Is there any way that you personally would leave your kids?

This is hard to write: I left a marriage after almost ten years if what amounted to psychological bullying by a well educated university lecturer and was blackmailed into not taking my then young children (threats of unfit mother etc etc). A couple of years later during which there was a bitter battle to get even access to them even though I contributed financially to their upbringing, they (or rather most likely my eldest) told their father they didn't want to live with him anymore. In an abrupt about turn he handed them over as he thought I wouldn't be able to support them on my own and that they'd soon be back with him but I worked hard and we scraped by for several years until we were financially stable. If I hadn't left I probably wouldn't be here now such was my state and my kids have grown into two well adjusted adults whom I cherish. I also along the way met my wonderful DH who took two teenagers on as his own. (hug) x

My Mum left us .. I was a babe in arms and had 2 older sisters 4 and 5 .. When I was 15 I was told that my mum was infact my stepmother and I had another mum who wanted to get intouch ... We all met my real mother at the same time - completely overwhelming my birth mother and her new husband(they have been married for 30 years to date)... We arrived into their home and to this date we have never left .. My personal anger towards my birth mother lasted for years .. until at least I was 28 .. I am now 38..I could see her with my niece and I had the most amazing feelings of anger and resentment for a life we missed with her (our stepmother was a wicked, cruel woman .. I can honestly say now that I would have left her to burn in her own hatred-"A child called it" life story has NOTHING on our step mother). Our step mother arranged the meeting with our birth mother and when we got back she declared that if we stayed intouch with THAT woman we would never see our father or our brothers again.. and she stood by it ... give her her dues .... We found out why our birth mother had left us -She used to get beaten .. stood on .. used as a punch bag by our father and she couldnt take any more. We found out that we had been placed in Care because our father worked in the oil industry and couldn't take care of us- we were moved around the family in the UK eventually settling with our fathers mother who was a saint ..until she had a series of strokes and it became a huge struggle for her.. when she died I thought my heart was going to explode and shatter to a thousand fragments ..our father never even came to his own mothers funeral. I still get upset to this day . He then married our step mother .. who was 17 and aquired 3 children under the age of 7 .. whom she detested .. we were satans children and whores apparantly .. we were children .. this went on until we all left the home .. My Birth mother has stood by everything we have done with our lifes since being in her company.. and the three of us have made some serious c*ck ups ... seriously .. Our father ...... we have not spoken to to this day .. Not without us trying to find him ... he is still in the oil industry .. based in Quatar ...We met up with our half brother over 4 years ago .. and had an emotional reunion with them and sort of stayed in touch .. Now one day my father will die .. and he will never face up to the fact that he drove my mother away and it was his actions that put us all in the life we led. I love my father and feel sorry for him at the same time he is a weak man. My real mum - I can understand now why she left us .. does it upset me .. everyday ... But I love her dearly and she is my mum.. Would I ever leave my children ..( I don't have children ) ... Never .. never ... never I came to the office, made my coffee, opened EW, read your story and now.....im crying.... Thank you for sharing. I wish you all the best and hope that your past won't affect your future.

This is hard to write: I left a marriage after almost ten years if what amounted to psychological bullying by a well educated university lecturer and was blackmailed into not taking my then young children (threats of unfit mother etc etc). A couple of years later during which there was a bitter battle to get even access to them even though I contributed financially to their upbringing, they (or rather most likely my eldest) told their father they didn't want to live with him anymore. In an abrupt about turn he handed them over as he thought I wouldn't be able to support them on my own and that they'd soon be back with him but I worked hard and we scraped by for several years until we were financially stable. If I hadn't left I probably wouldn't be here now such was my state and my kids have grown into two well adjusted adults whom I cherish. I also along the way met my wonderful DH who took two teenagers on as his own.

My Mum left us .. I was a babe in arms and had 2 older sisters 4 and 5 .. When I was 15 I was told that my mum was infact my stepmother and I had another mum who wanted to get intouch ... We all met my real mother at the same time - completely overwhelming my birth mother and her new husband(they have been married for 30 years to date)... We arrived into their home and to this date we have never left .. My personal anger towards my birth mother lasted for years .. until at least I was 28 .. I am now 38..I could see her with my niece and I had the most amazing feelings of anger and resentment for a life we missed with her (our stepmother was a wicked, cruel woman .. I can honestly say now that I would have left her to burn in her own hatred-"A child called it" life story has NOTHING on our step mother). Our step mother arranged the meeting with our birth mother and when we got back she declared that if we stayed intouch with THAT woman we would never see our father or our brothers again.. and she stood by it ... give her her dues .... We found out why our birth mother had left us -She used to get beaten .. stood on .. used as a punch bag by our father and she couldnt take any more. We found out that we had been placed in Care because our father worked in the oil industry and couldn't take care of us- we were moved around the family in the UK eventually settling with our fathers mother who was a saint ..until she had a series of strokes and it became a huge struggle for her.. when she died I thought my heart was going to explode and shatter to a thousand fragments ..our father never even came to his own mothers funeral. I still get upset to this day . He then married our step mother .. who was 17 and aquired 3 children under the age of 7 .. whom she detested .. we were satans children and whores apparantly .. we were children .. this went on until we all left the home .. My Birth mother has stood by everything we have done with our lifes since being in her company.. and the three of us have made some serious c*ck ups ... seriously .. Our father ...... we have not spoken to to this day .. Not without us trying to find him ... he is still in the oil industry .. based in Quatar ...We met up with our half brother over 4 years ago .. and had an emotional reunion with them and sort of stayed in touch .. Now one day my father will die .. and he will never face up to the fact that he drove my mother away and it was his actions that put us all in the life we led. I love my father and feel sorry for him at the same time he is a weak man. My real mum - I can understand now why she left us .. does it upset me .. everyday ... But I love her dearly and she is my mum.. Would I ever leave my children ..( I don't have children ) ... Never .. never ... never

Looks like this mom hit a serious burn out with her "super mom" activities That thought crossed my mind too.

think the husbad had alot to do with it.

Looks like this mom hit a serious burn out with her "super mom" activities

As much as I go on about my kids I could never leave them...but a weekend away would be nice!