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Latest post on 30 January 2011 - 21:29
I'd say drive round here too but spots still coming up on DS... so maybe next week you can give a drive to mine given it is about ohh 1km further than DCs! :D get you out there slowly! ;) Then I suggest a quick trip to Ibn Bat, you come straight over the fly over, only 2 exits on SZR going opposite way to most of the traffic and it is easy peasy... coming home however just watch the entry back to SZR, road works. You'll be alright hun. If she cries sing to her (I've had to sing the same song over and over and over again for DS for a 20 min car ride... try singing anything else and he'd start up a fuss again), pull over in a safe place if you need to but most of all dont stress (easier said than done). I kept telling myself, "your ok to cry for 5 mins, we are nearly there". I was more worried if he suddenly stopped crying!
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Latest post on 29 January 2011 - 07:43
I'll get muffins for you but I'm starting my 30-day Shred! :D
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Latest post on 29 January 2011 - 05:46
Forgot to mention - DD is not particularly a fan of car journeys :( I always have to sit at the back with her (her in her car seat) and have my hand on her to soothe her, in case she cries, chances are - she will and does cry! And I make sure she is always fed before we go anywhere, so not sure what the reason is?! Pacifiers - again not a fan (I have about 5 different types at home, she has refused all), but when on journeys and she cries, I put a drop of Gripe Water on the teat and literally have to hold it in her mouth for her until she starts getting comfy with it. She eventually sucks and manages to calm down! I guess this is what is making me so anxious :( Come rain or sunshine - this will be the week I face my fears! Muffins at yours DC? ;) Ps. We have the mirror from Babyshop :D
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Latest post on 29 January 2011 - 00:02
A mirror is really helpful so that you'll be able to see LO in the rear facing seat. You'll be fine. :) Definitely - Babyshop and Mothercare have them. And plumie, you'll be fine. Start small. Drive round to my house :D. xx
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Latest post on 28 January 2011 - 23:56
A mirror is really helpful so that you'll be able to see LO in the rear facing seat. You'll be fine. :)
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Latest post on 28 January 2011 - 23:40
oh i know how that feels!! I had to park in a construction site, with all the lovely men watching me, just to feed ds! I had 3 locals stop by to ask if everything was ok, (prolly cos they saw a woman in the construction area), but when they saw two little feet sticking out of my chest, they just smiled and left :) Honestly, just dont worry. If u need to stop, just stop anywhere on the side of the road with your hazard lights on. Try to avoid the highway till you get confident. Make sure she is fed before u put her in your carseat. Some kids take a few minutes/days before they adjust to the car seat. Just remember, your priority is safety while driving. A few minutes of crying wont hurt her, but make sure you dont get nervous. A cool head will help. And sometimes so does singing to her :) Good luck! And tell us how it goes!
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Latest post on 28 January 2011 - 23:29
Plumie I completely hear you!! I felt the same way - I was able to drive from day one and it took me a few weeks - plus I had just moved to Dubai heavily pregnant, and wasn't allowed to drive when I got here, so I was learning to navigate Dubai with a newborn - eeek! RE: car accidents - clearly there is little we can do about this, besides driving responsibly, and always double check the carseat is securely fastened, just because you won't be in the routine yet for making sure your LO is fastened in, and you will be tired, so for the first few times, make sure you double check. With getting out and about, I used to make sure he was fed and clean diaper just before I left, and I planned short trips, and areas I was comfortable driving to - e.g. I live in Knowledge Village, so my first trips were short less than 10 min drives to Dubai Marina Mall to pick up a few groceries - which only has a short distance on SZR. He was in his maxi cosi carseat so if he fell asleep, I could just slot him onto his buggy base without disturbing his sleep, and then I stapped a cover over the front so the lights didn't disturb him. At this age *most* babies are pretty good at sleeping while out and about - obviously there are exceptions to the rule, but the movement of the car or buggy they are in usual aides rocking them to sleep.. (again, this doesn't work for everyone - but hopefully it does for you!) If it makes you feel any better, I certainly had a couple a episodes where DS 'lost it' in the middle of a store, and to be honest, you just get sympathetic looks, and there isn't too much you can do about .. And of course, they just happen to know when the most inconvenient and embarassing time will be.. All joking aside, it sounds like you are preparing yourself for the worst, so you will probably be pleasantly surprised! Good luck!!
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Latest post on 28 January 2011 - 23:02
Plumie- No advice as such (not having children yet) but jus wanted to say YOU WILL BE FINE. It's really about confidence so channel that old confidence back and hopefully you'll enjoy the freedom of driving again soon. x
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Latest post on 28 January 2011 - 22:59
Out of necessity I had to take DS2 with me a few times when it was just me and DS2 in the car from the time that DS2 was 3 weeks. Try to stay in right lane so that if you need to soothe the baby you can pull over and either sit with baby in the front passenger seat or drivers seat. I often put the gear into park at a red traffic light, run out and open back door to replace a fallen pacifier (dummy) from DS2's mouth, so yes, other mums do it! A good idea is to practice in your parking lot. Have baby with you and try to see if you can reach over and put in pacifier while you are strapped into drivers seat and baby is strapped in car seat. That way, you can be quicker at inserting the dummy while stopped due to traffic or a red light and/or decide that you can only do this successfully while pulled over to the side. You can try singing a lullaby. Sometimes concentration on singing the words can give you enough "mental space" to block out baby's crying and focus on the road. Also, even if it doesn't stop baby's crying, at least you feel proactive knowing that you are attempting to soothe baby.
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Latest post on 28 January 2011 - 22:16
Hi Plummie, You will be fine!! -plan your driving time. do it after making sure that DD is fully fed. -drive on the slow lane. where will you be driving too and from where? worse comes to worse, when DD cries for food, drive into a service road and put on your b/feeding blanket and feed her. that's what i do... remember that in the car, babies feel really comfy as tho they are in the womb so they will sleep longer. you will not get into an accident... you will be great... i bet you will get to your destination even before DD wakes up!! S
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Latest post on 28 January 2011 - 21:46
8 weeks post partum and i am shaking like a leaf to get behind the drivers wheel again :\: Could not drive for the first 6 weeks due to a c-section, but no excuses now... except: - I am petrified that DD will start screaming and i wont be able to concentrate, - I will get caught up somewhere and her routine will be thrown off and she will become grizzly and - Murphy's Law i will meet up with an accident with DD in the car! So any tips on how to brave the first few outings, no that i am a +1?!?! :cool: TIA x
 
 

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