What age would you consider too old to have a baby?

Thx Kimball. All the ladies here give me so much hope! In the meantime I really hope poor Amanda is being looked after and being offered some answers as to what went wrong so she can have some hope for the future. Poor poor poor love. Without wanting to be morbid (just realistic), I would guess at 7 months she'll now have to endure a funeral as well - sorry, tears in my eyes as I type just thinking of it ;-( ;-( I can't share my experience as it's still painful and probably the reason I hate Geneva so much, but I'll just say that I would think a funeral is the least worst thing to endure in such awful circumstances.

Thx Kimball. All the ladies here give me so much hope! In the meantime I really hope poor Amanda is being looked after and being offered some answers as to what went wrong so she can have some hope for the future. Poor poor poor love. Without wanting to be morbid (just realistic), I would guess at 7 months she'll now have to endure a funeral as well - sorry, tears in my eyes as I type just thinking of it ;-( ;-(

Thanks Simpleas - ohhhh 22 weeks, that must have been truly dreadful, but so glad you're the other side of it now with a lovely DD :-) xxxx

Oh Claire - thank you so much for your words. Gives me a lot of hope and inspiration!!! So hope to be joining the babes n bumps threads in the not too distant future!!! Mega health kick starting now ...... lets see what 2011 / 2012 brings eh!! xxx

PS - my heart goes out to Amanda Holden - it was bad enough at 14 wks, I can't comprehend what she must be going through at 7 months!!!! Yes, poor woman, horrible thing to go through - it's the worst feeling in the world having to go into labour and knowing you're giving birth, but to a still-born. Good luck, Lotti, I had a 22 week miscarriage when I was 37, then had my lovely dorter when I was 39. It can be done!

By this time next week I will have just turned 40 (SOB SOB!!!) and am childless (another huge sob). Reason? Partially due to being a career/party girl throughout my 20's and a career girl/failed marriage throughout my early 30’s. I have since been with my dear other half for 5 years and fell pregnant at the end of 2008 (age 37) ....we were still in the UK and overjoyed!! (for any that recognise me on here I normally post DH as I have been ULTRA cautious from day one of arriving here – if you get what I’m saying?). Sadly I miscarried at 14 weeks back in Feb 2009. Utterly devastated, but finally accepted it's VERY common, especially at my age. Then just 2 months later I was made redundant, then 2 months after that my other half was made redundant (!!) and as a result our wedding plans were shelved due to lack of funds! Within 3 months of both our redundancies we had found good jobs here (wasn’t our first choice but hey, the jobs & financials made sense!!). Now having been here for 18 months (we love it here despite the usual frustrations) we are finally planning our wedding (in between our busy work schedules) for May 2011, and will be at it like rabbits thereafter in the hope of producing a child  So sorry to hijack this thread but the ‘when is too old’ bit really tugged my heartstrings having not yet produced one & rapidly approaching my 40’s . I hope and pray that once we’re married I can fall with no complications and not go through the heartache of another miscarriage  To answer the original OP’s question? My opinion is if you have a brood, no matter what age then enjoy life without nappies, potty training etc etc. If you’re 46 now chances are you’ll be 47 if not 48 by the time you deliver, the child would still be begging you for cash to see him/her through university when you are just about to start enjoying your pension!! Just my thoughts. Sorry this was so long and apologies again for hijacking the thread ……. Just feeling a little bit hard done by on the baby front and hope it’s my turn soon ……….. x Edits due to - making spaces between the para's! edited by Loopy Lotti on 06/02/2011 edited by Loopy Lotti on 06/02/2011 edited by Loopy Lotti on 06/02/2011 you're not yet 40 - you have time and you know that you can get pregnant so that's a great sign. I was career and party girl and then broken marriage so I was late to have my babies - had quite a few miscarriages too - thoght it just would not happen for me but got married and very very quickly fell pregnant with my little boy at 41 - had a miscarriage very soon after having him and went on to have a gorgeous little girl at 43. Best thing ever to happen to me cos I truly thought I would not have children. I love every minute with them and know I am blessed to have one of each - would have loved to have more but felt I was pushing my luck - 2 naturally conceived babies in early 40s and both healthy babies - have hung my baby making shoes up. don't lose heart - I'm sure you'll come back from your honeymoon and before you know where you are you'll be buying baby equipment! As far as what age is too old.....I think only you really know..... I know now that my life is fantastic - the kids are entertaining and are pretty independent - we can go to lovely restaurants and they order their own meals and engage in animated conversation - we are loving them being a bit older (6 and 7) and for me.....I would not want to go back to nappies and baby gear. Good luck! <em>edited by Clairehdp on 06/02/2011</em>

PS - my heart goes out to Amanda Holden - it was bad enough at 14 wks, I can't comprehend what she must be going through at 7 months!!!!

By this time next week I will have just turned 40 (SOB SOB!!!) and am childless (another huge sob). Reason? Partially due to being a career/party girl throughout my 20's and a career girl/failed marriage throughout my early 30’s. I have since been with my dear other half for 5 years and fell pregnant at the end of 2008 (age 37) ....we were still in the UK and overjoyed!! (for any that recognise me on here I normally post DH as I have been ULTRA cautious from day one of arriving here – if you get what I’m saying?). Sadly I miscarried at 14 weeks back in Feb 2009. Utterly devastated, but finally accepted it's VERY common, especially at my age. Then just 2 months later I was made redundant, then 2 months after that my other half was made redundant (!!) and as a result our wedding plans were shelved due to lack of funds! Within 3 months of both our redundancies we had found good jobs here (wasn’t our first choice but hey, the jobs & financials made sense!!). Now having been here for 18 months (we love it here despite the usual frustrations) we are finally planning our wedding (in between our busy work schedules) for May 2011, and will be at it like rabbits thereafter in the hope of producing a child  So sorry to hijack this thread but the ‘when is too old’ bit really tugged my heartstrings having not yet produced one & rapidly approaching my 40’s . I hope and pray that once we’re married I can fall with no complications and not go through the heartache of another miscarriage  To answer the original OP’s question? My opinion is if you have a brood, no matter what age then enjoy life without nappies, potty training etc etc. If you’re 46 now chances are you’ll be 47 if not 48 by the time you deliver, the child would still be begging you for cash to see him/her through university when you are just about to start enjoying your pension!! Just my thoughts. Sorry this was so long and apologies again for hijacking the thread ……. Just feeling a little bit hard done by on the baby front and hope it’s my turn soon ……….. x Edits due to - making spaces between the para's! edited by Loopy Lotti on 06/02/2011 edited by Loopy Lotti on 06/02/2011 <em>edited by Loopy Lotti on 06/02/2011</em>

my sisters gran-in-law had her last at 54! and she's still v young at heart at 96!! :\: and again :\:

Well for some that overwhelming feeling of wanting another one sadly does not diminish. I was in that boat...I have friends who in their late forties really wanted another one and did so. I really don't think it matters as long as you are healthy and you monitor the pregnancy and everything accordingly. If you feel great, REALLY desperately want another child then god forbid you hold off and resent it in 5-10 years time. Do what is right for you and your family and your heart will be happy. SH

you should check out fairy godmothers in dubai. Its a new thing someone from this forum recently started. (i think its on facebook??) Its some type of group where moms of older kids can be like fairy godmothers to new moms w/babies here. Might be just the thing for you to get some nice baby cuddles and give some good advice, but not have to actually have another baby.

I know how you feel i am 46 and would love to have another one .. . i have 3 boys aged 10 7 and 2 and i long for a daughter but sadly now i can't have any more but it doesn't stop me wanting to You're as young as you feel . . . . its hard

Freckles beat me to it, but was going to offer my two toddlers on loan for a few days. They will immediately remove any feelings broodiness you might be having. :) <em>edited by jeniawwad on 06/02/2011</em>

Are you crazy wooman????? 2 grown up kids and an 8 yr old? You are getting your life back!!!! Get a kitten or something..at least that won't keep you up all night, or make you walk around all day with vomit stained clothes smelling of poop. Jeez I envy you!!!! Enjoy your freedom. Alternatively take my two for a day (or a week if you fancy)...

Hormones sweetie, hopefully the notion will wear off shortly.