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Very very depressed

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 05 August 2011 - 23:32

I found out yesterday one of my best mates from secondary school died on Sunday. She was only 33 and had a daughter. We got up to some pretty hilarious hair raising stuff in boarding school. We lost touch after school and only reconnected last year because of fb. We'd been talking about her being part of my wedding. Just last week, I wished her a happy birthday. I'm just really really depressed and I've been acting odd since yesterday. I don't feel like doing anything and keep saying what's the point? You're just gonna up and die young anyway. I know this is awful thinking but I can't seem to shake myself of it. My 37 year old step sister died earlier this year too leaving behind a 13 year old daughter. Why don't evil people die? They live until they're 100 years old and all the good people just shove off young.
<em>edited by ladygodiva on 05/08/2011</em>

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EW GURU
Latest post on 07 August 2011 - 12:22
LG pls accept my condolences on your loss. I have been feeling a lot like u described in your post, as my son's classmate died on 1st April in a motorcycle crash. She was 17 yrs old. I have not been able to get over her death and keep trying to reach out to her mum who is in a lot of pain. My husband keeps telling me to snap out of it as such accidents happen, but I keep looking at her pics in my sons School Yearbooks and wonder why such a thing happened & wonder at life's logic....But reading all the positive things in the threads below makes me feel comforted too. Hope u feel better soon.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 06 August 2011 - 18:23
@Ladygodiva what wonderful caring positive responses your thread has brought and allowed a few others to express their grief.Reaching out to others is a really good first step. @Crystilindubai I can't take the credit for "Rainbow Bridge" I borrowed it from a poem on the Pet Forum some time back. I use it because it is such a beautiful saying. So very sorry about the loss of your mom.She knows you miss and love her. @UAE2012 Our family will pray for your family, stay strong. Big hugs to you and all those that need them. XXX edited by Nomad on 06/08/2011 <em>edited by Nomad on 06/08/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 06 August 2011 - 18:11
Ladygodiva, My sympathies for your loss. You need to give yourself time to grieve but also to celebrate your friends life. Life may seem cruel at times but losing people is a stark reminder that life is so very precious and should not be taken for granted or wasted. Death is part of the circle of life and will come to us all. We are not all to live a long life, however we all have the opportunity to make the most of the life we have and live it fully no matter how long we may be here for. Why put things off to tomorrow when you can do it today. Life goes fast and is too short for many, it is times like this that you are reminded to embrace every single moment. Its not about any materialistic things its about the people we love and the times we share with them. Give yourself time to accept your friends death but try to remember her and what she bought into your life. Give yourself time to remember her and bare her in your thoughts as you get on with your life but inevitably you must get on with your life.I am sure that she would want that more than anything. If she was given one more day I am sure she would embrace every second with enthusiasm and passion, and that my dear is what you need to do with the rest of yours. Be strong and be grateful for the time that she was in your life. Rather than feel sad at your own loss try to feel thankful for having had her in your life and for the great memories you have of her. Time is a great healer and when you have moments of sadness remember your friend and do something in her memory and think of her whilst you do it- something you would have loved doing together. Try not to feel guilty as this is only natural, why are you still here when they are not, there are no answers for these questions, be grateful for everything you have and embrace life and everything it has given you. I wish you well Kittycat xxx
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 06 August 2011 - 17:47
Ladygodiva - I think this life is so cruel, and good people are given a faster way to get out of it's troubles. I am sending you a lot of hugs and god bless you and their souls
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 06 August 2011 - 14:40
Ladygodiva- I'm so sorry to hear that, hopefully she will be in a better place, may she rest in peace. I know exactly how you feel, I've been depressed for the last 6 months as I have a lot of relatives and friends who have died during the revolution in Libya, they're all in their early/late 20s, one of them was meant to get married this summer. Most of them have been shot and some have been tortured in prison until they died. :( I can't stop getting the images out of my head and have been cryin myself to sleep. I try my best to think positively and think that they are all in a better place now. Life is too short, we should all try and do the best we can in life. Never give up on life, like emlsnre said 'we have to be strong, breathe and hold our memories'. May all our loved ones rest in peace X <em>edited by UAE2012 on 06/08/2011</em>
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 06 August 2011 - 14:08
Really sorry to hear of your loss..... Within the last eight months I have lost three friends, all very early 40's. None of them knew the other, 1 like your friend died in a car accident and leaves behind a 14 year old, another died of cance and left 2 junior age kids, and a very old school friend who hadn't found life too easy died of kidney failure. At times it does make you think WTF, and what is the point. However, it is also at these sad times that you see how many lives these people touched. And that is the point, it is amazing without realising how much people do care and pull together. Be strong, breathe, and hold dear your memories xx
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 06 August 2011 - 13:53
thanks crystalindubai :(
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EW GURU
Latest post on 06 August 2011 - 11:03
@ ladygodiva: lots of love and hugs for you... @ Nomad: I love your "Rainbow Bridge"... - will use it to connect with my Mom who passed over it just this June. Thank you.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 06 August 2011 - 09:54
thank you for the responses. it's really hard to get over this
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 06 August 2011 - 00:29
Most important is to allow yourself to grieve even to be angry re the loss of such young lives and those they leave behind. Having worked with terminally ill patients I know it is so difficult to come to terms with the fact that someone who is so young and such a good person dying prematurely. I could never give an answer when helping the bereaved family. I light a candle when I feel I need a connection with a loved one or friend who have gone over the" Rainbow Bridge". It is a tangible connection and I am sure they really appreciate the fact that you miss them and are thinking about them. Big hugs to you and I will light a candle for you. <em>edited by Nomad on 06/08/2011</em>
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EW GURU
Latest post on 06 August 2011 - 00:14
*Hugs* I'm sorry to hear about your friend :( Death is really hard to deal with, so please be gentle with yourself and give yourself time and space to grieve.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 06 August 2011 - 00:07
Hugs...... if it doesn't hurt to talk about it... how did she die? was she ill? Re the evil lot...... well, God just gives them a little extra time to see if they'll turn into a good leaf..... or are damned forever. She was in an automobile accident.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 05 August 2011 - 23:46
Hugs...... if it doesn't hurt to talk about it... how did she die? was she ill? Re the evil lot...... well, God just gives them a little extra time to see if they'll turn into a good leaf..... or are damned forever.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 05 August 2011 - 23:44
Nothing to say LG, but hugs to you :(
 
 

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