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Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 20:18
It’s quite interesting to read though. What amazes me are some women that year after year talk about how much they dislike living here and how much better their home countries are and are just staying here for the money. What does that make them; money grabbing b i t c h e s? It should be more to life than $$$$. quote pamya I find this statement extremely offensive. You may call me a money grabbing b i t c h, however I think it takes a smart person to sacrfice things today for a better tomorrow. When I do eventually go back home I plan on funding my own retirement instead of living on a pension. Dubai will help me to do this. If you think about it Dubai uses us as much as we us it! Don't fall in love too much, it's not like you can retire here!! edited by sallyk on 23/03/2011 Agree 100%. I am here because its whats best for my family at this point in time. and its true, you can thrown out of here at a moments notice for the smallest infraction. I find that scary because at the end of the day we don't have too many rights here. I don't find it offensive at all. When you strip everything down to the bone, the real reasons for the choices we make in life are sometimes quite ugly and generally not ones we are able to readily admit too. <em>edited by Snitch on 23/03/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 20:16
Why does every thread have to turn into a Dubai-bashing-or-not-thread. Wherever you go in the world you will find people that don't like living there and people that do. It is part of life! It’s quite interesting to read though. What amazes me are some women that year after year talk about how much they dislike living here and how much better their home countries are and are just staying here for the money. What does that make them; money grabbing b i t c h e s? It should be more to life than $$$$. Anyone who is able to leave their own children in a place they consider to be so awful that they can't suffer the thought of going back, can't be considered as anything other than shallow and money grabbing, can they? Why would you say that snitch ???? to rev things up again ???? People have to do things for many different reasons - grow up ! I said it because it is something that I struggle to understand. If I were a Mother, I can't imagine happily leaving my children in an environment * if * I genuinely felt it to be unsafe or offered a poor quality of life. AND, yes I do question how someone can do this. Please do not treat me like some errant schoolgirl and tell me to grow up.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 19:51
It’s quite interesting to read though. What amazes me are some women that year after year talk about how much they dislike living here and how much better their home countries are and are just staying here for the money. What does that make them; money grabbing b i t c h e s? It should be more to life than $$$$. quote pamya I find this statement extremely offensive. You may call me a money grabbing b i t c h, however I think it takes a smart person to sacrfice things today for a better tomorrow. When I do eventually go back home I plan on funding my own retirement instead of living on a pension. Dubai will help me to do this. If you think about it Dubai uses us as much as we us it! Don't fall in love too much, it's not like you can retire here!! edited by sallyk on 23/03/2011 Agree 100%. I am here because its whats best for my family at this point in time. and its true, you can thrown out of here at a moments notice for the smallest infraction. I find that scary because at the end of the day we don't have too many rights here.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 19:44
I am not a negative person. I have a good job, I live in a nice 5 bedroom house, I have friends and money. But I too hate Dubai. It's soulless. I can't explain it but every day living here is destroying me as a person. My husband loves it and thinks I'm silly. If I were to leave, I would leave alone. That's what's keeping me here. Some people are not made for this place. Same here-but my husband feels the same way-We committed to something here and are seeing it through as it will be very good for us, and our family, when we move home. We are thankful to have the opportunity, but frankly, we simply don't like it here. People get so upset when I say that, and I never understood why. Its just a preference. I think for some of them, maybe they too aren't happy but don't want to say it, or don't have anything to go back to? That said, I know there are people that truly are happy here and never want to leave. That's great, they found the place for them. Its different for each person. We have been here four years now. My husband refuses to give me a date to plan our return. That's what I can't live with - I don't want to end up here for good. I agree - some people love it here and that's great for them. I don't and never have. I feel like I am in a time vacuum. I miss the rain, I miss shops being closed on a Sunday, I miss the mountains, my friends. I just want to feel normal again. It's so hard. I understand exactly how you feel. We have been five years now. The first two, we traveled a lot, did a lout outdoor activity here, went camping, really had a good time. The third year, we traveled to place that would be too far from home-when we moved back there. I have to say, Dubai's location is great for even weekend getaways. We were supposed to go home Dec. 2009-at the 3 year mark. It got very expensive living here, and although you are not taxed-you do pay through the nose for a lot of things-especially rent. Dewa is a fortune if you are in a villa, Groceries are more expensive and going out is expensive as well. So...we went home in 2009, for a visit and realized, wrong time to move home. Better to stay put and let the economy heal before we move home. We had so many friends with MBAs and Law degrees that were struggling! It was just a terrible economic climate. We are thankful to be able to take refuge in Dubai for a few more years, but I feel like we have done enough here and experienced great things. Now that I am having baby #2, i really want to be closer to family, as well as have my babies grow up in the west as I did. Thats just my experience.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 19:37
It’s quite interesting to read though. What amazes me are some women that year after year talk about how much they dislike living here and how much better their home countries are and are just staying here for the money. What does that make them; money grabbing b i t c h e s? It should be more to life than $$$$. quote pamya I find this statement extremely offensive. You may call me a money grabbing b i t c h, however I think it takes a smart person to sacrfice things today for a better tomorrow. When I do eventually go back home I plan on funding my own retirement instead of living on a pension. Dubai will help me to do this. If you think about it Dubai uses us as much as we us it! Don't fall in love too much, it's not like you can retire here!! <em>edited by sallyk on 23/03/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 19:32
I am not a negative person. I have a good job, I live in a nice 5 bedroom house, I have friends and money. But I too hate Dubai. It's soulless. I can't explain it but every day living here is destroying me as a person. My husband loves it and thinks I'm silly. If I were to leave, I would leave alone. That's what's keeping me here. Some people are not made for this place. Same here-but my husband feels the same way-We committed to something here and are seeing it through as it will be very good for us, and our family, when we move home. We are thankful to have the opportunity, but frankly, we simply don't like it here. People get so upset when I say that, and I never understood why. Its just a preference. I think for some of them, maybe they too aren't happy but don't want to say it, or don't have anything to go back to? That said, I know there are people that truly are happy here and never want to leave. That's great, they found the place for them. Its different for each person. We have been here four years now. My husband refuses to give me a date to plan our return. That's what I can't live with - I don't want to end up here for good. I agree - some people love it here and that's great for them. I don't and never have. I feel like I am in a time vacuum. I miss the rain, I miss shops being closed on a Sunday, I miss the mountains, my friends. I just want to feel normal again. It's so hard.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 19:32
I am not a negative person. I have a good job, I live in a nice 5 bedroom house, I have friends and money. But I too hate Dubai. It's soulless. I can't explain it but every day living here is destroying me as a person. My husband loves it and thinks I'm silly. If I were to leave, I would leave alone. That's what's keeping me here. Some people are not made for this place. Same here-but my husband feels the same way-We committed to something here and are seeing it through as it will be very good for us, and our family, when we move home. We are thankful to have the opportunity, but frankly, we simply don't like it here. People get so upset when I say that, and I never understood why. Its just a preference. I think for some of them, maybe they too aren't happy but don't want to say it, or don't have anything to go back to? That said, I know there are people that truly are happy here and never want to leave. That's great, they found the place for them. Its different for each person. We have been here four years now. My husband refuses to give me a date to plan our return. That's what I can't live with - I don't want to end up here for good. I agree - some people love it here and that's great for them. I don't and never have. I feel like I am in a time vacuum. I miss the rain, I miss shops being closed on a Sunday, I miss the mountains, my friends. I just want to feel normal again. It's so hard.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 19:26
I am not a negative person. I have a good job, I live in a nice 5 bedroom house, I have friends and money. But I too hate Dubai. It's soulless. I can't explain it but every day living here is destroying me as a person. My husband loves it and thinks I'm silly. If I were to leave, I would leave alone. That's what's keeping me here. Some people are not made for this place. Same here-but my husband feels the same way-We committed to something here and are seeing it through as it will be very good for us, and our family, when we move home. We are thankful to have the opportunity, but frankly, we simply don't like it here. People get so upset when I say that, and I never understood why. Its just a preference. I think for some of them, maybe they too aren't happy but don't want to say it, or don't have anything to go back to? That said, I know there are people that truly are happy here and never want to leave. That's great, they found the place for them. Its different for each person.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 19:17
I am not a negative person. I have a good job, I live in a nice 5 bedroom house, I have friends and money. But I too hate Dubai. It's soulless. I can't explain it but every day living here is destroying me as a person. My husband loves it and thinks I'm silly. If I were to leave, I would leave alone. That's what's keeping me here. Some people are not made for this place.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 18:55
Grrrrr...every time someone just wants to have a moan lately it seems to be met with a 'ohhh it could be so much worse...you could be in Libya, Egypt, NZ, Japan etc (insert country in chaos)' I think it goes without saying that YES - it could be worse, a lot worse, this is true. But every once in a while, its ok for people to have a general moan about whats going on in their world. Even if their favourite plant died - by all means not the end of the world to anyone else, but if its the worst thing in their world, let them get it out of their system without WDG (world distaster guilt). There are always going to be people worse off, it goes without saying. No need to be reminded constantly of the worlds disasters and unrest! :) Oh no I was talking about living in these countries before all the political unrest started!! I was mainly talking about quality of life! I am sorry but the quality of life in Dubai is good! and besides, I am not convinced with a lot of what the OP was saying..to be honest, Europe and the UK are good and all for their citizens, but if you deviated from being the norm of what constitutes a national, then you experience discrimination as well...besides, saying that being Arabic gives you more rights??? only being local, well it is their country, is not it..I respect the UAE for treating their citizens right compared to other countries who treat foreigners better than their own citizens, and I say that is absolutely crazy!! Dubai is by far the most civilized country in th middle east!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 18:11
You know what I miss even to this day about Dubai? It's beautiful beaches. It once had the most gorgeous beaches. You could go and see marine life almost anywhere. Now all you see is cigarette butts, garbage and dead coral.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 18:06
To the OP Fair enough, you listed all of the things you hate about Dubai. You never mentioned anything that you like, not even the fact that you had the opportunity to experience life in Dubai. That you had the chance to live in a cnetral hub that allows quick travel to the East and West. You could have re-phrased it all to over-emphasise how delighted you are to be going home, to excellent weather, fantastic roads, superb produce and local people who will be delighted to see you everyday. Infact, you don't even seem happy to be going home. For me, I am so very happy that my family are healthy and happy, my kids are doing well and we look forward to tomorrow. Perhaps there’s nothing to like. Every thing Dubai has is a second rate copy of the UK and US. At least be thankful for opportunities. To be alive. It depends what you are looking at. My world does not rotate around copies.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 18:03
To the OP Fair enough, you listed all of the things you hate about Dubai. You never mentioned anything that you like, not even the fact that you had the opportunity to experience life in Dubai. That you had the chance to live in a cnetral hub that allows quick travel to the East and West. You could have re-phrased it all to over-emphasise how delighted you are to be going home, to excellent weather, fantastic roads, superb produce and local people who will be delighted to see you everyday. Infact, you don't even seem happy to be going home. For me, I am so very happy that my family are healthy and happy, my kids are doing well and we look forward to tomorrow. Perhaps there’s nothing to like. Every thing Dubai has is a second rate copy of the UK and US.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 18:03
This brings a very valid point to the argument. It is because of UK taxpayers that many expats children/grandchildren/elderly parents are afforded a free education and healthcare. If their resident then indeed they will, but take the free education and get outta there! ;-) If you are resident then you are a taxpayer, so your point is? The tone of your post is unclear. Are you making a point that you are miffed that expats are out here with kids back home getting free education at taxpayers cost while not contributing or is it that those brit expats here have family at home getting healthcare. if elderly surely they would have paid taxes through thier life anyway? whats your point....please clarify I am not miffed about anything. I am merely pointing out, that it is a little distasteful for posters to moan about the taxes levied in the UK (when it is coming out of their own pocket) YET happily sit back and expect UK taxpayers to fund free schooling and healthcare for their nearest and dearest. <em>edited by Snitch on 23/03/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 18:02
This brings a very valid point to the argument. It is because of UK taxpayers that many expats children/grandchildren/elderly parents are afforded a free education and healthcare. If their resident then indeed they will, but take the free education and get outta there! ;-) Not a joke !!!! Am i laughing? i am serious...the world is so much bigger than just sticking it out in blighty Lets hope you never have to darken their shores then My father was expat for 50 + years and then had to return - never say never - an dmaybe blighty won t want YOU haha i wouldnt say it would darken the shores. i am frequently back there, but i dont recall actually ever saying i wouldnt return, but thanks for reminding me the world is much bigger with more/different opportunities.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 18:01
To the OP Fair enough, you listed all of the things you hate about Dubai. You never mentioned anything that you like, not even the fact that you had the opportunity to experience life in Dubai. That you had the chance to live in a cnetral hub that allows quick travel to the East and West. You could have re-phrased it all to over-emphasise how delighted you are to be going home, to excellent weather, fantastic roads, superb produce and local people who will be delighted to see you everyday. Infact, you don't even seem happy to be going home. For me, I am so very happy that my family are healthy and happy, my kids are doing well and we look forward to tomorrow. Didn t you answer the OP like 5 pages ago ???? whats this another dig ? Leave her alone you made your pointyes. every 5 pages I have new thoughts.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 18:00
To the OP Fair enough, you listed all of the things you hate about Dubai. You never mentioned anything that you like, not even the fact that you had the opportunity to experience life in Dubai. That you had the chance to live in a cnetral hub that allows quick travel to the East and West. You could have re-phrased it all to over-emphasise how delighted you are to be going home, to excellent weather, fantastic roads, superb produce and local people who will be delighted to see you everyday. Infact, you don't even seem happy to be going home. For me, I am so very happy that my family are healthy and happy, my kids are doing well and we look forward to tomorrow. Didn t you answer the OP like 5 pages ago ???? whats this another dig ? Leave her alone you made your point
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:58
This brings a very valid point to the argument. It is because of UK taxpayers that many expats children/grandchildren/elderly parents are afforded a free education and healthcare. If their resident then indeed they will, but take the free education and get outta there! ;-) If you are resident then you are a taxpayer, so your point is? The tone of your post is unclear. Are you making a point that you are miffed that expats are out here with kids back home getting free education at taxpayers cost while not contributing or is it that those brit expats here have family at home getting healthcare. if elderly surely they would have paid taxes through thier life anyway? whats your point....please clarify
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EW GURU
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:54
To the OP Fair enough, you listed all of the things you hate about Dubai. You never mentioned anything that you like, not even the fact that you had the opportunity to experience life in Dubai. That you had the chance to live in a cnetral hub that allows quick travel to the East and West. You could have re-phrased it all to over-emphasise how delighted you are to be going home, to excellent weather, fantastic roads, superb produce and local people who will be delighted to see you everyday. Infact, you don't even seem happy to be going home. For me, I am so very happy that my family are healthy and happy, my kids are doing well and we look forward to tomorrow.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:53
This brings a very valid point to the argument. It is because of UK taxpayers that many expats children/grandchildren/elderly parents are afforded a free education and healthcare. If their resident then indeed they will, but take the free education and get outta there! ;-) Not a joke !!!! Am i laughing? i am serious...the world is so much bigger than just sticking it out in blighty Lets hope you never have to darken their shores then My father was expat for 50 + years and then had to return - never say never - an dmaybe blighty won t want YOU haha
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:52
Pamya everyone chases the money here. Men and women. We are human. And if we get a better salary here, then good for us. At the end most of our home countries are in financial crisis so finding anything comprable is going to be impossible. It still doesn't mean Dubai is for everyone. We are just doing what needs to be done to survive and hopefully we saved money along the way for when that dreaded redundency comes. Not everyone chases the money here....we came here for a better lifestyle and we got that with bells on. Dxb isn't for everyone, nowhere is. I do find that most of the people I know that don't enjoy life here have unreal expectations. They often compare what happens here with life back home. Well, there will always be differences but acceptance and a positive attitude go a long way towards enjoying a country or an experience. Of course schools, roads, people and attitudes are different.....how BORING if they weren't.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:51
This brings a very valid point to the argument. It is because of UK taxpayers that many expats children/grandchildren/elderly parents are afforded a free education and healthcare. If their resident then indeed they will, but take the free education and get outta there! ;-) Not a joke !!!! Am i laughing? i am serious...the world is so much bigger than just sticking it out in blighty
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:51
Why does every thread have to turn into a Dubai-bashing-or-not-thread. Wherever you go in the world you will find people that don't like living there and people that do. It is part of life! It’s quite interesting to read though. What amazes me are some women that year after year talk about how much they dislike living here and how much better their home countries are and are just staying here for the money. What does that make them; money grabbing b i t c h e s? It should be more to life than $$$$. Anyone who is able to leave their own children in a place they consider to be so awful that they can't suffer the thought of going back, can't be considered as anything other than shallow and money grabbing, can they? Why would you say that snitch ???? to rev things up again ???? People have to do things for many different reasons - grow up !
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:50
This brings a very valid point to the argument. It is because of UK taxpayers that many expats children/grandchildren/elderly parents are afforded a free education and healthcare. If their resident then indeed they will, but take the free education and get outta there! ;-) If you are resident then you are a taxpayer, so your point is?
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:49
Why does every thread have to turn into a Dubai-bashing-or-not-thread. Wherever you go in the world you will find people that don't like living there and people that do. It is part of life! It’s quite interesting to read though. What amazes me are some women that year after year talk about how much they dislike living here and how much better their home countries are and are just staying here for the money. What does that make them; money grabbing b i t c h e s? It should be more to life than $$$$. Anyone who is able to leave their own children in a place they consider to be so awful that they can't suffer the thought of going back, can't be considered as anything other than shallow and money grabbing, can they?
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:48
This brings a very valid point to the argument. It is because of UK taxpayers that many expats children/grandchildren/elderly parents are afforded a free education and healthcare. If their resident then indeed they will, but take the free education and get outta there! ;-) Not a joke !!!!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:45
This brings a very valid point to the argument. It is because of UK taxpayers that many expats children/grandchildren/elderly parents are afforded a free education and healthcare. If their resident then indeed they will, but take the free education and get outta there! ;-)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:43
Hats off for anyone who can live in a grey cold country and pay heaps in taxes and still not complain. Mmm the weather is always grey?? Have a look at the 10 day weather forecast for the UK. As for taxes. Those taxes go towards looking after people that can’t work, helping our armed forces, providing schools and health care, transport infrastructure, environmental services and law and order. We pay taxes because we live in a democracy. If I lose my job I won’t be kicked out of the country. I have the right to a fair trial should I go to court. I will be housed should I find myself homeless; I will have money and bills paid should I find myself out of work but most of all I find comfort in the fact that I live in relative safety and not in the middle of what looks like could become a potential war zone. Excellent points This brings a very valid point to the argument. It is because of UK taxpayers that many expats children/grandchildren/elderly parents are afforded a free education and healthcare.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:35
Mmm the weather is always grey?? Have a look at the 10 day weather forecast for the UK. As for taxes. Those taxes go towards looking after people that can’t work, helping our armed forces, providing schools and health care, transport infrastructure, environmental services and law and order. We pay taxes because we live in a democracy. If I lose my job I won’t be kicked out of the country. I have the right to a fair trial should I go to court. I will be housed should I find myself homeless; I will have money and bills paid should I find myself out of work but most of all I find comfort in the fact that I live in relative safety and not in the middle of what looks like could become a potential war zone. The weather is actually quite good as i understand it at the moment over there. Yes taxes go to those that cant work but they also go towards helping those who cant be bothered as well, although that too is being changed , albeit slowly. Education and health care are second to non but the transportation and highway networks are aging and sometimes its frustrating how bad they are compared to the tax levels you pay. of course as a national you wont be kicked out but as a foreigner you need a visa or you will have to leave. (whether you do or dont is arguable as you can do what others have done and will continue to do and that is skip into the crowd and disappear). Taxes dont give you money when your out of work thats social security, and the one thing worth continuing to pay...dont miss those stamps ladies....because when you most need the help they will look for the gaps in contributions. i would say for now the UAE is relative safety....but then i guess so did the brits until 1939....Poland seemed so far away! but thats another thread. Dubai is ok, they just have different systems which may or may not be efficient....
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EW GURU
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:34
Pamya everyone chases the money here. Men and women. We are human. And if we get a better salary here, then good for us. At the end most of our home countries are in financial crisis so finding anything comprable is going to be impossible. It still doesn't mean Dubai is for everyone. We are just doing what needs to be done to survive and hopefully we saved money along the way for when that dreaded redundency comes.
 
 

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