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So anybody up, really need some re-assurance re early labour:(

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Latest post on 15 January 2011 - 03:46

On my way to the ER now but does anyone know if my water has not broken what can be done to stop the contractions?
With DD1 it was the water first then the rest followed with her being born @ 26weeks.....
I'll be 26 weeks on Sunday and have had pain all day today and now a pink slimy discharge......

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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 15:02
Forever21. Greenish is so right, you are so strong for being able to share this and discuss it with us. Just reading your post made me choke up and unable to type. You are very very BRAVE. Crying is normal. When DD was in the NICU and having a tough time, anything would set me off. I cried in my gynaes office on two different ocassions. Big hugs and sending you lots of love.
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 12:11
Much love to you forever21. The grace and strength with which you are able to 'talk' here is inspirational. You'll possibly never know how many people you are touching and giving strength to. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. xx awww Greenish, you have no I idea how hearing that makes me feel-I've been going to the hospital for dressings and found that I cannot stand the constant explaining when it comes to....'how is the baby'......'what baby did u have'...to such an extent that I skipped a couple of appointments. I just dont think I'm as strong as you say but reading it gives me strength....THANK YOU! Yesterday I saw my Gynae for the first time since I was discharged and I cried through the whole consultation but he was so patient with me-I felt bad for him since he had so many other patients he was seeing after me. Mrs Laughan I'm sorry to hear abt what you went through-and yes I get what you mean abt wanting tell people that 'it's not catchy'...I sometimes feel like saying that to my sister when she calls cos she just runs out of things to say but avoids talking abt 'IT'! Thanks again everyone for all the support...xoxoxo M
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Latest post on 31 January 2011 - 15:58
Much love to you forever21. The grace and strength with which you are able to 'talk' here is inspirational. You'll possibly never know how many people you are touching and giving strength to. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. xx
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Latest post on 31 January 2011 - 15:26
Forever 21 - my thoughts are with you. Having lost a baby at 19 weeks I can begin, but not completely understand your loss. For me I drew huge strength and joy from my son...he kept me going. You will be in my thoughts. My Mum came to see me - and I have to say, it was nice to be mothered....let her do that for you, and your family. Also with regard to everyone else...some people just don't know what to say, others can not cope with the loss themselves, I know that sounds strange, but that is just my experience. I always felt like saying to them "it's not catchy you know...." Hope you understand my humor...... <em>edited by Mrs Laughan on 31/01/2011</em>
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Latest post on 31 January 2011 - 14:53
so sorry to hear of your loss.
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Latest post on 30 January 2011 - 12:39
You don't need to go into detail with her - she's young and should be left to imagine in her own way. You could say that the burial site is to help everyone remember her sister... I guess people cope in different and sometimes surprising ways. <em>edited by Hello.Again.Kitty on 30/01/2011</em>
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Latest post on 30 January 2011 - 12:30
I am so sorry for your loss. Keeping you and your family in my prayers.
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Latest post on 28 January 2011 - 21:51
Sorry for your loss Forever21. Its not easy to go through something like this especially in a foreign country. Almost 4 years on and I still wonder what my DS would have been like and still calculate how old he would have been now. We drove past the graveyard where he is buried the other day and I was in tears again. I never got to see him as is little heart stopped beating at 20 weeks and I was induced. It feels like a distant memory today. People don't really know what you are going through or how to sympathise with you when a tragedy like this strikes. I hope you have a speedy recovery. We all need our mothers when something like this happens so it will be a blessing to have her around. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and Zama. Sorry to hear about what you went through and you are right people are just clueless and it seem almost criminal to see some of the people close to me go on as if nothing happened.....not saying they should walk around like corpses.......that's just human nature! I've been wondering how going back to her resting place is going to affect me. To tell you truth...I'm dreading it but it has to be done since my mama is coming but my biggest concern is my 5yr old DD, will she understand the whole burial thing now after she was told her baby sis' went to the moon?? She never came with us to the burial.....
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Latest post on 28 January 2011 - 20:36
Sorry for your loss Forever21. Its not easy to go through something like this especially in a foreign country. Almost 4 years on and I still wonder what my DS would have been like and still calculate how old he would have been now. We drove past the graveyard where he is buried the other day and I was in tears again. I never got to see him as is little heart stopped beating at 20 weeks and I was induced. It feels like a distant memory today. People don't really know what you are going through or how to sympathise with you when a tragedy like this strikes. I hope you have a speedy recovery. We all need our mothers when something like this happens so it will be a blessing to have her around. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and Zama.
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Latest post on 28 January 2011 - 20:05
Forever 21, so sad for your the loss of your daughter, baby Zama. Hopefully having your mother here will give you some comfort.
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Latest post on 28 January 2011 - 19:48
I cant thank you all enough for the continued messages of love, I'm really feeling the love!! My mama is finally flying in tonight and I wish it could have been under different circumstances but I can use all the love that I can get and she's the one person I really need. I will leave with her in a week or so. Thank you all again
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Latest post on 28 January 2011 - 19:46
so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family
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Latest post on 28 January 2011 - 19:44
Forever21, I have just read the thread and am so heartbroken for you. So sad. I am glad you feel you are at peace with what happened - sending you strength and hugs.
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Latest post on 28 January 2011 - 19:29
A friend told me today of your very sad news, words arent going to help, but my love and thoughts are with you and your family, thru this very sad time, massive hugs too you, xxxx
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 21:56
I am terribly sorry to hear of your loss forever21. Just tragic. Thinking of you and your family. Hugs. x
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 21:32
So sorry for your loss forever21 May the little angel rest in peace You and your family are in our toughts x
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 20:39
I am so sorry for your loss Forever 21. Sending you and your family lots of hugs. May your precious Zama rest in peace xx
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 14:26
forever 21 There is very little anyone can say at this time that will help, but I do know it comforting to know that there are others thinking of you - so please know we are. My heart goes out to you and your DH, its sound like you are both being incredibly strong - continue to lean on each other though this time. *hugs*
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 13:31
Forever 21, I do so admire your strength. Zama will be with you always, in the kiss of a breeze, in the soft murmur of the tide, in the sweet shade through the heat of the day, in the glory of the night sky. You may not be able to hold her hand or see her smile, but she will be with you until the end of days.
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 13:30
Many blessings and hugs to you, forever 21. Your precious Zamashimane is lucky to have known such love from you in her short life, and your love for her will never end. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. We are here for you, mourning and grieving with you. xx
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 13:30
Hi Forever21, I don't know if you are looking for any closure/support or asking things like why this has hapenned to you. But just wanted you to know there is a mum with a similar story, and has written a beautiful letter to her daughter. I will share it with you only if you think it'll help you find some answers. Let me know. *Hugs
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 13:14
Ladies, your continued messages have been such a blessing-thank you so much. Yesterday my precious angel baby Zama was laid to rest and it was the strangest thing because I never thought I'd have to bury my child......in a foreign country but it's done and I'm OK with it! My Dear husband has been so strong thru this whole process and yesterday he exceeded my expectations. He performed every duty as if we were back home where there are really important traditional aspect of the funeral that need to be done. Her soul is at peace as so is mine. Thanks again for your continued support.
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Latest post on 22 January 2011 - 03:35
(((Hugs))) For you and your family Forever21. Im at a loss as to what to write. My heart is breaking for you. xxxx
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Latest post on 22 January 2011 - 03:06
Forever 21, I am so saddened and sorry to hear of your daughters passing. She really fought hard to give you the time she did. SHe will be your angel watching out for you and your family! Give yourself the time and space to grieve. You might need lots of PJ days. It has been a huge physical and emotional journey for you. Zamashimane will always be part of your family and in your heart. Even though it was only a short time you had to be with her she will always remain with you x
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Latest post on 21 January 2011 - 23:01
forever 21, I am so sorry for you and your family's loss. Your messages have been so very brave, just take care of yourself. x
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Latest post on 21 January 2011 - 15:50
very sorry to hear (read) this news forever21. My thoughts are with you and your family. May Zamashimane rest in peace and hold a special place in your heart. Whilst she is not here in body, she will be forever with you, in spirit. xox
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Latest post on 21 January 2011 - 15:33
forever21, I am so sorry to read this and am sending you lots of love and hugs. Don't really know what to say except take care and that my thoughts and prayers are with you. I'm sure your baby girl is at peace and looking down over you and your family x
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Latest post on 21 January 2011 - 15:20
Zamashimane is a beautiful sounding name with a beautiful meaning
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Latest post on 21 January 2011 - 14:43
I'm so very sorry to read about the loss of your precious baby girl, what did you name her? She'll always be a part of your family. There is an organisation called SANDS that offer support for those families affected by a baby's death. http://www.dubai-sands.org/informationSupport.htm Thanks once again ladies for the much needed words of comfort. pentel we named her Zamashimane ( I know it sounds 'greek" to most of u ;) but it is a South African Zulu name that affirms ones belonging to a certain clan...in this case her dad's clan name is Mashimane so ...it means she is of them..! Thanks for the link, much appreciated! <em>edited by forever 21 on 21/01/2011</em>
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Latest post on 21 January 2011 - 14:13
I'm so very sorry to read about the loss of your precious baby girl, what did you name her? She'll always be a part of your family. There is an organisation called SANDS that offer support for those families affected by a baby's death. http://www.dubai-sands.org/informationSupport.htm
 
 

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