Hello again Kitty, You are absolutely right in saying that the child themselves have to capable of the whole physical act from knowing the feeling of needing to go and how to tell you and to be able to wait until they get to the toilet/potty, definitely nothing to do with your parenting skills or lack of. Children will learn when they are ready,in their own time and all are different.
CarGear, do not get yourself involved with comparing with other peoples children, you will only get stressed if you find that other children have been toilet trained quicker or at a younger age and it is totally irrelevant. Relax about the whole thing and the good thing about being here is your child can run about the house and garden without a nappy and there is no worry about accidents on carpets. :)
A word to the wise - any book that claims they can toilet train in a week actually takes the definition of potty trained as "knows what a potty is, knows what to do on it and does so more than 50% of the time", so congratulations, you have a potty trained child! ;)
Back in the real world though, we all expect potty-trained as having no accidents at all and kiddo being able to tell you well in advance that s/he needs to go... and then preferably being able to do the whole business him/ herself.
How long [i'>that [/i'>takes will depend on your child... entirely on your child.
I have friends who had no intention of starting and yet their son turned round one day and informed them he wasn't going to wear nappies any more and had just gone to the loo by himself... they had a grand total of 1 accident!
My DD, on the other hand, took 16 months, although "by the book" she would have been trained within the first week too! lol. 16 long months and all the tricks I could think of. None of them were effective really (the best was trying to bribe her with chocolate AND reverse psychology - "one chocolate for you if you do on the loo, but 2 for mummy if you have an accident" - cue accident and a broad smile from DD saying "2 chocolates for you Mummy!"). In the end, I don't know what it was, but suspect that she needed to get to a certain age and physical development to be able to control it all. She knew the theory, but just needed to put it in practice!
Don't stress, don't compare. It's not a reflection of your parenting, nor of your child's intelligence. They all get there in the end.
Some toddlers will be too scared to sit on a full size toilet seat at their little bots can slip in to them. Using potties and/or child seat attachments for toilet seat are fine and make the transition to a full size seat easier. :)
If you've only been training him for a week I think you're going to have be a little
more patient, I'm afraid it doesn't happen overnight and if he's anything like my DS
was with doing No 2s then I'd ditch the potty and go straight on the toilet, I really
don't see the point in potty's unless you're going to carry them everywhere. Try not to get
to stressed out with it as he will pick up on it and it will only make it worse, good luck :)
The more you make a big fuss about it the bigger an ordeal it is going to become for your DS. A week is not long to have been toilet training your toddler and you cannot expect it all to be plain sailing. Praise him when he does get it right and if he has an accident then try to play it down.
For going out put him in some of the pull up nappy type pants, this means he will still feel he is in pants rather than a nappy and if he has any accidents it will be contained. It is always a good idea to use these initially anyway as when a child is being newly toilet trained it can be difficult to get them to a toilet on time when out. :)