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Latest post on 06 November 2013 - 07:37
TDB, I can only guess your nationality, but whatever happened to the days that the Brits knew exactly what to wear to and how to behave at a wedding? I think smart chic is really a Dubai thing, so can see how others might not have an idea. With respect to your guests bringing others etc., that is absolutely ridiculous. Don't you have a master of ceremonies (or else a good friend) who can sort that out with your guests?
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Latest post on 06 November 2013 - 07:32
I don't get the bridezilla comments - there is always a dress code at a wedding and to expect people to stick to it is just good manners. I mean, can you imagine anyone rocking up to Wills and Kate's wedding in shorts and a t-shirt?
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Latest post on 06 November 2013 - 07:25
Its easy for us to all say chill out, but I get your frustration. Stress levels are a b#!ch where weddings are involved... I was on jury service, the case was initially 6 months long, and then 8, then we tipped into the year, then 14 months and on it crept! We finished deliberating 10 days before we and 16 guests flew out for the wedding. Fortunately I can look back and laugh now, at the time everything is magnified, but you've done the most important bit 18 months ago. Forget everyone else and just focus on you and DH having a fab day. I'm not much use for hairdressers, but the girls in Ted Morgan are great and I think they are open on a Friday, try speaking to them or the owner and explain, the owner is lovely and I am sure she would do what she could to help. Like some others I haven't a clue when it comes to dressing, so smart chic woukd result in me wearing jeans and a silky top, you will laugh about all the shinanigans eventually trust me. Have a super day xx
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Latest post on 06 November 2013 - 06:46
It is our wedding blessing on Fri - we have spent 18 months preparing, spent the equivalent of a house deposit and have family flying in from all over the world. I am just so angry as it is so stressful and people are just pathetic. For example: * Hair dresser stood me up for the trial and now after rescheduling stood me up again, 3 days before the wedding. How the F am I going to find someone to do my hair now? * Venue demands husband's Emirates ID to waive tourism fee - since he hasn't got this yet we are being charged 3.5k even tho we have residency visas * Guests are being ridiculous - cancelling last minute, asking to bring uninvited guests and now my table plan is totally screwed as half the names don't make sense * Guests have not bothered to even read the invitations, getting the venue wrong (wrong hotel) and TIME! It says ceremony to start at 3:30 and people are like, yes we will get there 3:30 - NO they need to be seated at that time * Guests not understanding dress code - we want smart chic, NOT clubbing outfits, The Oscars style ballgowns or shorts * Guests finding all the above utterly hilarious when I correct them - err no, please can you understand it is extremely stressful I don't understand how some people are grown adults and cannot work out how to get to a venue on time wearing the correct attire. I cannot wait to get on honeymoon (yes we lost our deposit as well to a company that went bust) as laying on this blessing is more hassle than its worth. We eloped originally and I really regret bothering having a wedding, mostly for the benefit of others, who don't give a sh!t how much effort we have put in. I don't understand what is surprising about ANY of this to you - this is how people behave here with regard to social functions - all the time!
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Latest post on 06 November 2013 - 06:09
TDB - focus on what's important. A perfect day is having fun with family and friends.
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 22:49
I feel your pain, we had 2 weddings, one in the UK and one in hubby's home country. Everyone kept saying 'oh you're so lucky' I just thought it was a major stress organising everything twice over as there were people dropping out (but we were still stuck paying 800dhs a head for meals), swapping plus ones last minute, changing meal choices, plus arranging dresses and suits to fit people who were not in the UK was a nightmare. And I was pretty lucky as each of our families in the respective countries did most of the heavy lifting with organising most things and I still found it super stressful. At a certain point I stopped worrying about it (I was just so over thinking about wedding stuff) and all we really wanted was for our families to enjoy it so I just hoped for the best. We had a great days :) For the EID if it the receipt has been stamped by the EID office (which they do for free) it has the same validity as the actual card and can be used for visa renewals and everything so they are having you on. I would complain big time to the highest level possible as that is an outrageous excuse and they are clearly hoping you don't challenge it.
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 22:30
TDB, not meant as a critique, but people wont remember what you said/did/wore. They will remember how you made them feel. Like you I am a little bit of a perfectionist, everything must be just so, and it can take its toll on you. Find your happy zone and STAY there by whatever means for the duration of the ceremony, you will thank yourself later for catching moments in time that will stay with you that otherwise would have been lost to the stress of trying to be organized.
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 22:20
Thanks WO - I think I found someone, anyone heard of Steve Saleh? Yes it is smart brunch / world cup / wedding attire! I am defo going to pursue this EID charge then, since it seems they are being totally unreasonable. I did query it and fight it, but was told it is govt regulations. Maybe time to get the local friend involved lol! Make sure he doesn't forget to wear his kandoura. Lol. Excellent!
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 22:11
So sorry you are having all this additional stress and some of the comments on here won't be helping at all. As for invited guests asking to bring others, I find that incredible at this late stage (or any time really) and rather rude of them. I know what I would be tempted to say to them!! Hairworks are also open on a Friday. They have some good stylists at the Ibn Batuta branch but if you are trying a new salon you really need to go for a trial run before 'the day'. I'm sure everything will fall into place and you will have a fantastic day. Try and relax and just enjoy it and then go away on honeymoon and have a lovely time. Good luck.
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 22:11
Thanks WO - I think I found someone, anyone heard of Steve Saleh? Yes it is smart brunch / world cup / wedding attire! I am defo going to pursue this EID charge then, since it seems they are being totally unreasonable. I did query it and fight it, but was told it is govt regulations. Maybe time to get the local friend involved lol! :-o
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 22:10
Thanks WO - I think I found someone, anyone heard of Steve Saleh? Yes it is smart brunch / world cup / wedding attire! I am defo going to pursue this EID charge then, since it seems they are being totally unreasonable. I did query it and fight it, but was told it is govt regulations. Maybe time to get the local friend involved lol! Make sure he doesn't forget to wear his kandoura. Lol.
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 22:05
One of the most beautiful weddings I ever attended was in a small country church reception in the school hall, tacky streamers, jam jars with a few wild flowers shoved in on top of plastic table cloths......great home cooked food and a bride in a borrowed wedding dress. Not having a go at TDB or any prospective brides, but honestly feel that the costs of weddings and expectations of the couples and their families are spiralling out of control.
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 22:03
Don't worry, TDB! Things will sort themselves out, they always do in the end. Re: your hair - suggest that when you book you tell salon it's just a 'v important reception' as opposed to a wedding (and get quote upfront) or you will get fleeced as they'll think you are despo 3 days before the event. Re: dress code: tbh I don't know what smart chic is either. Is it basically just smart wedding attire (as in what you would were to uk wedding or Dubai world cup)? I have to say I understand why you would specify dress code as you have ppl of different cultures attending. Anyway, try to relax and enjoy the day. I'm sure you will look and feel amazing :-)
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 22:02
Tell the hotel that you will make a formal complaint against them. It is wrong. Email the GM and cc everyone higher up. Someone one on here will have a gm contact at the hotel - I'm sure if it
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 22:00
Just Joy salon in khalifa A. #025560640 is open Fridays in abu Dabi
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 21:56
Tell the hotel that you will make a formal complaint against them. It is wrong. Email the GM and cc everyone higher up.
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 21:50
Life's far too short to be overly dramatic all the time.
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 21:35
TDB find a quiet spot sit down and take a few gulping deep breaths. It is YOUR and DHs day you have done all you can now sit back don't try and micro manage.You have got some really good tips take those that make sense to you.If you don't allow yourself to enjoy the day you have just wasted all the money time and effort you have put into your blessing. To heck with everyone else YOU enjoy YOUR day. I must say however that the days of people RSVPing seems to be a thing of the past,really bad manners in my opinion. My DS and DIL also had 2 weddings because of relatives kicking off........had pretty much the same outcome as you but DIL was amazing ,water off a ducks back ,she enjoyed both...... Have a wonderful blessing and enjoy yourself.:)
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 21:29
Ted Morgan at Motor City are open on Friday mornings. Is there a hairdresser in the hotel that you are holding the wedding? If you could get there before Friday for a trial it maybe worth booking with them? I'm sure most of your family and friends will appreciate all the planning and will enjoy the day celebrating your wedding. Try not to stress too much and focus on enjoying the day.
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 21:23
Turkaz is open on Fridays and the girls are just lovely, I'd highly recommend them and pretty sure they will have someone available to do your hair. Also the have a makeup lady if you need one if them. Yeah, I like the change the booking into your game idea! And name and shame them for not accepting a copy of the application form, even the rta accept the form! Maybe send out an email, reconfirming hotel with exact address and website address as well as defined smart chic description? It'll all be alright on the day, just remember it's the man you're marrying/being blessing too not the family & friends x
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 21:09
[b'>[b'>I am pretty sure juans is open Fridays [/b'>[/b'>not so sure if they are what you are looking for though. Dont stress her out even more. that bad?!
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 21:08
try Bell Femme on Beach Road. i think they are open Fridays and they do wedding style hair
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 21:08
[b'>[b'>I am pretty sure juans is open Fridays [/b'>[/b'>not so sure if they are what you are looking for though. Dont stress her out even more.
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 21:06
or can't you change the booking to your name ?
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 21:06
I am pretty sure juans is open Fridays not so sure if they are what you are looking for though. As simpleasabc said just sort the guest you want to be around because the rest will take care of themselves- probably even regardless of your arrangements. Take a breath and stay calm. Stress is horrid for your skin and you would not want a breakout. My cousin sounds similiar to you. She put in massive effort at her wedding and frankly no one remembers all the details except how demanding she came across. She truly resents that that is how people remeber her wedding day the most. She was so far in the detail and stress that she could not see it. I cant be sure this is how you come off to those around you but just basing on your post it may be so. I hope everything works out and flows for you on your wedding celebration.
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 21:05
The salon I am thinking of is Essentials. Their website doesn't work in Firefox or Opera, so I can't tell if they are open on Friday mornings still. This is their FB page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Essentials-Salon-Dubai/110427449020141 Good luck. Can't your hubby get the ID people to get a wriggle on?
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 21:05
Thanks simpleasabc, at last some helpful advice. Clearly, based on other replies, this is my fault, and no one has ever got stressed planning a wedding before. I am not asking much - please turn up to the correct venue, on time and not wearing a bin bag. If that makes me a bridezilla then so be it. We actually got married 18 months ago just me and DH in a registry office and it was the most romantic day, but our family and friends were desperate we did something that included them too, hence this day. We begged and pleaded re: the EID as we have the application form but it needs to be the actual card. Which sucks. do you happen to have a copy of his previous one - I know it will have expired but the info doesn't date.... nope he never made a copy... I am not making fun of anyone for what they wear but surely some common sense applies? so what IS smart chic ? maybe they just don't understand ? same with the venue, if they're not local maybe it's not clear
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 21:02
You just need to chill out and relax a bit. Things will go wrong.....they always do but it wont matter on the day Theres plenty of time to be grumpy when your married LOL
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 21:00
Thanks simpleasabc, at last some helpful advice. Clearly, based on other replies, this is my fault, and no one has ever got stressed planning a wedding before. I am not asking much - please turn up to the correct venue, on time and not wearing a bin bag. If that makes me a bridezilla then so be it. We actually got married 18 months ago just me and DH in a registry office and it was the most romantic day, but our family and friends were desperate we did something that included them too, hence this day. We begged and pleaded re: the EID as we have the application form but it needs to be the actual card. Which sucks. do you happen to have a copy of his previous one - I know it will have expired but the info doesn't date....
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 21:00
Thanks simpleasabc, at last some helpful advice. Clearly, based on other replies, this is my fault, and no one has ever got stressed planning a wedding before. I am not asking much - please turn up to the correct venue, on time and not wearing a bin bag. If that makes me a bridezilla then so be it. We actually got married 18 months ago just me and DH in a registry office and it was the most romantic day, but our family and friends were desperate we did something that included them too, hence this day. We begged and pleaded re: the EID as we have the application form but it needs to be the actual card. Which sucks. You're friends and family were desperate to attend a party and then be made fun of and yelled at for what they wear and when they ask for clarification? Something sounds not quite right.
 
 

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