Maid food allowance advice needed

Thank you so much ladies I truly appreciate all your advice I just tried to be nice to her but yes she did take advantage it feels bad when u try to be good but all that comes back is this...I have not processed her visa yet DH suggested we do it after a month but it's getting worse feels like it's better off without a maid...I just talked to her very nicely told her I am going to get her supplies for a month and you will cook ur own food from now on and her comment is" no mam I don't have time" I was like what really I have not yet asked u to cook for the whole family I am speaking about cooking your own food She is like I don't have time to cook my food I said I am already doing a lot of things for you which I don't have to...after sometime I asked her to cook her lunch and she says I don't want lunch I said fine but u will have to go without food if you can't cook I am not doing it for you anymore...and then she goes inside makes her own food...wen she told me she didn't know how to cook...we'll I have called the agency they asked me to try to speak to her and if she is still not making an effort they will change her they also told me I only need to pay her 100 aed a month for allowance food,shampoo,soap,etc and the lady at the agency was a filipina too...I was like only 100aed I was planning a lot more she said it's more than enough with her current salary...and that it is enough to keep them happy compared to their situations back home. All cleaning is done by 11 in the morning after which she just takes care of my baby and wen he sleeps she is in her room still she doesn't have time to cook her own food...hmmm. ...my only issue is finding a Muslim maid who speaks English...

I am going through the exact same suituation at the moment with my newly hired maid and I am getting so frustrated with her but I was advised to give her a monthly allowance for her food and allowance for metro yet she is constantly asking for more money which is make me wonder is she taking advantage ive had many arguments with her over it but nothing is absorbing... Still she eats my food and I dont know what she does with her money but I feel like her mother!! Exactly I feel like her mother day before yest I went shopping with my 2 yr old and left my baby with her of course with the nanny cam on she didn't have to do any cleaning that day as I asked her to sit with baby lunch time I called n told her to make noodles she was very happy and said yes thank you wen I came back in the evening I got a happy meal for my daughter and I got my maid a pack of fries...and the first thing I asked wen I came back in was did you have lunch she said yes after 10 min she is asking me you have white rice mam I said ya why I want white rice I didn't know what to say so I told her o.k but there is nothing with it coz I have just put the fish to defrost...I told her if she wants to have white rice she can make it and take an egg from the fridge then she says no I don't want it anymore I was like WHAT does she really expect me to cook and feed her 4:30 in the evening that too wen I just got her a new bottle of coffee...leave alone gratitude what is this...first day she came she said she can't have tea if she drinks tea she gets some chest problem or heart problem well that's what she told me well I didn't buy that story but still got her coffee wen the first bottle finished i could only buy the next one during weekend and those days wen she didn't have coffee she said she wanted to have tea wen I asked her u only said u can't have tea then she says tea is good for stomach...and the supermarket send the wrong coffee arabica she opens the big packet drinks it for 2 days and says she doesn't like it after that she says the coffee is making her vomit another half day gone she says it's making her nauseous what if she falls down with baby and blah blah blah so melodramatic...wen I didn't see anything like that...she understands basic English but I need to explain things 2 to 3 times...and now I was telling her I will give food allowance and any extras you want u pay and she tells me my contract says everything is free here...she is single her sister and brother are married her parents are taken care of by them...from what I have heard from her she is not the one who is supporting her family back home she said she wants to be independent...we'll I am sure she can buy her extra stuff from her salary...and really from her attitude I think even if I give her allowance she would still take the things from home...and act as if she doesn't understand...so I am now thinking to get her monthly stuff...and leave the rest to her... <em>edited by wowsmarties on 26/12/2013</em>