Anyone had a baby at 42/43?

I am 39 and pregnant of my second baby. Would love a third one day, who knows... btw, isnt Halle Berry 46 and pregnant ? :-)

I just wanted to add I am on another baby site as a member of the IVF thread there and one lady who is 43 is pregnant on her 5th and last try of IVF with a frozen embryo, she has a child who is 12 and remarried about 8 years ago and they had been trying for last 6 years. She is 20+ weeks now and all is good, she's not concerned about her age in the slightest!

you'll always get someone who thinks you are too old to have kids but who cares what they think!!! I am pregnant with my second child at 39, my gran had my mum at 42 and my good friend who recently left Dubai had her 3rd child at 43. I think older mums are very common nowadays and it doesn't matter how old you are when you have a child at all. In my opinion it's better but that's based on the fact that my parents no longer get on with each other now all their kids have left home - empty nest syndrome I think it's called. I love the fact that when I am at retirement age I could still have my kids at home with me. My DH is 9 years older than me and none of his friends have said anything about him being older although I am sure in the future someone will ask him if he is the grandparent and we will just laugh! I know it's harder for you as you're having fertility problems but don't lose hope and I hope you get your dream :)

how are you doing confusion? been thinking about you and looked up this thread. i had a VERY hard time to get to my first baby (who is 19months old now) and am now thinking about number 2. i'll be 41 in a couple of months. given my history, and my age, i'm so scared of taking this step. not sure i can cope again. i hope you are well x

Hi Confusion. Thank you so much for your very sweet words. I would love to be in touch. If you send me a message at [email protected], I can share my mobile number with you. I look forward to a chat. :)

Hi Confusion, Most of my friends between ages 40-43 are all having babies now. I think it is quite common these days and that you shouldn't worry about what other people think. Most progressive people these days do not find it odd that women our age are having children. Having said that though, I am trying to have my first at 40 now, and I have to confess that I am embarrassed to tell people how old I am when they ask whether or not I have children. My rational side knows this is ridiculous, but I understand what you mean about people being judgmental. I realize this is a change of topic, but I was going through the forum posts yesterday and realized that you and I are going through some similar issues with trying to conceive our first. I have just undergone a minimal stimulation cycle at Fakih, and although the beta results were positive, it doesn't look as though this pregnancy is going to be viable. I had a really tough time when I got the news yesterday and started going though the posts on this forum when I saw that you have been through similar cycles at both Conceive and Fakih. I am just so upset now and feel as though this will never happen for us. I feel trapped living in the UAE and wonder whether I should take time off work and my life here to go to the US for better treatment. You hear about clinics in the US being experts for older women, but I wonder whether at this point, it really is just about luck and finding one good egg. Anyway, sorry to have changed the topic, but I am just so supremely sad today. I've started avoiding friends with kids, parks, malls and pretty much any place where there might be children . I know that this is not healthy behavior, and that at some point, I have to deal with it. But right now, I'm just trying to protect myself from any more pain. Are you planning to try any more IVF cycles? It would be really nice to be in touch with someone who is going through the same issues. Moth

I can honestly say, that I look back on the whole process of getting pregnant, being pregnant and delivering, with a bit of resentment at the rest of the world and the medical world in particular. I lost our first child at 36 and the pressure others put on me (intentially or not) to "hurry up", time's running out, get on with it etc etc put such a terrible sense of importance on every cycle, every test etc etc. Thankfully by baby 3 I'd realised that my body is strong, perfectly capable of all that's required of it. I came out of the experience with many certainties and convictions but the most relevant to this thread are - never ever ask about anyones pregnancy wishes. Who's to say they're not trying, haven't just lost a baby or are having trouble getting both partners on the same page - I mean, what business is it of yours anyway? All you can possibly do is invite someone to explain/justify themselves and you could well put doubt in their minds. -I really, really wish I'd been able to relax into my age as it relates to pregnancy for the first, like I did for the last. My words about great pregnancies and great deliveries are true, not written here to encourage any of you particularly. The best thing you can have is confidence, and ladies, there is no reason you shouldn't have it. You can fall pregnant, and when you do, you can enjoy it and child birth and motherhood can be wonderful. Don't let others make you doubt of feel stressed. One of my gyneas had only ONE client younger than 30. The world needs to get over it's obsession with young mums!

Yeap, first at 38, second at 40 and third at 42. I had great pregnancies, fantastic deliveries and am loving being a mum to my LO's. Relax - 40 is the new 30! love this post! (i'm almost 37)

Yeap, first at 38, second at 40 and third at 42. I had great pregnancies, fantastic deliveries and am loving being a mum to my LO's. Relax - 40 is the new 30!

I had twins at 41.5 - so anything is possible.

I had twins at 41.5 - so anything is possible.

Know loads of people who had babies in their early 40s including my grandmother who was 42 when she had my mum in 1932!

I have heard of many who did have their first babies in there 40s, so keep praying and will send you a prayer from me x

I had mine at 41 1/2.. Know someone who will be 43 3/4 when they have one.. Friends SIL had one at 45 after trying for 5 years.. Keep praying I say... :-)