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To Indian parents with kids in US or English Curr schools - a slightly sensitive question

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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 26 April 2011 - 12:56
She is very friendly, very outgoing and loves other children. She doesnt have leadership qualities, she is happy to follow the herd. So no, she would be susceptible to feeling alienated. American school systems are quite expensive. My husband is hesitating on this aspect, but would do as I wish, so if I insist on EC and then things dont go well, then its really just upto me. I so want to make the right choice... Would I even know if she is facing an issue? would she be able to tell me that she's left out etc? She is not yet 4. to be honest, at that age, with kids her age, they don't make any differences beyond pure observation... it's later on when they get fed their own parent's points of view and start judging people randomly that it could get tricky, but then again, the teachers should also be quick to nip anything like this in the bud. I really don't think that racism is that much of an issue in predominantly native-English speaking schools. I'd like to think it wasn't. I think for lots and lots of British people of my generation, who grew up in multi-cultural societies in the UK, there simply isn't an issue. My daughter has friends of all origins at her EC nursery (also part of a school) and for me, I neither encourage or discourage it - for me, they're just her friends... nothing else really matters.
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Latest post on 26 April 2011 - 12:54
In DD's class, there are 2 asian boys. In the beginning of the first term, one of the boy had a birthday party. Almost all his classmates and at least one of their parents turned up at the party (swimming pool, playarea and hall). The boy's parents only made an appearance at the hall. The whole time we were at the pool and play area, only their teenage daughter was there. The father talked a bit to the other fathers but the mother only talked to the other asian boy's mother. She wear hijab and I have no idea whether or not she speaks english. Anyway, over the past 2 terms, there are a few more birthdays. All the kids were invited but both of the asian boys have not attended any of the birthday parties. All the kids tend to form their own little group. DD is not in any of the group and definitely not because she is discriminated. The two asian boys....they do play together a lot. Looking at the older kids in the school....it gives me so much joy everyday to see all the children regardless of their nationalities, race and colour play and goof around together before the bell ring. Again, some have their own little group but from what I see, a lot of the time, the close bond between some of the kids is due to their family hang out together outside school hours and have nothing to do with nationalities, race or colour. Personally, I feel that if you can afford it, you should give your kid the best opportunity to learn and explore the new world. There is no point in coddling her in a "safer" environment. Schools are for you to learn....good and bad. Btw, kid that age do talk about things that happening at school ;) <em>edited by blimey on 26/04/2011</em>
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 26 April 2011 - 12:22
could be because that school is largely a British community school that was opened for children of British expats in Dubai... it has been open for admissions for all nationalities for quite some time but the majority have at least one parent with a British passport... That's interesting, and disappointing that you should [have to'> say that. Modern Britain counts lots of British people of Indian and Asian origins who are 2nd and 3rd generation British - born and bred British, in fact. <em>edited by Hello.Again.Kitty on 26/04/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 26 April 2011 - 12:21
I think regardless of the school's curriculum, whether a child might be discriminated (or better use the word alienated) would probably depend on two things. First of course would be the make up of the student body. If 99% of the students are from the same country/background, then the lonely outsider might be sidelined quite easily. The second thing would be the individual child's personality. If the child is naturally friendly, funny, and also firm with leadership capabilities, he or she can easily fit into any kind of environment and be happy. That being said, second to a mostly multinational school, it is probably easier for a child to fit into a mostly American system than a mostly British system.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 26 April 2011 - 12:09
my Asian (Indian) friend who studied in DESS (dubai english speaking school) went through some mild form of racism from other students (not teachers, mind you) because she was Indian and not British as the majority of children there were... could be because that school is largely a British community school that was opened for children of British expats in Dubai... it has been open for admissions for all nationalities for quite some time but the majority have at least one parent with a British passport... i don't think you should face this problem in 'international' schools as there is a healthy mix of nationalities... don't stress on it too much... most kids enter some 'group' of sorts once they enter school... and the discrimination that exists is not always linked to race... hehehehhe... take it from someone who was considered a nerd in school just because she wore glasses! :)
 
 

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