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I am tired of this threenager's tantrums!

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Latest post on 02 November 2011 - 16:54

He is screaming his lungs out right now, for the past 15 mins now (for no real reason, it was as simple as he wants chips and I asked him to wait for a few minutes until DS2 who was on my lap bfing finished). It's getting louder and he's been saying "Mama, I dont love you" ....

Argh! Does it get better? Ignoring is the best thing, right? I think he is breaking me :( ....

ETA: No I wont feed him chips :D ... omlette it is! Before anyone says how bad they are ;)
<em>edited by hiccup on 02/11/2011</em>

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Latest post on 03 November 2011 - 10:55
Yep, Greenish, this also works altho you have to be ready for lots of stares if you do it in public. Lots of hugging and "I love you"s also has a calming effect I find. Oh, I'm happy to do it in public! Lol...the children are more embarrassed than I am. ;) I'm also a massive fan of the 'huggy' variation. The thing is, it's sometimes VERY hard for either parent or child to actually *feel* that love at the time. Throwing the anti-tantrum and the giggles that follow gets rid of some energy and diffuses the situation. I pick and choose my method depending on my mood and the reason for the tantrum. Assuming of course there was actually a reason. :D
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Latest post on 03 November 2011 - 10:00
Yep, Greenish, this also works altho you have to be ready for lots of stares if you do it in public. Lots of hugging and "I love you"s also has a calming effect I find.
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Latest post on 03 November 2011 - 09:20
I found the terrible threes far worse than the terrible twos. It's the same with a wiser, more knowledgeable twist! Nightmare! We had and will be implementing again soon for DC3, a naughty towel. It works on the same priniciple as the step/corner but it's portable so you can whip it out in C4 if necessary! Oh my....LOVE IT! I am SO (hate that use of the word by the way ;) ) going to go a buy Miss 3 a "naughty towel". Of course I'll give it some far more PC name when I explain it to her. My current method of dealing with a tantrum from any of them (6, 4 & 2 yrs) is to through a tantrum straight back at them...then stand back and have a good laugh with them as we all realise how silly, and fruitless, the foot-stomping-and-screaming is. :D
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Latest post on 03 November 2011 - 09:06
Yep salsB ... the little brat is 3! These three year olds have a mind of their own! Finally he did settle down ... but only after a hug and a kiss! Oh well, whatever it takes to shut him up! LOL! Though I did tell him why his behaviour was not acceptable and he had to lose 10 mins of his wii time. Bad mommy :D My Grandson is 3, I could honestly throttle him!!!!!!!!!!!! lol, I can totally understand!! I have had so many of those days! ;)
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Latest post on 03 November 2011 - 09:05
I found the terrible threes far worse than the terrible twos. It's the same with a wiser, more knowledgeable twist! Nightmare! We had and will be implementing again soon for DC3, a naughty towel. It works on the same priniciple as the step/corner but it's portable so you can whip it out in C4 if necessary! A naughty towel??? LOL Innovative and brilliant :D
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Latest post on 03 November 2011 - 09:00
Yep salsB ... the little brat is 3! These three year olds have a mind of their own! Finally he did settle down ... but only after a hug and a kiss! Oh well, whatever it takes to shut him up! LOL! Though I did tell him why his behaviour was not acceptable and he had to lose 10 mins of his wii time. Bad mommy :D My Grandson is 3, I could honestly throttle him!!!!!!!!!!!! lol,
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Latest post on 03 November 2011 - 08:55
I found the terrible threes far worse than the terrible twos. It's the same with a wiser, more knowledgeable twist! Nightmare! We had and will be implementing again soon for DC3, a naughty towel. It works on the same priniciple as the step/corner but it's portable so you can whip it out in C4 if necessary!
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Latest post on 02 November 2011 - 22:55
I really really hope! By the time he is 4, number 2 would be in his terrible two's! OMG! What have I got myself into?!!!!!!!
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Latest post on 02 November 2011 - 22:51
Trust me, it gets better after 4...(does it??[url=http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php'>[img'>http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-confused009.gif[/img'>[/url'>) [url=http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php'>[img'>http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-happy105.gif[/img'>[/url'>[url=http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php'>[img'>http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-happy093.gif[/img'>[/url'>[url=http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php'>[img'>http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-happy055.gif[/img'>[/url'>
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Latest post on 02 November 2011 - 22:40
OMYGAWD I forgot about the terrible three's drama....yep, I had two of those. Twice the trouble?! I can't imagine! LOL they grow up so fast......[url=http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php'>[img'>http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-happy095.gif[/img'>[/url'>
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Latest post on 02 November 2011 - 22:31
OMYGAWD I forgot about the terrible three's drama....yep, I had two of those. Twice the trouble?! I can't imagine!
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Latest post on 02 November 2011 - 22:30
I have one of those with a 5 year older sibling. I have "I don't love you anymore" type comments quite regularly. I have stomping off in sulks and blue lips from screaming so hard oxygen is lacking. Seriously, maybe I am weird but NORMALLY I just find it quite funny and do normally try to ignore. There are some occasions, however, when my stress levels reach the max - normally out and about. Not much advice except to try as much as you can to laugh it off. Normally start to be really silly, blowing raspberries, tickling, running around like a nutter to try and distract. I also always answer back that I love him evn if he doesn't love me, blahblah. Good luck and deep breaths. I love this idea! I think I am going to give that a try. Hate to give him the ignore and silent treatment!
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Latest post on 02 November 2011 - 22:29
Yep salsB ... the little brat is 3! These three year olds have a mind of their own! Finally he did settle down ... but only after a hug and a kiss! Oh well, whatever it takes to shut him up! LOL! Though I did tell him why his behaviour was not acceptable and he had to lose 10 mins of his wii time. Bad mommy :D
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Latest post on 02 November 2011 - 21:18
OMYGAWD I forgot about the terrible three's drama....yep, I had two of those. it does get better at around age 4ish. Best thing to do is have a naughty corner/chair/step to calm down. Go down to his/her level and explain why he/she is there, 1 minute per year of age. Then he/she needs to apologize, hug.....aaah.... life is back to normal. Be consistent and you should see rewards on the second week :)
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Latest post on 02 November 2011 - 21:10
I have one of those with a 5 year older sibling. I have "I don't love you anymore" type comments quite regularly. I have stomping off in sulks and blue lips from screaming so hard oxygen is lacking. Seriously, maybe I am weird but NORMALLY I just find it quite funny and do normally try to ignore. There are some occasions, however, when my stress levels reach the max - normally out and about. Not much advice except to try as much as you can to laugh it off. Normally start to be really silly, blowing raspberries, tickling, running around like a nutter to try and distract. I also always answer back that I love him evn if he doesn't love me, blahblah. Good luck and deep breaths.
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Latest post on 02 November 2011 - 19:47
Can I ask what a threenager's age is!!!! or are you saying he is 3, bless
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Latest post on 02 November 2011 - 19:38
I'm sorry, this will be of no use to you whatsoever but 'threenager'?! That's just brilliant!
 
 

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