, it is customary to put children in nursery at about 1 year of age, so it is certainly not a Dubai thing..even though my DD (who is 19 months old) is not in nursery, I still very much understand why some families choose to put their children in nursery...u know, we are all expats here with no families to help, so i can certainly understand why some people put their children in nurseries, I myself want to put my DD in nursery for a few days ago so that she can socialize with other children and play, and also so that i can get sometime to do my other chores that i cannot do with DD..I would sometimes also like to go for a coffee and read the newspapers , which is impossible to be done with DD..