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Why don't people respect other people's time?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 10:11

I have been looking for a decent maid so thought I would try my luck with Right Maids. We arranged for the maid to come this morning at 8:00 AM - I even took the morning off work. They called yesterday to confirm so I was happy that they were being professional.

Until now. Waited over one hour for the maid, she is still not here. Now they called me 1 hour late saying that the maid is sick and she cannot come and that someone will come in the afternoon. After I took the morning off!!!! I can't wait around the whole day for this. I asked her why they did not inform me earlier and she said it is because she just got to the office now. I am seething!

Why don't people respect other people's time and schedules?

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EW GURU
Latest post on 29 October 2011 - 21:12
We were due to meet friends at 6 on Thursday night. Running late but didn't bother texting until 6.25 when we were 5 minutes from the hotel, we text "Can you order Mojito & pint, thanks" Needless to say that they didn't order our drinks so we had to wait 15 minutes (what seemed like an hour) for them while they happily tucked into theirs. Lesson well & truly learnt
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 29 October 2011 - 17:42
Lol @ shamat! I work as an ecological field researcher. =)
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 28 October 2011 - 20:22
Totally agree that lateness, no show and cancellation without warning is extreme rudeness and so is all the other anti social behaviour we get here. "Why don't people respect other people." FULL STOP Yup, and a quick text isn't going to hurt at all. I mean, if you haven't yet got dressed 10 minutes before you're due to be somewhere, then it's pretty clear that a/ you're not going to make it and b/ taking 2 minutes to send an apologetic text will at least buy you some goodwill. My big pet hate are complete no-shows with no warning and no excuse - so incredibly rude and disrespectful, I actually couldn't imagine the thought process that could lead to doing such a thing. I mean do they go "hmm, I arranged to go see X today, but can't really be bothered any more. What's on the telly?" and it honestly doesn't even cross their mind that X may have cleared their schedule to actually be able to welcome them?! I feel so lucky to have a lovely bunch of polite and courteous friends! :-D Oh, and yes, never turn up early - it puts too much pressure on the host, but 15-30 minutes grace is fine. If dinner's at 20h and I haven't had a text from the late person warning me, it'll still be at 20h and they'll just have the embarrassment of missing the start of the meal and having to perch on the end of the table... 2 hours late and they'd be turned away at the door!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 20:34
Off topic, but its the losers at traffic lights that get me. They do god only knows what in their cars whilst waiting for the green light and then when it comes they dilly dally somuch thats its flashing at you, they always make it through though and its you that has to wait for the next green,GRRR!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 15:40
If you think that's bad, I work on an uninhabited island where the only access to the mainland is via local fisherman boat. /quote'> I'm desperate to ask what you do for a living, but I usually refrain from asking personal questions on here! :)
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 14:59
Thanks =) It has its pros and cons, but I suppose not too many people can say they get a wicked tan while they work!
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 14:55
singingcanary, i just love your job!
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 14:52
If you think that's bad, I work on an uninhabited island where the only access to the mainland is via local fisherman boat. The boatman who takes me over and back daily often changes times sporadically and is late for pick ups (to be fair, he has a day job which is not schedule consistent, so it's not exactly his fault). Often he will be anywhere from 20 minutes to 90 minutes late. Its not too bad in the morning when I can wait inside for him, but imagine sitting on the beach just wanting to go home and being entirely dependent on his schedule! oh dear!! what a headache - not like you can swim is it!!
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 14:51
If you think that's bad, I work on an uninhabited island where the only access to the mainland is via local fisherman boat. The boatman who takes me over and back daily often changes times sporadically and is late for pick ups (to be fair, he has a day job which is not schedule consistent, so it's not exactly his fault). Often he will be anywhere from 20 minutes to 90 minutes late. Its not too bad in the morning when I can wait inside for him, but imagine sitting on the beach just wanting to go home and being entirely dependent on his schedule!
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 14:50
Totally agree that lateness, no show and cancellation without warning is extreme rudeness and so is all the other anti social behaviour we get here. "Why don't people respect other people." FULL STOP
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 13:10
There are two different aspects in this - one, if you are a paying customer of a business, and two, related to friends or family. The OP had booked a maid from a service to come in and she had taken the time off work to be there for the maid. A few others have mentioned appointments which they were paying for and had either changes or cancellations that they weren't told about. For a business to do this to customers without any phonecall or notice is completely inexcusable and unacceptable. We, as paying customers should speak up and tell them that they won't stay in business if they treat customers like this. As for family and friends, we could write a whole book on that. :-p True true. :) Couldn't help getting of topic, it hit a sore spot ;) Back on topic : Unfortunately nothing can be done except for go through a new agency. If I were in the OP I would be very mad and what would make me even more mad is that the agency probably wouldn't care about thier actions and about losing a customer. It seems that customer service here is lacking. Maybe a call can be made to the company complaining?
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 12:55
There are two different aspects in this - one, if you are a paying customer of a business, and two, related to friends or family. The OP had booked a maid from a service to come in and she had taken the time off work to be there for the maid. A few others have mentioned appointments which they were paying for and had either changes or cancellations that they weren't told about. For a business to do this to customers without any phonecall or notice is completely inexcusable and unacceptable. We, as paying customers should speak up and tell them that they won't stay in business if they treat customers like this. As for family and friends, we could write a whole book on that. :-p Hear hear :D
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EW GURU
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 12:06
There are two different aspects in this - one, if you are a paying customer of a business, and two, related to friends or family. The OP had booked a maid from a service to come in and she had taken the time off work to be there for the maid. A few others have mentioned appointments which they were paying for and had either changes or cancellations that they weren't told about. For a business to do this to customers without any phonecall or notice is completely inexcusable and unacceptable. We, as paying customers should speak up and tell them that they won't stay in business if they treat customers like this. As for family and friends, we could write a whole book on that. :-p
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 11:18
Haha don't even get me started on my in-laws. Everytime we invite my sister-in-law over they are always an hour late. I am considering telling her an earlier time so that she is on time. It's not fun with people over sitting hungry because a family decides to be late every single time. I even joked in front of her saying I should tell some people to come an hour earlier for my daughters 1st bday party but I guess she didn't get the hint. AND when my husband and I got married in the states in 2003, his side of the family were so late they didn't get there until after the reception had started and completely missed the wedding. I guess shopping at Mall of America was more important because that's where they were. Okay small rant done :) That is seriously a big pet peeve for me because I feel there is an utter disregard for other peoples time. edited by grace83 on 27/10/2011 are they Arabs? My husbands family are lebanese and you never ever turn up anywhere on time!! When you're invited for dinner, it's considered rude to turn up on time! For my sister in law's wedding reception, the time was at 8pm, but most people didn't even start turning up until 9pm and the reception didnt start till 9.30!! it just seems like it's a cultural thing. My husband was 2 hours late for our first date!! I've trained him well now though, he's much better ;) They are Pakistani and in thier culture it's the same thing. The thing I don't like is still the lateness with people we've complained to. I don't know how many hours we've spent sitting and waiting for people. Even my husband doesn't like it.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 11:17
Blimey! It's enough to wear me out just thinking about it!
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 11:13
I am always early - can't abide being late for anything. I really struggle with how it's seen as being rude to be on time for things! Apparently to their way of thinking, turning up for a dinner appointment on time is like saying you're so greedy and keen to eat. And if you turn up on time the hosts will definately not be ready - as they're expecting you to be 20 mins late (that's the general rule - 20 mins :\:) I guess it's something I've learned to live with over the last 8 years!! but I do hate it when people turn up late or not at all. to me it's inconsiderate!!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 11:09
I am always early - can't abide being late for anything. I really struggle with how it's seen as being rude to be on time for things!
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 11:08
It is called Dubai time and it drives me mad... I was always taught to be punctual however people here are either late or don't turn up.. So rude!
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 11:07
Haha don't even get me started on my in-laws. Everytime we invite my sister-in-law over they are always an hour late. I am considering telling her an earlier time so that she is on time. It's not fun with people over sitting hungry because a family decides to be late every single time. I even joked in front of her saying I should tell some people to come an hour earlier for my daughters 1st bday party but I guess she didn't get the hint. AND when my husband and I got married in the states in 2003, his side of the family were so late they didn't get there until after the reception had started and completely missed the wedding. I guess shopping at Mall of America was more important because that's where they were. Okay small rant done :) That is seriously a big pet peeve for me because I feel there is an utter disregard for other peoples time. edited by grace83 on 27/10/2011 are they Arabs? My husbands family are lebanese and you never ever turn up anywhere on time!! When you're invited for dinner, it's considered rude to turn up on time! For my sister in law's wedding reception, the time was at 8pm, but most people didn't even start turning up until 9pm and the reception didnt start till 9.30!! it just seems like it's a cultural thing. My husband was 2 hours late for our first date!! I've trained him well now though, he's much better ;)
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 10:50
OMG Grace! They missed your wedding! Dibdab I feel your pain. They should have informed you earlier. I had guests a few weeks ago who came 2.5 hours late. 2.5 hours! I had rushed home from a prior engagement just to get home on time to bake a cake, make 4 different snacks and tidy up the apartment only to sit twiddling my thumbs for 2.5 hours while everything became cold. I wouldn't bother inviting them back. Honestly, we moved here from Switzerland ( the country of time) and I can't tell you the number of times I have lost it at people because they haven't bothered to call to tell me they're late. It's inadmissable and rude to be late and I don't put up with it. There is no excuse in this day and age. <em>edited by derien on 27/10/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 10:44
OMG Grace! They missed your wedding! Dibdab I feel your pain. They should have informed you earlier. I had guests a few weeks ago who came 2.5 hours late. 2.5 hours! I had rushed home from a prior engagement just to get home on time to bake a cake, make 4 different snacks and tidy up the apartment only to sit twiddling my thumbs for 2.5 hours while everything became cold.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 10:36
Haha don't even get me started on my in-laws. Everytime we invite my sister-in-law over they are always an hour late. I am considering telling her an earlier time so that she is on time. It's not fun with people over sitting hungry because a family decides to be late every single time. I even joked in front of her saying I should tell some people to come an hour earlier for my daughters 1st bday party but I guess she didn't get the hint. AND when my husband and I got married in the states in 2003, his side of the family were so late they didn't get there until after the reception had started and completely missed the wedding. I guess shopping at Mall of America was more important because that's where they were. Okay small rant done :) That is seriously a big pet peeve for me because I feel there is an utter disregard for other peoples time. <em>edited by grace83 on 27/10/2011</em>
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 10:20
It seems to be common here, it is so frustrating. I was going on holiday a few weeks ago and was flying on Thursday evening - I had booked an appointment to have my eyebrows done after work on the same day, unfortunately it was last minute as it had been a busy week. My appointment was at 7pm but I was delayed at work and I called them at 6:45 to say that I was on my way but I would be 15 mins late - only to be informed that the lady who does eyebrows was sick and I could not have my appointment. I asked whether she had been sick all day or had she just gone home and they said that she had not been there all day so I would have to go the next day instead. I was so mad as they should have called me in the morning and I could then have gone somewhere during my lunch hour at work - I explained this to them and they didn't seem to understand why I was angry - I couldn't then get an appointment anywhere else and had to go on holiday with dodgy eyebrows :( They would have just let me turn up for my appointment before they actually told me if I hadn't have called them, grrrrr.
 
 

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