My DD was quite a late talker. By age 22 months her peers were making themselves heard while she barely said anything. At her checkup with the paediatrician, I asked him whether I should be concerned. This is the advice he gave me: "If by age 2 she doesn't say at least 7 words clearly, then come back and see me." subject closed. Actually I told him that she already knew a few words which she used, and she even knew 3 letter questions which she used. He said not to worry and she will start talking soon enough.
Now she is 31 months and she expresses herself much better, with a vast vocabulary that gets better everyday. She repeats words, says words more clearly, and tries to put words together to form commands, sentences and questions. Back then, when all the kids called their mothers mommy, mine would never call me and it was a bit heartwrenching. Now she will not stop...Mommy mommy mommy! I have to answer with "Yes Darling" (a simple "Yes" won't do) for her to tell me what she wants to say...
Don't listen to people with their stories of how they child spoke full sentences at 18 months! Every child is different. I once heard that late talkers are actually very smart, geniuses even:)
I've found my second (DS) was faster than my first (DD) in the physical things like crawling, walking, destroying, but behind in the vocabulary and speaking side of things. I don't know if that's male/female, first/second or just mine's personality, but my paed for DD said they 'should' be speaking in two word sentences at the 2 year mark. Worth getting a check I think, but I wouldn't worry.
My DS is 3 1/2. We had his ears tested at birth since my DH is almost deaf. All was okay but like many of you he said very little at 26 months. Actually he said very little just before his 3rd birthday. I made a list of words he did say clearly because we were considering speech therapy. Then as soon as his birthday came last December he started talking more. Now we can't get the kid to shut up. There are still some things that aren't understandable but we tell him to slow down. DH still has trouble understanding him but mainly because he can't always hear him.
But it will definitely come. I just find my little guy is just stubborn and does things when he's ready... he's always been that way.
Hi can anybody give me any advise as what I should do. I have a 26 month old son who does not talk. He can say a few words eg mumma, dadda and a couple of other words if we coax him along. He is at times very angry and frustrated. He was a very angry baby from 3 weeks of age. Should I be worried about the lack of speech? and should I be seeing some sort of specialist?
Your views would be most appreciated.
my first born had a lot of medical issues, and at 2 was only really saying a few words, they did a check and they were happy that was ok, they have to only say mummy/daddy etc and a few words at that age, even when he was having other issues to deal with.
it is a regular album, but since he is already pulling it to pieces, I would reccommed that a better way would be to glue the photos (or just colour printouts) on top of the pages of a cheap thick card paged baby book to make it more durable.
ok thanks!! :D
it is a regular album, but since he is already pulling it to pieces, I would reccommed that a better way would be to glue the photos (or just colour printouts) on top of the pages of a cheap thick card paged baby book to make it more durable.
One more tip, its not one of the "official" ones but I am currently teaching my 1 year old to talk and have made him a little photo album with photos of our family, extended family and also everyday objects (ball, flower, teddy, car etc), I find it really useful and he pulls it out all the time and goes through all his words even by himself, worth a try?
Make sure you include words he already knows to help build confidence.
Sorry to jump in.. DD is turning one soon so this is a very good tip, thank you.
may i ask is it pasted onto like a scrapbook manner? or a photo album itself?
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One more tip, its not one of the "official" ones but I am currently teaching my 1 year old to talk and have made him a little photo album with photos of our family, extended family and also everyday objects (ball, flower, teddy, car etc), I find it really useful and he pulls it out all the time and goes through all his words even by himself, worth a try?
Make sure you include words he already knows to help build confidence.
Oh you are not the only one!! MY DD is 26 months as well, and her only sentence is " what is this", she says few other words but that is about it..I have been taking her to a speech therapist for a couple of months now, and it has been going well so far..I really advise you to not wait and see a speech therapist cause it can also take a while to get an appointment. The speech therapist told me that it is a very good sign if children listen to instructions, and use gestures by pointing at things when they want something, then language will come..She also told me that being bilingual should not delay speech ( our DD is bilingual). Also, if you want your child not to get confused with two languages is to say the same sentence right after the other..Good luck and do not worry..
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Fantastic advice!!!
Well... I'll come back to you in 6 months and tell you if my son's mastered the art of rhetoric!
Seriously though, I'm glad this thread came up because I am quite concerned about it all (what, HK concerned?!). It's just compounding to the second child guilt really... is it just him or is it because I didn't read to him every night/ do baby signing/ was too busy to just stare and coo at him all day long?
He is quite chatty, but just not much that anyone else can understand... and none of the 2 or 3 word sentence everyone else's children seem to be coming out with.
The speech therapist did say that the words he says (I listed them) are *interesting* in that he seems to have bypassed most of the first sounds that are easily imitated like m, b, d, p, t, h (he doesn't say p, t and h at all) but has managed a good few of the back of through sounds like gl, cl, k... so his word for "please" is something like "gleeh".
I really hope it all falls into place soon.
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Great advice from HAK and the other posters, I would add, yes get it checked out and speech therapy wouldn't hurt at all, but he will most likely get there on his own without it. I have 2 nephews, days apart (from 2 SIL) and one could speak in extremely clear 3-4 word sentences by 15 months, the other closer to 2 1/2 and much harder to decipher. The one who spoke later did have reflux and persistent ear infections.
When you say "angry" from 3 weeks, do you mean cried a lot/hard to settle? There has been a link found between "colic" and some learning/language/developmental disorders (although out of my 2 nephews the one who spoke early was the one who had "colic") so it wouldn't hurt to consider some sort of "help" at this stage, but not to worry overly.
Try and narrate everything he does to him "now you are eating the APPLE", and even sound the word out very slowly "AHH PPPLE", try and put the noun at the end of the sentence as they pay most attention to the last word.
My son - yup 26 months old, is exactly the same. We have a 2 year check here in the UK and it was flagged up. They asked several times about his hearing, but he has no problems with that, so he was referred to a speech therapist. She was very lovely and said that he was still very young. The Book says that a 2 year old should have 50 recognisable words, but obviously all children are different. My son probably does have about 50 words, but only a handful are recognisable by other people.
Apparently, once they get to the 50 word mark, it snowballs and they start forming mini sentences.
Anyhow, top tips she gave me are:
- read to him
- when he says something and you recognise what it is, acknowledge it - so if he says "[i'>kah!"[/i'>, you say "[i'>Yes, it's a car!"[/i'>... *don't* say "[i'>no, say "car"!"[/i'>
- when he says something, build on it (at his pace), so again, if he says "Kah!", you say "yes, a yellow car!"
- when he's interested in something, talk to him about it. Don't pick up a random toy and start a lesson on it, but instead work with what he's already engaged in doing.
- turn the telly and background radio off so that you and he can concentrate on having interactive conversations
I'm also teaching DS some basic signs (have a look on You Tube for Something Special/ Mr Tumble) so that he can at least communicate whilst developing his speech. This should help with the frustration aspect, as well as being able to discipline when necessary. I had an incident a few weeks back where he pushed another child away (and he's quite strong) because she was trying to snatch his toy. With DD, I would have gone through (and did) the whole "no, you don't push, you say "please leave me alone"", but of course I can't do that if he's not actually able to talk... but I still need to give him a non-physical solution!
Fantastic advice!!!
My son - yup 26 months old, is exactly the same. We have a 2 year check here in the UK and it was flagged up. They asked several times about his hearing, but he has no problems with that, so he was referred to a speech therapist. She was very lovely and said that he was still very young. The Book says that a 2 year old should have 50 recognisable words, but obviously all children are different. My son probably does have about 50 words, but only a handful are recognisable by other people.
Apparently, once they get to the 50 word mark, it snowballs and they start forming mini sentences.
Anyhow, top tips she gave me are:
- read to him
- when he says something and you recognise what it is, acknowledge it - so if he says "[i'>kah!"[/i'>, you say "[i'>Yes, it's a car!"[/i'>... *don't* say "[i'>no, say "car"!"[/i'>
- when he says something, build on it (at his pace), so again, if he says "Kah!", you say "yes, a yellow car!"
- when he's interested in something, talk to him about it. Don't pick up a random toy and start a lesson on it, but instead work with what he's already engaged in doing.
- turn the telly and background radio off so that you and he can concentrate on having interactive conversations
I'm also teaching DS some basic signs (have a look on You Tube for Something Special/ Mr Tumble) so that he can at least communicate whilst developing his speech. This should help with the frustration aspect, as well as being able to discipline when necessary. I had an incident a few weeks back where he pushed another child away (and he's quite strong) because she was trying to snatch his toy. With DD, I would have gone through (and did) the whole "no, you don't push, you say "please leave me alone"", but of course I can't do that if he's not actually able to talk... but I still need to give him a non-physical solution!
HI nbm,
I work in the field. If he is saying some words, are they clear? Does he have any risk factors in his history from pg to birth and first few months of life? Has he met physical milestones? (don't need to answer on here, but do consider).
Best thing is to guide you to a reputable association such as ASHA so you can see milestones for speech and language. Check out the links from birth to two years and see where he is situated. http://www.asha.org/public/speech/development/chart.htm
I don't in any way want to worry you as I have a nephew who was exactly as you described your son, angry/ frustrated and was very late to talk, but he talked well when he finally did. He might have had a bit of speech therapy just to get him going but truly he is fine now, not behind his peers at all and no longer agitated.
If you are concerned, find a good Audiologist and clear the hearing once and for all. Or find an ENT who can guide you to a good Audiologist. Don't let anyone else do a hearing test for you as they are not trained to do so.
All the best :)
Hi nbm
So I literally got back from the doctors with my 26 month old because I'm concerned about exactly the same thing!!!
My sons the same he says a few words but not much and I wasn't sure what to do. After researching it I decided to go see an ENT specialist to check out his ears and hearing. He's had loads of ear infections over the last few months and I didn't whether it's all connected. They checked his ears and xray, which all are fine, now gonna have the hearing test done if it's not that then the next step is speech therapy. He understands everything! He's really switched on but just kinda speaks hs own language and points. My older son is four now and at this age was saying a lot more. Don't worry-which I know is easier said then done! Some kids speak later and it's nothing to be concerned about but some need extra help which is why I'm doing what I can.
My son has also been very slow and reluctant to speak and, like you, I have been concerned about him. I can imagine not being able to express his needs and desires can be very frustrating for him... I know that is the case for DS. Many people have told me not to worry and that it will come - and I have to be honest and say that DS has made great improvements in the last month. (He is closer to 3yrs) However, if you are concerned, I think that you should chat to your son's doctor about it. He/she can give you the best advice which is specific to your son. Mine, however, told me not to worry but I did so agreed with the doc that if at 30 months there wasn't a great improvement we'd get his ears tested. HTH
Boys in general take longer to talk than girls. I wouldnt be too worried. If he was 3 years old and had that speech level then I would be worried but its okay at 2 to have limited speech capability.