How to catch a possible cheating husband? | ExpatWoman.com
 

How to catch a possible cheating husband?

23
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 09:49

I need help with this....I have a strong feeling that my dh is having an affair or on the way to have one. It is consuming me and distracts me from my little dd. I need to know one way or another but asking him is out. He will not admit, I know. It is also very difficult to find out as he has very strong protected devices to say so. His bb has password, his pc has password and he is argumenting this as beeing imposed by his company and to make things worse he works in Abu Dhabi...do you ladies have any idea how I can know? Any software, devices I can use and find in Dubai. I imagine this things are not easy here but maybe..TIA

1
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 06 May 2021 - 06:51
Hi, I have no idea if this is acceptable for you, but it may help you. Maybe you can use some monitoring apps to check his phone. I'm using one app named KidsGuard Pro to track my husband's phone and it helps a lot. This app has very powerful functions, can help me monitor lots of files on my husband's phone like Ins, Facebook, Whatsapp, messages, call, etc. Also, it's 100% undetectable. If you don't have a better choice, maybe you can try this way. https://www.clevguard.com/android-parental-control/
1
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 13 December 2018 - 20:25
If he is your spouse. I would just tell him you suspect something and would like to see his phone. If he won't open it then you have your answer. The only other way is to wipe his screen very clean, depending on what kind of lock, given it is a screen lock, you can let him use it once or twice on a Saturday, then when he takes a shower take some talk powder or powdered sugar and toss half a teaspoo on the screen and shake it around. Then dump it off. Usually it will adhere to the places he touches with his fingers so you can trace the pattern or numbers and then make a few attempts at the number sequence or the pattern lock. If it is a fingerprint lock, then you are out if luck. Police are even having difficulty getting into people's phones when they are an iPhone because it encrypted everything when it is locked. For sure I would go with the direct way. If you straight married you shouldn't hide anything from each other. Unfortunately, so many marry without discussing honesty and trust issues that may come up in the future of the relationship. Trust me I have been there. This time I spoke to my spouse about soon this prior to marriage and we agreed to unlock our phones if the other ever wanted to see it. Moreover, we promised to always be honest with each other. but if you find it hard to access it that why we have people like . Just follow this Cyber Guru Solutions on http://cybergurulink.strikingly.com or mail to [email protected] or text +1(717)638-8412
384
Posts
EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 17:11
Just wanted to tell the OP the reason that the reason you're getting those searches in the Google bar is because you're using the site "Google.ae", i.e, Google's UAE based site. Since the majority of expats in the country and the region come from India, it stands to reason that the most popular search terms are related to India.
730
Posts
EW GURU
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 14:11
I will try to apply ur sugestions on dh. Now I have a totally new power for this and hope will work for us. It is bit difficult with dd cause she is breastfed and didn't see exept my face till now ;) Well in that case...plan to make him a lovely romantic dinner at home one night. Tell him the dress code is formal. Get all dressed up as though you were going out for dinner. OH and dont cook...order a take out so you can both chill out and not have to worry about cooking or loads of mess/dishes in the kitchen and maximise your time together. Nice idea. I will do that this evening. Hope he doesnt get suspicious at my new behavior ;) Imagine! No need for him to be suspicious. He knows you've been feeling a bit neglected of late... So tell him you feel you may also have overlooked his needs as you have been so caught up with caring for your DD, and you're doing something about it.
23
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 13:25
If you don't have a problem with DD sometimes drinking from a bottle, you could occasionally express milk and have DH feed her? This can foster closeness and make him feel more involved (if he is that kind of guy) and free up some time for you... Also handy in the future if you want to get out and about! DD didnt want to take a bottle of EBM or formula ever. But this is another thred :) Thank you Ladies! A formaly messup woman saved from her own stupidity ON TIME!
23
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 13:22
I will try to apply ur sugestions on dh. Now I have a totally new power for this and hope will work for us. It is bit difficult with dd cause she is breastfed and didn't see exept my face till now ;) Well in that case...plan to make him a lovely romantic dinner at home one night. Tell him the dress code is formal. Get all dressed up as though you were going out for dinner. OH and dont cook...order a take out so you can both chill out and not have to worry about cooking or loads of mess/dishes in the kitchen and maximise your time together. Nice idea. I will do that this evening. Hope he doesnt get suspicious at my new behavior ;) Imagine!
357
Posts
EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 13:14
If you don't have a problem with DD sometimes drinking from a bottle, you could occasionally express milk and have DH feed her? This can foster closeness and make him feel more involved (if he is that kind of guy) and free up some time for you... Also handy in the future if you want to get out and about!
730
Posts
EW GURU
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 13:10
I will try to apply ur sugestions on dh. Now I have a totally new power for this and hope will work for us. It is bit difficult with dd cause she is breastfed and didn't see exept my face till now ;) Well in that case...plan to make him a lovely romantic dinner at home one night. Tell him the dress code is formal. Get all dressed up as though you were going out for dinner. OH and dont cook...order a take out so you can both chill out and not have to worry about cooking or loads of mess/dishes in the kitchen and maximise your time together.
23
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 13:07
I will try to apply ur sugestions on dh. Now I have a totally new power for this and hope will work for us. It is bit difficult with dd cause she is breastfed and didn't see exept my face till now ;)
730
Posts
EW GURU
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:57
I too get these when I type in "I" and "M" Take some deep breaths hun, and try to get him to relax and open up to you this weekend. Push all these suspicions you have of him having an affair out of your mind or else they will cloud your judgements. Do you have anyone who can watch your DD for you for a couple of hours over the weekend? A nice meal together or even just a coffee and a chat may do you both the world of good. All the best
357
Posts
EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:53
It's a man thing... I have read that men can react this way when they feel "left out" on some level because of the strong bond between the mother and child that they can't share in the same way, plus they suffer from the reduced attention from their wives compared to before but don't want to seem selfish clamouring for their wives' attention so they just kind of detach. I also get random things in my search box, for sites I have never been to. I agree with many of the others that the best solution for now is not to assume that he is cheating, but to try to spend relaxing time together (NOT talking about your child all the time), trying to recapture the pre-baby closeness/dynamic you used to have. He probably just needs a bit of babying himself!
23
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:51
Just give yourself a break & your Husband a huge hug when he gets in from work! Good work Ladies!!!! :) I will hug him for an hour! Thank you so much and this is how you ladies are a huge power not only for rescue my poor soul and marriage but for all great advises you give. Thank you!
876
Posts
EW GURU
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:50
Nice going Ryana.....relax and enjoy your man...
275
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:48
I got the same things for m when i googled it on my home computer,and BTW,malayala manorama,mathrubhumi and madhyamam are names of malayalam newspapers.:cool:
392
Posts
EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:48
LOL ryana. you are human. and a woman who is missing her husband (even though he is in the same room). it is hard work & sometimes we feel silly doing it (god knows why!?!) but try to bring the romance back. for your sake as well as your husband's. TELL him you miss him, SHOW him and i'm sure it'll be reciprocated. have a wonderful day and (hopefully) a vavavooooom weekend ;)
793
Posts
EW GURU
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:46
Just give yourself a break & your Husband a huge hug when he gets in from work! Good work Ladies!!!! :)
23
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:44
"m" i get: malayalamanorama mathrubhumi maps msn madhyaman miniclip mashreq bank metacafe malayalam movies mall of the emirates ... in that order OMG! I feel soooo stupid and soooo happy in the same time!!!!!!!!!!! Is this an indian conspiracy ?! somebody who is smart cause I dont feel so,can explain this?
231
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:41
I also got the same things as dikane. 100% sure. I am from India but have NEVER been to those sites and this is my work computer. Relax. Just btw, am in a similar situation as you... DD is 12 months, all intimacy has flown out of the window, he works his butt off, plans almost nothing and spends more time watching the news than hanging with me. But he loves me (I think) and I dont think he is having an affair.
392
Posts
EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:41
"m" i get: malayalamanorama mathrubhumi maps msn madhyaman miniclip mashreq bank metacafe malayalam movies mall of the emirates ... in that order
23
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:41
100% sure. and to be 200% sure LOL i've asked a colleague to type "i" and "m" into google and her searches come up with exactly the same! ryana, open that bottle of wine. have a glass & chill the rest for when dh comes home ... share it with him tonight ;) x Dikane You made my day, actually you made my life! Please tell me what else you get for m? This is crazy!
392
Posts
EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:39
100% sure. and to be 200% sure LOL i've asked a colleague to type "i" and "m" into google and her searches come up with exactly the same! ryana, open that bottle of wine. have a glass & chill the rest for when dh comes home ... share it with him tonight ;) x
23
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:38
Just thought some computers hava an automatic finder in them;when I google something most things enter automatically as soon as I enter the first letter....;And if his IP address is in abu dhabi it will automatically put in places and things of reference to there...So be careful Iwouldnt go and accuse him of an affair over those facts I know that but this words are not the ones that are generated by the automatic finder and this pc is the one we use at home. If , for example I type "I" I get indian airlines, isohunt,ikea dubai, itunes, india express, imdb, india,icici bank, ikea, iphone 5. This is exactly what comes down in this order. Now if I type m then malayalamanorama ,mathrubhumi between other things and so on Please explain to me why these will be generated by our pc? We are both not from India and didnt plan to travel there. ryana, i've just opened google and typed in "i" and "m" and i get EXACTLY why you typed in your post below. so i do think it is auto-generated. btw: i'm not indian, have never been to india, nor planning a trip there, and this is my work computer. perhaps it is time to take a deep breath and re-assess the situation? Really!! Are you sure? What else do you get for m? I might just go crazy in this moment!!
23
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:36
Just thought some computers hava an automatic finder in them;when I google something most things enter automatically as soon as I enter the first letter....;And if his IP address is in abu dhabi it will automatically put in places and things of reference to there...So be careful Iwouldnt go and accuse him of an affair over those facts I know that but this words are not the ones that are generated by the automatic finder and this pc is the one we use at home. If , for example I type "I" I get indian airlines, isohunt,ikea dubai, itunes, india express, imdb, india,icici bank, ikea, iphone 5. This is exactly what comes down in this order. Now if I type m then malayalamanorama ,mathrubhumi between other things and so on Please explain to me why these will be generated by our pc? We are both not from India and didnt plan to travel there. ryana, i've just opened google and typed in "i" and "m" and i get EXACTLY why you typed in your post below. so i do think it is auto-generated. btw: i'm not indian, have never been to india, nor planning a trip there, and this is my work computer. perhaps it is time to take a deep breath and re-assess the situation? Really!! Are you sure?
876
Posts
EW GURU
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:36
Ryana you need to take control of your life and your destiny. You could always ask him what he thinks about holidaying in India, then ask if Kerala would be nicer than Goa....tell him your friends have been talking about it. He may then tell you that he has in fact been researching this area for a while..... At least you are not finding history of :\: sites on the pc.
392
Posts
EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:33
Just thought some computers hava an automatic finder in them;when I google something most things enter automatically as soon as I enter the first letter....;And if his IP address is in abu dhabi it will automatically put in places and things of reference to there...So be careful Iwouldnt go and accuse him of an affair over those facts I know that but this words are not the ones that are generated by the automatic finder and this pc is the one we use at home. If , for example I type "I" I get indian airlines, isohunt,ikea dubai, itunes, india express, imdb, india,icici bank, ikea, iphone 5. This is exactly what comes down in this order. Now if I type m then malayalamanorama ,mathrubhumi between other things and so on Please explain to me why these will be generated by our pc? We are both not from India and didnt plan to travel there. ryana, i've just opened google and typed in "i" and "m" and i get EXACTLY why you typed in your post below. so i do think it is auto-generated. btw: i'm not indian, have never been to india, nor planning a trip there, and this is my work computer. perhaps it is time to take a deep breath and re-assess the situation?
23
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:29
he doesnt think at things to do in the weekends, what restaurant we may go to or anything of this matter. I think this is very typical of the male species though! But he used to.
23
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:29
Ryana If, just IF he is cheating, do you know what you would do? I would calm yourself down and think about things logically. Are you secured financially incase of a marriage breakdown? Do you have equal access to funds? This is the most important issue right now, is to ensure that you are able to cope. Personally, I would ride with it, and not mess about with things you don't know how to handle. I dont know what i will do yet. I am the kind that wants to know whats happening with the person I am sharing my life with and have a child with.
23
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:23
Just thought some computers hava an automatic finder in them;when I google something most things enter automatically as soon as I enter the first letter....;And if his IP address is in abu dhabi it will automatically put in places and things of reference to there...So be careful Iwouldnt go and accuse him of an affair over those facts I know that but this words are not the ones that are generated by the automatic finder and this pc is the one we use at home. If , for example I type "I" I get indian airlines, isohunt,ikea dubai, itunes, india express, imdb, india,icici bank, ikea, iphone 5. This is exactly what comes down in this order. Now if I type m then malayalamanorama ,mathrubhumi between other things and so on Please explain to me why these will be generated by our pc? We are both not from India and didnt plan to travel there.
876
Posts
EW GURU
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:17
Ryana If, just IF he is cheating, do you know what you would do? I would calm yourself down and think about things logically. Are you secured financially incase of a marriage breakdown? Do you have equal access to funds? This is the most important issue right now, is to ensure that you are able to cope. Personally, I would ride with it, and not mess about with things you don't know how to handle.
793
Posts
EW GURU
Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:12
I sure understand your feelings ryana and alot of us have been there. I am also though, in the 'be careful' camp. Now, my suggestion might not be well taken by some but I have found that things are not always as they seem and communication can work. Often in a marriage we each get sidelined by our personal responsibilities and often the caring and love and comfort we give our children or the thought and concern we give our jobs does not always extend to our partners because of fatigue, complacency etc. By the end of the day when we see each other we have had a long, sometimes frustrating, tiring day and do not take the time to acknowledge our partner as our partner rather than someone else to take care of...at times walking in the door and getting a 2 min holding hug from the partner could make all the difference in the world and a glad you are home or so glad to see you. We sometimes forget that there are 2 of us together, this goes for both partners and when there are children that can sometimes fracture and we do not connect. For either partner this can be upseting and if there is not any communication or it becomes less and less, the other partner might feel neglected, unsure, distant. Someone has to change things, does not really matter who but someone does...in this case Ryana it might have to be you. Look at how you greet your husband, do the 2 min hug and ask him to be patient ;)...take time to ask him things and tell him about you, hold his hand and touch his arm. Bring comfort with you not suspision, smile not anger. I only suggest this and certainly not to say yo are wrong in your thinking but to see if a change in the dynamics of your relationship will bring your husbands face back to you :)..he could also be feeling that the child is always first and that you dont speak with him anymore, he might also be feeling neglected like you do but does not how to say this, just as you do not seem to be able to say this to him. I have no idea if this will help in the least but, we do forget that the man we married, will still be the man we married after the children have gone and we both must keep our marriage up or we will have nothing in the end. If in the end, he is cheating on you, then you have done all you can and will have another big decision to make. Hopefully that is not why he is distracted and not including you in his life. I couldn't agree more with your words, i just hope Ryana takes your advise. We should introduce a "Hug your Husband Day" I do this everyday & i know it makes him smile inside, even when he's had a rough day.
 
 

ON EXPATWOMAN TODAY