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Dear Dubai....I am divorcing you.....

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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:30
Why does every thread have to turn into a Dubai-bashing-or-not-thread. Wherever you go in the world you will find people that don't like living there and people that do. It is part of life! It’s quite interesting to read though. What amazes me are some women that year after year talk about how much they dislike living here and how much better their home countries are and are just staying here for the money. What does that make them; money grabbing b i t c h e s? It should be more to life than $$$$.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:23
I m not sure that this has turned into a dubai bashing thread as there are posts for and against so thats quite healthy and shows that there is honesty ( ?) from most posters surely ?
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:22
I like living in Dubai, but honestly, I'd take the weather in the UK over the UAE weather any day.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:21
Hats off for anyone who can live in a grey cold country and pay heaps in taxes and still not complain. Mmm the weather is always grey?? Have a look at the 10 day weather forecast for the UK. As for taxes. Those taxes go towards looking after people that can’t work, helping our armed forces, providing schools and health care, transport infrastructure, environmental services and law and order. We pay taxes because we live in a democracy. If I lose my job I won’t be kicked out of the country. I have the right to a fair trial should I go to court. I will be housed should I find myself homeless; I will have money and bills paid should I find myself out of work but most of all I find comfort in the fact that I live in relative safety and not in the middle of what looks like could become a potential war zone. Excellent points
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:20
Dear Birmingham, I would like to thank the local police for allowing 6 thugs to get away when they attacked my 5 month pregnant daughter. I would also like to thank the police for letting an armed bank robbery escape ater holding a gun to me in in the worlds local bank. I would like to thank my local council for not taking my stinky rubbish away weekly. Let me not thank someone who tried to break into my house twice in a week. A big thanks to the utility companys for charging the earth to keep us warm. The list can go on. Expat life isnt for everyone, I came to Dubai with both eyes open, just have to try and enjoy life here, Dubai isnt so bad, ok it has its ups and downs, but doesnt everywhere in the world. Im sure Dubai has never said it was perfect. Happy trip home to the OP. edited by salsB on 23/03/2011 May I ask you Salsb, if Birmingham is as awful/violent as you say it is why did you leave your children/grandchildren there? Snitch are you out trying to make friends ;)? I see your point salsB.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:18
Hats off for anyone who can live in a grey cold country and pay heaps in taxes and still not complain. Mmm the weather is always grey?? Have a look at the 10 day weather forecast for the UK. As for taxes. Those taxes go towards looking after people that can’t work, helping our armed forces, providing schools and health care, transport infrastructure, environmental services and law and order. We pay taxes because we live in a democracy. If I lose my job I won’t be kicked out of the country. I have the right to a fair trial should I go to court. I will be housed should I find myself homeless; I will have money and bills paid should I find myself out of work but most of all I find comfort in the fact that I live in relative safety and not in the middle of what looks like could become a potential war zone.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:15
Dear Birmingham, I would like to thank the local police for allowing 6 thugs to get away when they attacked my 5 month pregnant daughter. I would also like to thank the police for letting an armed bank robbery escape ater holding a gun to me in in the worlds local bank. I would like to thank my local council for not taking my stinky rubbish away weekly. Let me not thank someone who tried to break into my house twice in a week. A big thanks to the utility companys for charging the earth to keep us warm. The list can go on. Expat life isnt for everyone, I came to Dubai with both eyes open, just have to try and enjoy life here, Dubai isnt so bad, ok it has its ups and downs, but doesnt everywhere in the world. Im sure Dubai has never said it was perfect. Happy trip home to the OP. edited by salsB on 23/03/2011 May I ask you Salsb, if Birmingham is as awful/violent as you say it is why did you leave your children/grandchildren there?
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 17:12
And it won t end here I know hahah
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 16:59
What a strange statement to make. Why do you feel sorry for people who dislike Dubai? You have made it clear on several occasions that you dislike the UK, should I feel sorry for you? You could, if you like :) (PS I have nothing against the UK I just wouldn't like to live there again). Each to their own, and by feeling sorry I mean that in some cases people just haven't discovered the right things about the UAE and have a false perception of it, and leave under that perception. I feel sorry for those people. I thought the suggestion made recently about that chap that wrote the article on UAE, that he should have been brought back for a weekend and done proper UAE things instead of seeing the whole brunch/marble floor/ceiling thing, that was an excellent suggestion. I think feeling sorry is not the right thing to say Poeple don tknow what they will miss / or not miss until they leave I for sure didn t think I would feel the way I do and then one evening the whole family were sat talking and DS said it and then suddeny we all felt the same Something the whole family felt inside and yet never said to each other - and before the rest of you start on the " OH but OUR family is sooo close we woud know " RUBBISH we are very very close but no-one wanted to say in case it upset the rest of us No one and no where is perfect and those of you /us who think so are delusional !!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 16:56
This is an interesting thread to read for someone who is about to move out to Dubai. I'm glad to see there's more positives than negatives!!
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 16:50
Those who like Dubai, like it and those who hate it will always hate it. It is what it is :D hmm not sure. I LOVED, then hated, then liked, then hated, (then had a holiday) the thought it was bearable, then okaaaay, now I like. But dont love it. Its a strange kind place. Kinda of grows on you at times :)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 16:48
Those who like Dubai, like it and those who hate it will always hate it. It is what it is :D nuff said hahaha
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 16:48
Those who like Dubai, like it and those who hate it will always hate it. It is what it is :D
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 16:44
Dear Birmingham, I would like to thank the local police for allowing 6 thugs to get away when they attacked my 5 month pregnant daughter. I would also like to thank the police for letting an armed bank robbery escape ater holding a gun to me in in the worlds local bank. I would like to thank my local council for not taking my stinky rubbish away weekly. Let me not thank someone who tried to break into my house twice in a week. A big thanks to the utility companys for charging the earth to keep us warm. The list can go on. Expat life isnt for everyone, I came to Dubai with both eyes open, just have to try and enjoy life here, Dubai isnt so bad, ok it has its ups and downs, but doesnt everywhere in the world. Im sure Dubai has never said it was perfect. Happy trip home to the OP. edited by salsB on 23/03/2011 I rest my case.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 16:43
What really gets on my nerves is the UK nationals who slate the UK, don't pay a penny in taxes and yet are usually the first to go back and demand the state supports them when their dream ends here Your within your right to if you still pay voluntary NI ;-)
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EW GURU
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 16:43
Dear Birmingham, Enough said LOL
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 16:41
Made the move a few weeks ago and now relocated in another expat posting The freedom that all our family feel being out of dubai after 10 years is totally unbelievable I cant say I LOVED dubai but until I left I didn t realise how much inhibited we all were - afraid to upset a local, afraid to drink outside of our home ( for me cos I wasn t working ) afraid to fall foul of any authority and end up in jail, afraid afraid afraid We didn t realise this until we left, we enjoyed our time but my we are glad to be gone ! I think you have made an excellent point.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 16:41
onthemove: I love your comment! It speaks loudly to me! Its the truth its how we feel x
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 16:39
onthemove: I love your comment! It speaks loudly to me!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 16:38
Dear Birmingham, I would like to thank the local police for allowing 6 thugs to get away when they attacked my 5 month pregnant daughter. I would also like to thank the police for letting an armed bank robbery escape ater holding a gun to me in in the worlds local bank. I would like to thank my local council for not taking my stinky rubbish away weekly. Let me not thank someone who tried to break into my house twice in a week. A big thanks to the utility companys for charging the earth to keep us warm. The list can go on. Expat life isnt for everyone, I came to Dubai with both eyes open, just have to try and enjoy life here, Dubai isnt so bad, ok it has its ups and downs, but doesnt everywhere in the world. Im sure Dubai has never said it was perfect. Happy trip home to the OP. <em>edited by salsB on 23/03/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 16:35
Made the move a few weeks ago and now relocated in another expat posting The freedom that all our family feel being out of dubai after 10 years is totally unbelievable I cant say I LOVED dubai but until I left I didn t realise how much inhibited we all were - afraid to upset a local, afraid to drink outside of our home ( for me cos I wasn t working ) afraid to fall foul of any authority and end up in jail, afraid afraid afraid We didn t realise this until we left, we enjoyed our time but my we are glad to be gone !
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 16:35
I think we may be the only people alive who actively sought to move here. No, no you are not :) I love the UAE. It is in my soul and hopefully DS will grow up the same. For the record we've never been to Kidzania or Brunch, we don't have a maid; we don't live "The Lifestyle" that people seem to think they will lead here. We just have a normal life. On that note, I've a washing to hang out. ;) PS I do feel sorry for people who don't like it here. I think it has a lot to do with your support network/friends and uncovering more of the UAE than glitzy glam etc. edited by miss balamory on 23/03/2011 What a strange statement to make. Why do you feel sorry for people who dislike Dubai? You have made it clear on several occasions that you dislike the UK, should I feel sorry for you? What really gets on my nerves is the UK nationals who slate the UK, don't pay a penny in taxes and yet are usually the first to go back and demand the state supports them when their dream ends here
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 16:34
We did A LOT of research before we moved here but, you just cannot know what a place is like until you actually live there. I had expectations/ideas about Dubai from what we heard from people who live here and what we read. If I had come here for vacation it would have been just OK but, once I started peeling the layers of the onion, I discovered many things that should not be in a so-called modern city. Mamaballs sounds really disappointed. I know I am. It's very defeating to move so far (at least we did) and end up disappointed and disgusted about some things. It took some time but, I have met some really wonderful people here, my sons's schools are great and I think the produce is fantastic. Hummus is the very best, too! There are just so many things---some Mamaballs has listed, some not, that overshadow the good. I ended up asking myself: was it worth all the effort to get here? Is the bs that I put up with everyday worth it? My husband having to do the job of 5 people? NO WAY! I'd rather live on a budget.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 16:31
Mamaballs, I think you forgot to add something else: You forgot to tell me that not everyone on EW is open to different opinions and can be quite rude at times! Have a safe journey x
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 16:30
Making it work wherever you live has a lot to do with: a. asking for help b. making the best of your situation c. having a positive attitude None of which the OP seems to have done. Why make the best of a situation if you don't have too. Isn't that accepting second best? If you don't have to then great. If, like a lot of people, this is where your home is for the next few years (because there are few options anywhere else) then you buckle down and make the best of it. Dh has a job, kids are in a good school, we have a roof over hour heads. As the moment we have a lot to be grateful for. Not saying life is a bed of roses because it isn't but it could be a lot worse. It comes down to whether you see your glass half empty or half full But isn't this, not quite making good of a bad situation, but a situation that you may not otherwise choose for your family if your circumstances were different?
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 16:25
Expat life is obviously not everybody cup of tea. Or maybe just the culture and restriction not to mention the weather in certain countries make it so much harder for some people to adjust and have the best what the countries have to offer. And maybe some people come from a smaller city or town in their countries, hence life in a city like Dubai is considered hectic. Some people come from a close knit family and like to be surrounded by everybody and everything that is dear and familiar. DH and I only get salary here....no housing, no school fees. We don't do brunches, no branded stuff, big villa or fancy cars. The salary I get here..... in my country, I would have to be a very senior manager to get it and in UK...well, after the tax of a pretty good salary. DH might be able to get the same salary in UK but definitely not an after tax salary. Life both in KL and London where our jobs would be, would be hectier than our life here. We would spend our weekdays either stuck in the traffic or chasing trains and undergrounds. Life in both KL and London would mean no family and free babysitter either as our families live in different part of the countries. So for DH and I, our family mean the three of us. As long as we are together, then we are home.... wherever it is. Like I said in my previous post, I am not in love with Dubai and I don't hate it. I am not oblivious to Dubai's imperfection but life is what you make of it at the end of the day ;) "Man is fond of counting his troubles, but he does not count his joys. If he counted them up as he ought to, he would see that every lot has enough happiness provided for it." ~Fyodor Dostoevsky <em>edited by blimey on 23/03/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 16:14
Hey Mamaballs, very funny and accurate account of life in Dubai. I didn't hate my couple of years in Dubai, but I knew it would be only for a couple of years and then I would be out there so I made the most of a multi-cultural experience for my family. But being home in Australia and seeing the blue sky every day (even with all our storms and flooding) is so lovely, fresh air and free state schooling better than the private schooling the kids had in Dubai. They've had to catch up with some of their activities such as ballet, but they're cramming a lot in and catching up fast. As others have said, it's horses for courses, some love it, some hate it, and some just get on with every day life and don't think about it too much.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 16:11
maybe I am missing the point, but I personally dont see Dubai in this light. I am a relative newbie and have no difficulties with the locals - i have never been treated like a second class citizen- the driving here is better than home - sure there are some fools but they exist anywhere . I deal with people through recommendation and everyone I seem to come into contact with has been superb .. I used to be in the city everyday in London and never had good service there. I cook every day - and the food is great - maybe a little different from home but never have I had a tomato like i have had here .... delicious .. But then - we chose to come here and we are incredibly happy with our decision - we wake up everyday looking at the sea.. fabulous .. its a shame you seem to have such a bad experience with Dubai so I wish you well with your move and hope that the next place is much happier and I agree with miss b ! i really believe you need some good genuine friends here its not all about brunch and bubbly <em>edited by bowbellscowbells on 23/03/2011</em>
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 15:46
Grrrrr...every time someone just wants to have a moan lately it seems to be met with a 'ohhh it could be so much worse...you could be in Libya, Egypt, NZ, Japan etc (insert country in chaos)' I think it goes without saying that YES - it could be worse, a lot worse, this is true. But every once in a while, its ok for people to have a general moan about whats going on in their world. Even if their favourite plant died - by all means not the end of the world to anyone else, but if its the worst thing in their world, let them get it out of their system without WDG (world distaster guilt). There are always going to be people worse off, it goes without saying. No need to be reminded constantly of the worlds disasters and unrest! :)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 15:40
To the OP, I have to ask you this, what would you have done if you had lived in a place like Indonesia or Libya or Egypt or Yemen or northern Africa????????????????? seriously I really do not get you complaining about living here.. and I lived in both developing and developed countries! maybe cause I have had the taste of living in an impoverished society!! I want to tell you something, Dubai is the best place to live out of the whole middle east and is also a very good place to live..believe it or not, driving here is much safer than other places..PS: trying driving in jakarta and you see what I mean!
 
 

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