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Frustrated no end!!

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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 09 May 2011 - 08:31

My girls are over 2 and a half now and they're still preferring milk over eating!! I keep offering them food and they keep asking for milk instead. I just dont know what to do anymore, i'm getting really frustrated with them. What to do?

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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 10 May 2011 - 01:47
Thanks ladies for your kind advice. I definately need to take the power back!! Will try to be more strict. The 3 of us all have the flu at the moment, so I think I'll chose to start the battle when I've got some energy back!! Thanks again.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 09 May 2011 - 11:16
Exile - sorry to sound harsh, but - they get the foods that [i'>you[/i'> give them. If you don't give them milk instead of solid food, they won't get it. This isn't a failure on your part though - it's a case of wanting to do the best for our children but not seeing the wood for the trees. My DD is very similar - she loves milk and would happily drink and drink until she has no room left for a proper meal, but it's one of those times when I have to be firm and tell her that she can't have any milk for 30 minutes before a meal and she can only have 1 cup with her food.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 09 May 2011 - 09:27
HI there, the following is a link to a healty eating pyramid for 3 year olds. I've only posted it so you can see how much milk a wee one of that age needs and just what else they also need. You just need the confidence to say 'no' - thats all, and the pyramid should help you with that. http://kidshealth.org/parent/nutrition_center/healthy_eating/toddler_food.html#
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 09 May 2011 - 09:21
Agree with Jane and Claire. I would start their day with milk (and maybe night time too - just make sure you set the limits and stick to them) and after that it's water. As long as you stand firm they will learn that if they're thirsty they'll get water, if they're hungry they'll get food.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 09 May 2011 - 09:13
I completely agree with Jane. It's a power thing - you are going round and round in circles trying to offer them all these delicious scrummy things and they probably find it highly amusing to call out - milk, milk, milk and....when you give in - they've won that game! Don't worry yourself as Jane says. I would absolutely knock the milk on the head - after a couple of days they will realise who is now in charge! Think about it - they don't ask for milk milk milk all day at the nursery - they are eating lots of different foods so it's a power thing at home......and you now need to win! Send them in more food to nursery so you know that 3 days of the week they are stocking up. If they don't eat much when they are at home - I would let it be....you know they eat loads at nursery because they know they can't keep asking for milk! Both of mine are older but my boy still starts the day with a glass of milk and ends the day with a cup of milk before bed time. Don't beat yourself up about it - it's just part of their growing up and needing to find their new boundaries - they are flexing their muscles and seeing how far they can push you - don't give in!!!! good luck!
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 09 May 2011 - 09:03
yeah my girls do the same, and usually that's enough but sometimes, like today all they want is milk, everything i'm offering them is being turned down, "Milk, milk", they say I was picking them up fromnursery yesterday, they go 3 mornings a week, and the director of the nursery pulled me aside and asked if I can send more food with them as they're hungry. I told her its more than they have at home, so I didn't realise. She kind of told me off saying no wonder they dont eat at home, you give them too much milk. I just dont know what to do to get them to eat more. today i've been trying to offer them food instead of milk and they're just constantly turning it down and demanding milk!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 09 May 2011 - 09:02
You're not a failure! Sometimes we get into the most ridiculous habits with our children and it just takes a little while and a lot of perseverence to break them. One of our most primitive instincts is to feed and nurture our children and so it's not surprising that this issue is upsetting for you. Stop the milk. Or give only a cup in the morning and one at night. Make it a rule and stick to it. Your girls will soon realise that it's non negotiable. Keep offering healthy foods for every meal. They might be most agreeable to finger foods in the first instance to give them some control and power which at their age seems paramount. Don't worry about food consumption per meal or even per day. Look at what they are eating over the course of a week or a fortnight. Then you'll stop getting upset that on one particular day all they've eaten is two spoons of porridge and a tomato. If you look at it over a longer period, you'll probably see a more balanced/substantial intake of food. Don't make it a power thing. Be perfectly prepared to let them down from the table after a set period with an empty tummy without you getting upset and shouting/bribing or whatever. If you don't allow them to upset you by not eating, they have lost a valuable tool for getting one over on mummy. It'll confuse the heck out of them and may even be enough to break the duck. Most importantly, stop the milk!!!! Children who are offered regular, healthy meals don't tend to suffer from malnutrition. They will regulate their intake according to their needs once they realise that mummy means business! Good luck. <em>edited by janesul on 09/05/2011</em>
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 09 May 2011 - 09:01
sounds like a good idea. it just seems pathetic that we are talking about almost 3 year olds! i feel like a total failure :-( I'm sure you're a great mother, all kids are different and we should not feel we have failed because they have not reached the stage given in the baby books, kids never go by the books becasue they have never read them!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 09 May 2011 - 08:59
my almost 3 yr old still has a bottle in the morning, a bottle if he goes for a nap and a bottle at bed time so don't sweat it!
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 09 May 2011 - 08:55
sounds like a good idea. it just seems pathetic that we are talking about almost 3 year olds! i feel like a total failure :-(
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 09 May 2011 - 08:40
Maybe try intoducing foods gradually into the milk, like in smoothies, put pureed things in at first and then increase the size of the bits offood until they get using to eating rather than drinking everything.
 
 

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