Relatives who ask lot of questions.. does it annoy you??

Thank you for the replies. I did call her last night. However, I think I am gonna take by the advice of more texting less talking. Seriously, I think giving reports all day on what I did, where I am going, when I will return, what did I eat, when I will sleep, why I am not going out... it is just too much questions and I cannot take it anymore. I love her, every year in valentine I bring for her a nice gift because she doesnt have anyone to bring her something in valentine, I do the same in mothers' day, Christmas and her birthday.. but really daily reports are too much. I know that she loves me and she cares too much.. And yes I know that she is trying to amend for something that happened in the past, but that happened with my father, mum and brothers... not me.. I was here when that happened and anyway I dont think that something small wrong she did is a big deal, she was always good and supportive to all the family... The fact that I am the only one who talk to her properly and nicely doenst mean that I have to tell her everything I do.. I respect her so much but that's it.. My other aunty and her daughter are visiting us for 4 days from Thursday, so maybe I will bring up the subject but in a funny way and see what the other aunty will say... edited by JS on 18/04/2011 <em>edited by JS on 18/04/2011</em>

SalsB, I know that she must be lonely at the end of the day when she goes to her bed to sleep.. and I know that she considers me at a daughter but what she doesnt realize is that I am old enough now :) and that questions must stop at a certain level.. I am not a baby :( shjbelle, loool your idea is not that good :) she will call every contact she has on her phone related to me.. I cannot do that to her.. no way.. Chocs01, when my father passed away he was not talking to my aunty (they had a fight before).. there was a big big problem in the family and I have actually stopped talking to her for few months but she begged everyone I know to convince me to talk to her and after few months I felt sorry for her and started talking to her again, that was in 2008.. My brothers dont talk to her since 2008, very recently I convinced my mum to talk to her, they were not talking together for more than 2 years.. She is an anxious person but at the same time a very very curious person who would like to know any small detail.. When she goes on vacation, she only sends me messages every 2 days or even every 3 days once.. but if I GO ON vacation, she sends me many messages during the day!

FOR EXAMPLE: I told her earlier that I took medicine and going to bed, that was at 5pm I just got a message from her: are you awake? how are you feeling? looooool Chocs01, she calls him too!! Whenever she thinks that i dont sound well on the phone, she calls to ask if I am ok and if he knows why I am upset! shjbelle, my dad passed away in 2008 and to be honest, she cares about me more than my dad did in his life!

DesertRose, she LOVES me so very much and she is a very curious person in her nature.. During vacations, she loves to go back to the village back home and to hear stories about people, what they did, who is getting married, who is divorcing, who said what, which neighbours had a fight with the other neighbour... gossiping too much.. she likes to talk.. Her friend who moved to a new villa and what people are talking about the amazing garden her friend did.... talking talking... Sometimes when she calls and I dont answer and I call her back, I find her line busy for hour or so.. she would be talking with one of her friends.. I know that she loves me, she cares too much about me but I dont like giving reports, I dont like where are you going, what time you will be back.. and if I tell her that I am not going out, then she will have more questions to ask like are you ok, why you dont like going out these days, etc...

DesertRose, yes I had the surgery recently done but it has nothing to do with food or my health, maybe part of it but not the main reason. She likes to know every move I do.. and it has always annoyed me but now as I grow up, it doesnt look acceptable anymore. My fiance always laughs when he hears the phone ringing, he even says: "Your aunty must be calling", even without looking a the screen.. sometimes when I pick up the phone I feel that I want to cry... because I know that I will hear the same questions..

Sue62, her questions are not recent. She was like that since I came to Dubai 9 years ago!! It is not about food only.. 9 years ago, maybe I had to respond to all her questions but now I am old enough!! If I tell her that I am going out with my friends to watch a movie, she insists that I call her back when I finish.. and if I tell her that movie will finish only after midnight, she will say: It is ok, I will be awake.. I am 30yrs old, I dont like to give reports to her anymore.. She wants to know every single move I do everyday and I am tired of that!!

That's what I did now.. I texted her that I am taking medicine and going to bed, while I am still awake.. I cannot tell her straight: "You ask lot of questions" because she is very sensitive and she will make a big drama.. sometimes I am really tired after a long day at work and she calls to ask what I am having for dinner, what I will do, etc... If I didnt answer, she doesnt give up and she keeps calling.. I cannot knock her out because I love her and dont wanna hurt her.. though she is annoying :(

Chocs01, I dont mind that she cares about me but it annoys me sometimes the MANY questions she asks everyday. I know she considers me as her daughter but trust me she has lot of friends so she really do lot of activities with them in the evening and the lot of activities include lot of gossiping!! I dont tell her anything very personal about me because even if she said that she will keep it secret, she wil definitely tell someone by mistake and say "It is ok, she is my friend" (while it is not ok for me :)) I told her about my small project that I started and she keeps asking and asking about how many clients I have and profits, etc... I told her 100 times that no real profits before 1 year because I paid a big amount for the products but she still asks the same questions :S She loooooooves gossiping.. my friend did that, said that, went to.. so she likes to ask because she likes to talk a lot :) I see her most of Fridays for lunch... I feel sorry for her but sometimes I just feel that I want to screaaaaaaaam!!! <em>edited by JS on 17/04/2011</em>

I am 30 yrs old not 18 yrs old anymore lol.. I live on my own from longtime in Dubai and I have an aunty (my father's sister) who lives in Sharjah. She is not married and is in her 50s now but she has lot of friends there so she spends most of her evenings at friend's houses or outside with them To be clear, I love my aunty very much and I know that she loves me more than anything as she didnt have children and she considers me as her daughter. She asks so many questions.. every single day.. 1st she calls in the morning at 8am to see if I am awake on my way to work, then at 12.30 to ask me what I am having for lunch, at 3pm to see if I had my lunch, at 6pm to see if I am staying late at work and if I say yes then she has to curse a bit my boss because he keeps me late at work, at 8pm to see if I am home and if I had dinner, sometimes I cut the calls there and tell her that I am going to bed early or otherwise she would call again at 10 or 11pm to wish me goodnight :) If she calls me at 8pm and I tell her that I am going to the mall, she would insist that I call her back when I finish and go home. Yesterday morning I woke up early as I had some work to finish.. Anyway when I finished and on my way back home, I called her and when she heard that I am driving the car she asked me "where are you going" but when I told her that I was out and returning home now she said "Ah where were you?".. If she calls and I dont answer (because I am busy!), she calls my work extension and it happened in the past that she called my colleague at work but I had a fight with her because of that and told her that this is totally not acceptable. I had a severe headache from Thursday evening and I didnt tell her for 2 days because I know that she will keep calling.. I made a mistake last night and told her that I am not feeling well and since then she calls every 2 hours just to moan saying "what you will do.. what if.. go to doctor, do u want me to take vacation and come stay with you :(".. I love her but she annoys me a lot with her questions.. the thing is sometimes I dont give her a straight answer but she doesnt give up on asking and asking.. Do you have relatives like her or my aunty is one of her kind? :) <em>edited by JS on 17/04/2011</em>