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What was your 'push' present?

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Latest post on 11 August 2012 - 22:39
By others maybe-but not by me-it was an individual question and this is my answer-is that a problem for you? Believe me when two very ill premature babies with multiple problems survive it is a gift that surpasses any present Truly, healthy children are far more precious than material goods, and personally my MIL psychologically abused me for years because she failed to grasp that DH and I couldn't conceive in spite of our varied efforts. She assumed that by not producing kids I was acting immature and wasn't truly cut out for marriage to her son. In that light, our first baby was truly the gift that we had prayed for. Our second baby was all the more precious because he became severely ill after we celebrated his seventh day of life, and the doctors suggested that he wouldn't survive. In the past year, each of my kids has had a very scary illness, and the experience truly puts what we value in perspective. Sorry to hear that, Apricot. I hope your two lovely children are ok now.
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Latest post on 10 August 2012 - 22:13
The ladies that are getting so aggressively angry over a push present clearly have alot of insecurity issues over not getting anything! You really need to chill. I didnt ask my DH for anything. He came home with a beautiful piece of tiffany jewelry and a handmade card and said 'I love you and our baby thank you for everything your doing for us'. I guess according to you ladies I should have bashed him over the head for being so sweet and considerate! Jeez. Inferior complexes or what. Akhh that is so sweet of him! you are a lucky woman:)
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Latest post on 10 August 2012 - 21:26
The ladies that are getting so aggressively angry over a push present clearly have alot of insecurity issues over not getting anything! You really need to chill. I didnt ask my DH for anything. He came home with a beautiful piece of tiffany jewelry and a handmade card and said 'I love you and our baby thank you for everything your doing for us'. I guess according to you ladies I should have bashed him over the head for being so sweet and considerate! Jeez. Inferior complexes or what.
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Latest post on 10 August 2012 - 13:43
What to gift, when to gift, whether to gift is a personal choice, nobody should comment on the choice made. It certainly is not a Dubai thing. Like my parents, they don't really like the concept of all these "days", like valentine's day, mother's day, father's day etc.. it's upto them , we still wish them though :) I did not get anything, infact DS was born a day before DH's birthday, and I could not gift him in a better way :D (and nothing else apart from that, not even a card or a pastry) Most of our family members, friends totally forgot his birthday too! Poor him!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 August 2012 - 12:36
It was just a lighthearted conversation. what's wrong with expecting a present? no one is asking for a present above her DH's means, just an appreciation of what we had to go through, and up to his budget, what he can get. if he can only afford a flower, then that's great, and if he can get more, why not?? it is the thought that counts. why does everything have to turn so negative here???
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 August 2012 - 12:11
Sigh, why does it always have to be about being a better person or understanding life? It's a lighthearted chat about what your hubby bought you as a present, I didn't expect a present but gratefully accepted my gift. Does that make me shallow and materialistic? All too often people are quick with their sweeping statements, and it's a very immature approach, everyone is different and if you don't think a " push present" is necessary, then that's fine by me, but don't go around with your holier than thou attitude looking down on someone who got a sparkler from their hubby because he was happy to have a child and wanted to buy his wife a gift. I do understand that the commercialism of all family related events is not to everyones taste, me included, but this wasn't about that. Chill.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 August 2012 - 09:37
The last ladies who have replied to this shallow thread know the meaning and wonder of life, the first lot need to get a life. Do you really expect to get diamonds for 'pushing' out a sprog?? It's NOT a Dubai 'thing' it sucks where ever you are on this planet if that is your attitude, is your baby not enough??? No don't need to get a life!!! I have 4 children to look after and it's not my fault my husband got me a push present! But I do think I deserved it after looking after my 5&4 year olds while pregnant with twins on my own in Australia while my husband worked here and then gave birth on my own and then breast feed my twins day and night by myself as well as get my kids to school and look after them and make sure they had dinner on the table. So yes!!!! I deserved my PUSH PRESENT and on top of that I produced 4 healthy beautiful children!!!!! Good on ME!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 August 2012 - 09:01
Push Presents are alive in well in New York City, sadly have been for years so unlikely a "dubai" thing, a "London" thing or associated with any other specific city but I would hazard a guess to say it probably did originate in the US. In my mind it is just another product of the marketing and retail industry that has engulfed all things "relationship/family based". First it was the insanely expensive, over the top weddings and when that was not enough over the top bridal showers, bachelorette weekends then themed and catered baby showers, now push presents. In our drive to compete as consumers the only people we are bolstering is the retail industry. Most tragic is the people I see who really cannot afford these things and yet do them as it is now "expected". I know people who took loans out to buy their engagement rings, spent three times their annual salary on an 8 hour wedding reception and now I presume husbands who save up to buy "push presents". The majority of my friends here and abroad have focused attention on push presents all lovely sweet and good people and if it brings them joy then fine with me, but I think it does us some good to take some time to think about why we feel the need and what sort of compulsion these sorts of gifts are really feeding. Just an opinion. edited by fandrew on 10/08/2012 <em>edited by fandrew on 10/08/2012</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 August 2012 - 02:06
The last ladies who have replied to this shallow thread know the meaning and wonder of life, the first lot need to get a life. Do you really expect to get diamonds for 'pushing' out a sprog?? It's NOT a Dubai 'thing' it sucks where ever you are on this planet if that is your attitude, is your baby not enough???
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Latest post on 10 August 2012 - 00:46
By others maybe-but not by me-it was an individual question and this is my answer-is that a problem for you? Believe me when two very ill premature babies with multiple problems survive it is a gift that surpasses any present Truly, healthy children are far more precious than material goods, and personally my MIL psychologically abused me for years because she failed to grasp that DH and I couldn't conceive in spite of our varied efforts. She assumed that by not producing kids I was acting immature and wasn't truly cut out for marriage to her son. In that light, our first baby was truly the gift that we had prayed for. Our second baby was all the more precious because he became severely ill after we celebrated his seventh day of life, and the doctors suggested that he wouldn't survive. In the past year, each of my kids has had a very scary illness, and the experience truly puts what we value in perspective.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 10 August 2012 - 00:00
Nothing-both ours were extremely premature births and very ill so presents were the last thing on our minds. Wouldn't have expected one even if they weren't-[b'>thought the baby was the gift[/b'>. This has already been answered. By others maybe-but not by me-it was an individual question and this is my answer-is that a problem for you? Believe me when two very ill premature babies with multiple problems survive it is a gift that surpasses any present
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EW GURU
Latest post on 09 August 2012 - 23:35
Lovely gestures from your husbands ladies (although personally Id find cash a little odd as our accounts are totally linked, so It would be like getting something that was already mine). Its good to see there are so many caring guys out there. My hubby spoilt me when I got home. But to be honest, the best gifts were the thoughtful ones like letting me lay in after a long night, bringing me breakfast in bed, running me a bath and organising for a masseuse to come to our house in between feeds. However none of that really compared to watching my DH cuddle my first born to sleep with that beautiful look of pride on his face. To me that memory is priceless :) <em>edited by flydiver11 on 09/08/2012</em>
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 09 August 2012 - 23:14
What great gifts from your DH! I wonder if it's too late to ask for a push present. I've already pushed out three. I would ask for National Bonds in a big lump sum!! V good investment and I keep getting small cash prizes in the monthly draws al hamdulillah. Or one of those timed investment deposit things at Emirates/ Dubai Islamic Banks. The money is tied up for a year max, and you get profits on it every 3 months that can be accessed from the debit card they give you. Spending money for YOU! <em>edited by Apricot on 09/08/2012</em>
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Latest post on 09 August 2012 - 17:46
I suggested jewelry with DS1's birth but he got me a shiny Volvo estate and I was really happy (childhood obsession with my school friends' mom's cars). With DS2, he gave me a cash gift equal to my wedding dowry and I put it into an investment fund. What great gifts from your DH! I wonder if it's too late to ask for a push present. I've already pushed out three.
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Latest post on 09 August 2012 - 09:07
Nothing-both ours were extremely premature births and very ill so presents were the last thing on our minds. Wouldn't have expected one even if they weren't-[b'>thought the baby was the gift[/b'>. This has already been answered.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 09 August 2012 - 06:05
Nothing-both ours were extremely premature births and very ill so presents were the last thing on our minds. Wouldn't have expected one even if they weren't-thought the baby was the gift.
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Latest post on 09 August 2012 - 03:31
I suggested jewelry with DS1's birth but he got me a shiny Volvo estate and I was really happy (childhood obsession with my school friends' mom's cars). With DS2, he gave me a cash gift equal to my wedding dowry and I put it into an investment fund.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 08 August 2012 - 11:15
My first was an eternity ring plus a cash sum and for the second a cash sum. Totally unexpected both times and made me howl both times. Still doesn't want to a night feed lol but know he appreciates me.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 08 August 2012 - 09:13
I thought it was tradition to receive a eternity ring to go with your engagement and wedding band.. well for your 1st born. My Grandmother was offered an eternity ring for their 65th wedding anniversary, Grandpa decided this was an eternity.
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Latest post on 07 August 2012 - 19:48
I got lovely Hawaiian Pearl earrings and a Nespresso machine. Have made MUCH more use of the Nespresso machine! I recommend one for all new mums!
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Latest post on 07 August 2012 - 17:31
I thought it was tradition to receive a eternity ring to go with your engagement and wedding band.. well for your 1st born.
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Latest post on 07 August 2012 - 00:34
I got nothing from him for the two births, not even a ****** flower! I really wanted those baby girl balloons, and I got nothing! and nothing from friends either:(( and I always sent flowers to hospitals when they delivered:(
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Latest post on 06 August 2012 - 14:21
I got a lovely diamond ring for my first , and my next baby is due in 4 weeks and hubby has treated me to a new changing bag haha
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Latest post on 05 August 2012 - 16:17
Diamond bracelet for first,pat on the back for the second! ;)
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Latest post on 05 August 2012 - 15:39
My dad gave my mum a diamond and sapphire ring as a push present; that was in the UK and a few decades ago - so neither a new thing or a Dubai thing Exactly. Its really not a new thing or a Dubai thing. Edit to add: Lovely present by the way! edited by JBR_Mummy on 05/08/2012 Yes, definitely not a new thing. My dad gave my mum a diamond and saphire ring (it coudn't have been expensive as they were struggling students but she wears with her wedding band everyday since I was born 40 years ago). That was in England. I doubt they called it a "push" present as its coined nowadays but it was certianly a little gift/token for carrying their baby and going through the birthing process for both of them. For each of my children, my dh, bought me a David Yurman baby bracelet with the relevant birthstone on it. They are thin enough to wear daily and i love them. In fact I never take them off. [b'>Push presents don't need to be expensive, I think its just a gesture based on appreciation[/b'>. Agreed!
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Latest post on 05 August 2012 - 15:35
Don't know if it's a new thing or a Dubai thing but I'm totally jumping on the bandwagon! Why not lol! Have spied a nice tennis bracelet or a tanzanite ring in the Gold and Diamond Park altho DH is cr*p with presents so I will be lucky to receive some supermarket flowers. And a lovely baby of course ;) send him to a pre selected shop with the correct "surprises" picked out ;) Good tip - let's face it, even with a sparkly diamond it can still go very wrong! i think most husbands are clueless when it comes to gifts! (although they will eagerly wait for their gift ) i have to drill whole year into my husband that i do not like recieving big bouquets only a single flower, that too oriental lily, with some nice wrapping....still i got a huge bouquet on our anniversary with lots of roses and a tiny oriental lily in between :) and after guiding him and telling him clearly about push presents he convieniently forgot! ( and asked me how can i get push present when bub was delievered through c-section )but in the end what matters is the healthy baby :) ps: in july, when my son completed 3 months i got coach handbag. might think it as a push present ;) edited by angel joy on 05/08/2012 <em>edited by angel joy on 05/08/2012</em>
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EW GURU
Latest post on 05 August 2012 - 15:35
My dad gave my mum a diamond and sapphire ring as a push present; that was in the UK and a few decades ago - so neither a new thing or a Dubai thing Exactly. Its really not a new thing or a Dubai thing. Edit to add: Lovely present by the way! edited by JBR_Mummy on 05/08/2012 Yes, definitely not a new thing. My dad gave my mum a diamond and saphire ring (it coudn't have been expensive as they were struggling students but she wears with her wedding band everyday since I was born 40 years ago). That was in England. I doubt they called it a "push" present as its coined nowadays but it was certianly a little gift/token for carrying their baby and going through the birthing process for both of them. For each of my children, my dh, bought me a David Yurman baby bracelet with the relevant birthstone on it. They are thin enough to wear daily and i love them. In fact I never take them off. Push presents don't need to be expensive, I think its just a gesture based on appreciation.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 05 August 2012 - 15:34
I got a Hublot watch for my twins, nothing for my second child (dunno why LOL) and a LV bag for my first (was my first LV bag too) so was really special.... I never expected anything but my hubby just does it....
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Latest post on 05 August 2012 - 15:33
Many refer to it as a push present but that doesnt mean its only given at point of pushing! I'm sure those who were gifted things from their family and partners werent looking at their baby to be as any less of a gift. Calm down ladies! For me, after many months of pregnancy it was a lovely thoughtful gesture from dh and its something I will always wear with our sons date of birth engraved on the inside :)
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Latest post on 05 August 2012 - 15:25
My dad gave my mum a diamond and sapphire ring as a push present; that was in the UK and a few decades ago - so neither a new thing or a Dubai thing Exactly. Its really not a new thing or a Dubai thing. Edit to add: Lovely present by the way! <em>edited by JBR_Mummy on 05/08/2012</em>
 
 

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