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Who has 3?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 13 March 2012 - 19:21

I have little ones and my youngest is 15months. Wanting a third now, who has 3? How have you found it? What age gap are they? I left 2.5 years between the first two, but rethinking that this time round? Any advice?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 16 March 2012 - 14:03
Well I believe the most difficult times are between 2 and 5 yrs and when they reach their teens. At both these ages LO's tend to do the exact opp of what we ask them to do !!!!! My exp with 4 with the eldest 13 and youngest 6 months :)
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 16 March 2012 - 09:56
Mine are 8, 3 and 8months! To be honest a bigger age gap between # 2 and 3 would've been better as I don't have a maid so would've worked well if both the older 2 were in school full time. My 2nd is at home and doesn't nap any more so I still have entertain and look after her when baby is asleep so no naps for me during the day.
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Latest post on 16 March 2012 - 04:51
Thanks for all the insight ladies. I am dead keen for another one, however hubby is convinced that waiting another 2 - 3 years is better. not convinced as I kind of want to get all the baby stuff done together. If that makes sense. But we shall wait and see. Anyone know what the latest you can fly while pregnant is? Just to add to this thread. :) Having them close together, all of the 'hard' stuff (ie the exhaustion, daytime naps, nappies, teething, 100% dependence) is all over relatively quickly. In a relatively short time they are all old enough to allow the family a bit more 'freedom'. At the other end of childhood, they're all in school at the same time so more school fees all at once, but over a shorter total time. Leaving a bigger gap spreads all of that out. Leaving a bigger gap also means you have more time for each newborn in the first couple of years. Having three toddlers is wonderful, but the days do tend to blur together in a haze of exhausted 'coping'. ;) On flying...the usual latest date has escaped my mind at the moment. It's highly recommended to contact the airline each time you're planning to fly and check their policy. Once you start to show, I think it's worth carrying a letter from your OB every time. I've had friends refused boarding because they looked too heavily pregnant even though they were only 20-ish weeks along. I also had an airline try to stop me boarding once, but after some discussion, they accepted my OB's letter. Keep in mind, OB's letter or not, they can refuse you boarding at their whim!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 14 March 2012 - 21:41
my first 2 are 12 months apart, then i have a 7 year gap and my second 2 are 19 months apart... going from 1 to 2 was fine, loved the small age gap, going from 2 to 3 was EASY - prob due to the large age gap, going from 3 to 4 has been the hardest... all have different needs, and i am forever trying to chop myself up into quarters! lol they are a blessing though and i wouldn't change it for the world :)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 14 March 2012 - 17:57
Thanks for all the insight ladies. I am dead keen for another one, however hubby is convinced that waiting another 2 - 3 years is better. not convinced as I kind of want to get all the baby stuff done together. If that makes sense. But we shall wait and see. Anyone know what the latest you can fly while pregnant is? Just to add to this thread. :)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 14 March 2012 - 11:35
#1 and #2 are 16 months apart # 3 came 8 years later #4 came 5 years later For us, there was no ideal age group, as they both had pros and cons. Up until 1 year ago, the kids were at home with us, so having another 2 sets of hands made helping out with #3 easier, and as for #4...well we have it mastered by now...lol Any child, and age group, any gap is hard work but i wouldnt want it any other way!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 14 March 2012 - 11:11
Mine are 4 years, 2 years and 4 months old. I have all 3 at home so it's HARD WORK everytime. The eldest starts school September. I think having a gap of 3 years is perfect.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 14 March 2012 - 08:56
Hi I have 3 , first two are 24 months apart and the third is 22 months apart, ii was running around like a headless chicken, child 1 was hard work, child 2 was a dream baby and child. 3 was pretty good too, so i can honestly say my heart goes out o all of you, it is tough but you will survive and I have come out the other side of it , now 12,10,8 and they are wonderful......pre teens is kicking in with the eldest but hey I know how they feel most days as I remember those years more clearly myself than the U10s.....My hubs always said the ideal gap was 3 years In hindsight and why the heck did we not do that, but I wanted the poop years out of the way ASAP so glad I only changed nappies for 7 years it could have been longer.....eewww! <em>edited by loube on 14/03/2012</em>
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Latest post on 14 March 2012 - 07:36
I have three...the first two are 20 months apart and that first year after the second one was born was HARD WORK. In fact, it's a bit of a blur and there are lots of details about my second child (first words etc) that I just don't remember. :( My thrid was born another 2.5 yrs later and that was much easier for me. So...three under five was manic. Now they are 6, almost 5 and 2 and it's lovely...most days. I'm a wee bit terrified of the teenage years to come!!! lol
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Latest post on 13 March 2012 - 22:10
I have 3 hard work I have huge age gap with my eldest aged 11 middle 2 yrs and baby 5 months.........u would have thought it ll be easy with the big age gap but my 2 yr old thinks she's 11 lol and copies everything the eldest does, which she is not impressed with now. It's hard work whatever age gap u have lol But the baby n the the toddler together is fine easy peasy,..but prob won't be when he starts crawling and touching all her toys lol
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 13 March 2012 - 21:47
Hi I have 3... exactly 5 years between the eldest and youngest. Middle child born 2.5 years after the 1st. Sooo far it's going well. 3rd child is only 3 months old right now though - ask me again in a year (lol).
 
 

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