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To co-sleep or not?

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EW GURU
Latest post on 21 March 2012 - 23:34

So DD used to sleep in her crib, in her room till about a month back. Since the last month though she's been sleeping with us. What started it was when she fell ill due to a bacterial infection, and the fever just wouldn't go away at nights, scaring me a lot. Took a week to heal but after that we had family visiting, and then we went travelling, so she slept with us again. Well, basically we'd put her to sleep in her crib and then when we were ready to sleep we'd bring her to our bed. Now we're back in Dubai and weaning her back to her crib, but before I go through the not-so-easy process, I've been asking myself: do we really have to?

She sleeps well with us, doesn't wake and doesn't need to be put to sleep. And if DH and I can have "our time" where we get to spend some time together and then bring her to bed just as we are about to sleep, it's an arrangement that works for us. And to be honest, I like snuggling up to her. BUT the only thing that's keeping me from taking this decision is when does it end? I mean, when would she be ready to sleep back in her room? And how hard would it be? Especially if we are planning another child in a couple of years (well, [b]I'm[/b] planning anyway :o) and I don't think I can handle having 2 in bed with me.

Besides that, though I'm from a culture where co-sleeping is the norm rather than the exception, I've never been a fan till we tried it. Even now, I don't know what we really should do.

Please tell me someone else has had to make this decision too :o

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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 31 March 2012 - 01:09
I do. My 20 month old sleeps next to us but may wiggle closer to me at night. I have started putting him to sleep for daytime naps in his toddler bed in his older brother's room, it has worked well so far, and I plan to eventually move him ther for night-time sleep. I moved the older one when he was 15 months old.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 26 March 2012 - 14:43
Stovetop, we did something quite similar to kiwispiers and he moved into sleeping full time in his own cot just after he was 10 months. I would completely darken up his room, have his lullaby playing and hold him until he fell asleep. We shortened the 'holding him' time gradually and started bringing down to the cot when he seemed drowsy enough until he started asking to go down into the cot himself. Oh and we also got him a sleeping bag and a sleeping 'buddy' - a giant stuffed toy that is very soft and he loves using as his pillow :) Transition period was about 2 weeks and there were no dramas :) <em>edited by twin_butterfly on 26/03/2012</em>
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EW GURU
Latest post on 25 March 2012 - 13:10
Green-ish, would you mind telling me how you transitioned your 2 year old? Any tips will be appreciated :)
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EW GURU
Latest post on 25 March 2012 - 13:09
Thanks everyone. We are going with the flow for now, and we'll look at transitions when the time comes, I guess. I just wonder if the transition is going to be harder when she's a little bigger and a lot more adamant?
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 24 March 2012 - 10:06
I did what you are doing, took my baby into my bed but started the night in his crib. We did this between 4 months and around 10 months simply because he slept better and therefore so did I. Eventually he started getting playful in the night and so I stopped bringing him in, we had absolutely no problems with the transition back and I feel really grateful that I was able to have those special co-sleeping moments. If its working, then its not a problem, most people who are really down on co-sleeping have never really tried it, and most people who are really down on babies in their own cribs/rooms have babies who didn't like to sleep alone so really, don't listen to other people, just do what works for you and your baby.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 22 March 2012 - 12:27
I'm with sydneygal...you do what feels right for you. Co-sleeping doesn't have to mean forever. It's just about a transition back when the time comes. If it takes longer than you would like to get the little one out of your bed, you can always transition to a mattress on the floor, then eventually back to her own bed etc All of ours have co-slept for various periods of time and for various reasons. They are still only little (6, 4, 2) and all sleep all night in their own beds unless something is 'wrong' like illness, too hot or cold, nightmares etc If having her sleep with you is working, keep doing it. I'm like you...I love having them near for a snuggle at night. :D They are only little for such a short time.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 22 March 2012 - 08:10
I'm a firm believer in doing what is right for you and your bub. Co-sleeping didn't work for us....it made my DS sleep worse and he thought it was playtime! I also have a friend back home who cannot for the life of her wean her 4 year old back into his own bed and it has created issues between her and her hubby. But then I know people who swear by it (and who still co-sleep with older kids) and others who have no issues getting their kids back in their own bed when the time is right for them. Do what feels right for you.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 22 March 2012 - 06:21
Studies show that children are happier and have higher self-esteem if they co-sleep. And the fact is, it ends when you are ready for it to end. My first son co-slept for a much longer period, but my three year old was put in her own bed around 2 years - when her sister arrived. I personally think co-sleeping is more natural than putting a young baby in a room all by herself.
 
 

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