So mad at DH

Am I being unreasonable? Big fight with DH last night.

One of DH’s clients recently gave him a big flower arrangement to say thank you for a recent project. So last night, DH was very sweet while I was at work and he decided to rearrange the flowers, into more management vases rather than the huge giant arrangement that doesn’t fit anywhere in our apartment! However, he decided to put 4 tall and full vases holding water and flowers on the top floating shelf in our living room. I’m sure most people are aware that a ‘floating’ shelf that is held in the wall by about 2 screws can hold some things, but prob not more than 5 kilos. So if you put about 5 – 6 decorative vases, pictures, candles etc on top of the shelf, and then add 4 big vases holding water and flowers, something is going to give.

So I came home after a 14 hour day, plus then going food shopping (while he is out having a few drinks with friends), and I walked in and discovered that everything from the top shelf were smashed on the floor. The shelf was coming out of the wall and tilted at an angle, a crack was going up the wall where the shelf had once been, and everything but two vases had fallen to the wall. (Funnily enough, the vases holding flowers hadn’t fallen, bizarre!)

I rang him, and he got so mad at me. He said he had been trying to do a nice thing and that it wasn’t his fault and there was no way he was going to pay for the replacements (which are out of stock anyway, but are worth about AED 2k altogether.) He then called me a liar and said that there weren’t as many things broken as I was claiming that they were (thankfully I took a picture of our apartment the other day to send to his mum, so I do have evidence) but I thought how dare him! He said that accidents happen, and that was that. But earlier this year when I was using his computer and had it on the coffee table, our cat jumped on it and knocked it off the table and I paid for it to be fixed. I did not break it, but my actions causing it to be open on the table resulted in the cat jumping on it and breaking it.

Henceforth, him stupidly putting the full vases on the top shelf resulted in a lot of damage, so surely he should pay for it???

I am so livid. Why do I have to pay to fix his mistakes? Why can’t he admit he has done something wrong? If he had at least said ‘Ohhh I’m so sorry, I will fix this’, I would have felt so much better.

Argh. Any advice?