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So what are your thoughts on moving LO to own room?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 April 2013 - 16:29

LO is 4.5 months and has slept in a cot beside our bed to now. She is close to getting too big for it now (boooo hoooo) and am wondering about moving her to her own room.

Im not sure Im a fan of the idea. I like to have her close so I can keep an eye on her, soothe her as soon as she starts to wake etc. She is not a good sleeper, is a reflux baby so has small feeds often and is therefore not sleeping any more than 4 hours (on a good night) at a time. From about 4am, she starts to wake and will wake every 30 - 40 mins after that til she gets up for the day about 6am - 6.30am.

My question - someone mentioned we could be disturbing her through the night? Im not sure but wanted to throw it out there. My DH snores a lot..... But I think when she wakes shes either waking as she is hungry or has wind... one or the other....

Has anyone moved their LO to their own room and LO slept better? I hate the thoughts of her being in there on her own :(

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 April 2013 - 12:40
I moved our LO into his own room at 6 weeks. He is SO noisy when sleeping, as is hubby so this was the way forward. I got the Angelcare Monitor which monitors the baby's breathing and movement, and we have not looked back since! we all sleep so much better. LO is now sleeping through from his last feed until 7am
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 18 April 2013 - 09:58
My husband and i were considering the same thing....our little girl sleeps really well and we were convinced that hubby's snoring and us tossing and turning kept waking her up. We have a guest room but we were not comfortable moving her in there as we have too many guests and our maids room has been converted in to a salon. So we got our hands on one of those video/sound Avent cameras and we moved ourselves to the guest room when she was 7 months...and every since shes been perfect she sleeps sound from 8-6.30/7. If she makes noise the monitor will notify me of what shes up too. I can also play music to her by a click of a button :)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 April 2013 - 23:06
Before you start feeling guilty about considering moving your LO, consider eliminating the problem! I had the same issue. My spare bedroom was occupied by my mil who was visiting so we had no choice but to keep him in our room with my husbands snoring waking all of us at least a few times a night. We've now discovered Breathe Right strips, available at most pharmacies I believe. They have Been a miracle for us as my husband suffers from sleep apnea and very loud snoring. If the strips work you may not need to move your child to another room yet. Good luck.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 April 2013 - 15:34
I would say- go with your gut and do what you think is best for your LO and yourself. My son slept in his own crib in his own room at 3 months for the 1st 1/2 of the night (8 to 2 am). For the second half- he would feed and I would be too lazy to put him back in his crib ,so I let him sleep with us. By 9 months he was in his crib in his room- for the entire night_ even after his night feeds. The reason why I moved him so early, was because my son even though he was a baby- was a BIG boy, so is my husband so room for all of us was tough. I also had a very painful c-section that would hurt up until a year after having my son. When LO would be in bed with us, he'd move around and sometimes kick my c-section scar and the pain would just make me paranoid that something has happened. But in the end- this method worked for us. I feel my son slept better and longer on his own,and could move around as he pleased. And I too got some sleep and wasn't such a grumpy zombie of a mother. Now that i'm pregnant with #2, let's see what happens.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 15 April 2013 - 09:12
I agree, whatever you feel comfortable with. Don't be swayed by 'peer pressure' or by what 'more' mums are doing. DH and I were on the same page with this and DD went into her own room after the first 5 nights in ours. What does your instinct tell you? What does your DH think? Those are the 2 more important questions here, in my opinion. All the best ;)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 April 2013 - 09:06
i moved my DS in to his own room at 5 weeks- he was very colicky and a really light sleeper so he would wake every time my husband or i turned over.. we have the angelcare monitor with the sensor pad which gave us so much peace of mind.. the moment we moved him into his own room he became a fantastic sleeper. its also whatever you feel comfortable with.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 15 April 2013 - 08:56
DS was in his room from the minute we got back from the hospital. He was never in the room with us.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 14 April 2013 - 22:25
My 9 month old is still sharing a room with us and will be until we get back from Summer holidays (shell be 14 months by then). I like having her close when she's upset at night.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 13 April 2013 - 20:46
My son is 3 months and there is no way I'd put him all alone in his own room anytime soon. Never mind the fact that we're in a one bedroom apartment, as long as he still wakes up at night I'm not going to put both him and myself through the discomfort and hassle of being in separate rooms. I like having him close and I hope he does too, it gives me a lot of comfort.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 13 April 2013 - 02:03
MrsCB you are right, better keep baby in the room for at least 6 months also for the safety reasons. When you are sleeping beside you can hear the breath, also when baby wake up you are just beside.Sleeping in the other room you might not hear little movements, you will hear crying, but why to wait for crying while you can hold your LO before.The first year of life is very important and we should be close and respond for baby needs, to make him/her to feel secure.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 April 2013 - 20:02
Sounds like the same sleeping pattern of my little boy.... 4am to 6am is horrible and as soon as I am up its to the coffee jar..... I moved my little boy who is now 4 months into his room at an early age but I sleep in with him. He out grew the mosses basket quiet quickly and has been in his cot ever since. NHS in the UK say to sleep with the for 6 months before leaving them on their own, however I have friends who did this at 3 or 4 months as the baby was a noisy sleeper. I have tried twice in the past few weeks to move out back in with my hubby but I can't settle as every little noise he makes I worry what he is doing and the you should not leave them for 6 months sticks in my mind. As we are in an apartment the rooms are next to each other and I would be the same distance away but just in a other room. Maybe try for one night and see how it goes otherwise you only have 1 and a bit more months to go ?
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EW GURU
Latest post on 11 April 2013 - 18:27
1st one was a preemie and a surprise so room wasn't ready, stayed with us two weeks. Second had reflux so was with us off and on for the first month, third never was in our room
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 11 April 2013 - 18:05
"Current" advice is to keep your baby in the same room as you for at least 6 months. This is to lower the risk of SIDS. With my son, he slept in the Moses basket next to the bed for 3 months, then I moved him to his own room but I came too, we kept a single bed in there too. I stayed in there until he was around 9 months. I currently co sleep with my 6 month old, I just thinks its easier on you as well as them as you don't have to get up and walk around, which tends to wake you. My husband sleeps in the baby's room. So maybe think about moving your husband out, then you don't have to listen to him snore either! :) <em>edited by kiwispiers on 11/04/2013</em>
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 11 April 2013 - 17:43
I too, am a mum from the "dark ages" ie 70s / 80s and back then, you were encouraged to move baby into their own room asap to get them accustomed to being on their own. Not sure I would do it now but I did as I was advised by the HV at the time and moved both of my bubs around the age of 3 months. By that age, they had both outgrown the Moses basket and were on the move, threatening to overturn the thing which sat on a stand made by my FIL. They were both transferred into their cot and to be honest, had no problems. The nursery was back to back with our room and I heard every snuffle, even from the adjoining room!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 April 2013 - 16:54
I wouldn't move her from the room until she will ask for.But this is me as i love coosleping and can not imagine to spend night away from my LO. Answering your questions i don't think snoring will disturb her, babies can adjust to the noises.But if you really want just try for one night, and you will have an answer.:)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 April 2013 - 16:44
My babies are all grown up now, 20 and 13, so maybe I'm not the most appropriate person to give you advice. But I empathise with your not wanting to move your baby out into her own room just yet. 4.5 months is still very little and if she's not sleeping well, I don't think being in her own room is right now going to make this better. That means you'll end up being anxious about her being on her own, plus every time she wakes and cries you'll have to rush there...you'll be exhausted with it. I moved my kids to their own room when they were about a year old. But as I said earlier, mine may not be the most current advice.
 
 

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