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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 05 November 2012 - 13:12
Sorry but am puzzled! We have been married since the mid 70s and DH and I have always shared everything, including cooking. I wouldn't have married a guy who thought that all things domestic were my department LOL! I thought that attitudes had moved on with the times! We're retired now and take turns every other night to cook and clear up. I have joint probs so DH does hoovering and I do dusting and so on. Most of my same age friends work much the same way. We were bra burning feminists back then! :D S***al equality might have nothing to do with it! In our house, I do all the cooking because I love it and my husband does none because he hates it. DB, if you want to keep your husband out the kitchen after the baby is born maybe stock your freezer up with meals. I always spend the last month of pregnancy satisfying my nesting instinct by cooking big batches of meals to stock the freezer with for the few weeks after the baby is born. Lots of soups, casseroles etc. In fact, this time around I'm going to get stuff in the freezer for my husband to bring in to hospital to reheat for my meals. Last time the food was utterly dire, not the sort of things I needed to be eating for birth recovery and getting bfeeding off to a good start. edited by Daza on 03/11/2012 I hate all things domestic too, including cooking LOL! But we need to eat and keep our home clean and tidy so it is shared or we'd starve and be living in squalor :D
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 03 November 2012 - 12:13
here is a wild suggestion. Why not do a once a week cooking class together :)....he will learn a few things and so might you :)...and....you get to do it together and have someone else teach him how to keep a clean kitchen :).....anyway, certainly worth a try once you actually find a class that suits :) DB I just read your reply on cooking schools lol...so..no need for you to take him to classes, he will have to be sent by himself. Maybe the nights he cooks you go out and eat or [b'>get him his own cookware[/b'> ????? anyway a gift of classes could be the thing for him :) edited by SueB on 03/11/2012 That's a fabulous idea. I have a 'beeberpan" that cost me 20 dhs at Carrefour and I have more fun cooking, because I don't go through a calphalon induced anxiety attack :)
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 03 November 2012 - 11:22
here is a wild suggestion. Why not do a once a week cooking class together :)....he will learn a few things and so might you :)...and....you get to do it together and have someone else teach him how to keep a clean kitchen :).....anyway, certainly worth a try once you actually find a class that suits :) DB I just read your reply on cooking schools lol...so..no need for you to take him to classes, he will have to be sent by himself. Maybe the nights he cooks you go out and eat or get him his own cookware ????? anyway a gift of classes could be the thing for him :) <em>edited by SueB on 03/11/2012</em>
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 03 November 2012 - 11:06
Ha! Beebers he made a pretty great chicken tikka masala which was lovely and he did wash up and "clean as he went". He is great around the house and helps with everything from ironing to hoovering, cleaning etc, so what he lacks in finesse he does make up for in enthusiasm and doing it. I am v lucky I know. I think I am just very restless being pregnant and being told to "sit down and relax" when I am normally so active and doing stuff around the house. Didn't realize how much of a control freak I was until I actually have to let someone else do stuff. Heaven help the poor maid when she starts...! YUM! I haven't had that in forever. Maybe I can cook that tonight! He sounds like a gem, and I bet you will be grateful for that help very soon :) x
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 03 November 2012 - 10:45
I did have a chuckle when I walked into the kitchen this evening and saw a ruler on the countertop.... I had to ask him what it was for and his reply was.... I had to make sure all the vegetables were 2 inches according to the recipe! Aaaaaarrrgghhhh! I had to read this to my DH.Wasn't too surprised when his reply was " but that makes perfect sense " say no more...... Like you joyceB we have been married since the 70's but sadly after many attempts at cooking DH has been banned,his food tastes dreadful.Bless him he really did try.However he is an ace handyman;) To TDB as others have said I wouldn't be too worried about the cleaning up if the meal is halfway decent,once LO arrives any help is great. Another long time married person here and I have to admit my husband is a good cook in a throw it together and cross your fingers kind of way except for his Biryani which is wonderful and we have to say its wonderful, not lovely or really nice or the likes - or he gets a bit upset to say the least :D Anyway part of his secret is the steaming of the rice once its in the pot with the meat mixture and to acheive this he piles loads of kitchen implements on top of the pot to jam the lid down. He even once did it with a plastic sack of spuds which somehow caught fire on top of the saucepan. To this day he doesnt know how he did it and I dont think he'll ever find out cos so traumatised was he by the shenanigans that followed he hasnt made it since. That wee escapade took wrecking the kitchen when he cooked to a whole new level .
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 03 November 2012 - 10:39
I don't hate it, I love it! DH didn't cook at all for the first few years which never really bothered me as he had never been taught how to cook anything decent. He got really into Masterchef a while ago though and since then has started cooking, and is thankfully very good :) It's lovely to get in from work and sit down and have dinner made and brought to me. His mother visited a while ago though, and when she asked who had made dinner and we said that he did she looked horrified and started ranting about how her son shouldn't be cooking/cleaning as that's a woman's job :\: Uuuuhhh not in this house!!! Having said that, poultry prep cleanliness really is important especially if you're pregnant. You should definitely lay down the law on that one...
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 03 November 2012 - 10:17
Sorry but am puzzled! We have been married since the mid 70s and DH and I have always shared everything, including cooking. I wouldn't have married a guy who thought that all things domestic were my department LOL! I thought that attitudes had moved on with the times! We're retired now and take turns every other night to cook and clear up. I have joint probs so DH does hoovering and I do dusting and so on. Most of my same age friends work much the same way. We were bra burning feminists back then! :D S***al equality might have nothing to do with it! In our house, I do all the cooking because I love it and my husband does none because he hates it. DB, if you want to keep your husband out the kitchen after the baby is born maybe stock your freezer up with meals. I always spend the last month of pregnancy satisfying my nesting instinct by cooking big batches of meals to stock the freezer with for the few weeks after the baby is born. Lots of soups, casseroles etc. In fact, this time around I'm going to get stuff in the freezer for my husband to bring in to hospital to reheat for my meals. Last time the food was utterly dire, not the sort of things I needed to be eating for birth recovery and getting bfeeding off to a good start. <em>edited by Daza on 03/11/2012</em>
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 03 November 2012 - 09:52
am already having palpitations about my cream suede couch + baby :S scotch guard or you could go for the plastic covers ;) I'd give up on the cream suede if it's going to upset you so much and go for one of these for the forseeable future: http://www.thesofathrowcompany.com/shop-by-size-sofa-throws-1.html Re: Maid, baby, you and OCD - you'll be concentrating on looking after the baby when it's born and probably longing for sleep when you can get it, so you'll just be glad to be having the housework done for you. PS My husband's idea of cooking is boiling an egg or putting pasta in cold water. At best, he can make a toasted cheese sarnie in a sandwich-maker. Don't knock what you've got. <em>edited by simpleasabc on 03/11/2012</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 03 November 2012 - 09:43
am already having palpitations about my cream suede couch + baby :S scotch guard or you could go for the plastic covers ;)
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 03 November 2012 - 08:15
I did have a chuckle when I walked into the kitchen this evening and saw a ruler on the countertop.... I had to ask him what it was for and his reply was.... I had to make sure all the vegetables were 2 inches according to the recipe! Aaaaaarrrgghhhh! I had to read this to my DH.Wasn't too surprised when his reply was " but that makes perfect sense " say no more...... Like you joyceB we have been married since the 70's but sadly after many attempts at cooking DH has been banned,his food tastes dreadful.Bless him he really did try.However he is an ace handyman;) To TDB as others have said I wouldn't be too worried about the cleaning up if the meal is halfway decent,once LO arrives any help is great.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 03 November 2012 - 07:28
I would appreciate it if my DH cooked a meal for me since he has never and will never do that! lol! I was thinking what on earth any of the men in my family would do if someone's life depended on them cooking! Wouldn't be a good ending unless any and all food items could be cooked on the grill! DB your rant and update is pretty funny. Poor guy! What did he come up with? btw, I can totally understand about the cookware. There's no real way around being a nag on that one. Except in this home, DH is the one lecturing me :(
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 03 November 2012 - 06:49
I would appreciate it if my DH cooked a meal for me since he has never and will never do that!
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 03 November 2012 - 01:55
Sorry but am puzzled! We have been married since the mid 70s and DH and I have always shared everything, including cooking. I wouldn't have married a guy who thought that all things domestic were my department LOL! I thought that attitudes had moved on with the times! We're retired now and take turns every other night to cook and clear up. I have joint probs so DH does hoovering and I do dusting and so on. Most of my same age friends work much the same way. We were bra burning feminists back then! :D
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EW GURU
Latest post on 02 November 2012 - 23:58
...their husband cooks??! OK so this sounds bizarre but I hate it when my husband does the cooking. Hear me out. Before I go any further I will say I am very OCD and particularly pernickety and hormonal at 8 months pregnant so perhaps this bothers me more than most but need a quick rant. First of all, he makes a huge mess and mucks up the order of my kitchen and puts things away in the wrong place and uses every appliance. Secondly, he hates anyone interfering so even when he is scraping my expensive cookware with metal utensils or chopping meat on wooden boards I just have to cringe and not say anything. Thirdly, his hygiene leaves a lot to be desired and he doesn't wipe down surfaces or observe poultry hygiene (I am very OCD about this). He also doesn't season anything or add any salt and I don't really love the taste of his food and finally I love to cook and it's MY kitchen and I'd rather he didn't do it and let me get on with it. Aaaargh I hate it!!!! I know I am lucky that he wants to cook and he tries his best but it just agitates and annoys me and I'd rather he didn't do it. Am I insane? Reading back over this I think I am. why is it YOUR kitchen ?? you share the rest of the house lol..love it when mine cooks because it means i don't have to and yes, he cleans our kitchen afterwards...methinks you'd better get a taste for his cooking TDB - when baby comes you'll be glad of any help you can get :D
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 02 November 2012 - 23:26
My husband makes a great beans on toast if needs be but that's about the extent of it! I prefer that he keeps out of the kitchen and luckily, he'd rather do pretty much anything rather than cook. My kitchen is my temple and it would drive me nuts if he were in there messing things up. So no, I don't think you are insane at all.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 02 November 2012 - 22:47
I hate it when my husband cooks. The taste of the food he makes is so awaful and he can't eat it. The last time he cooked when I was 8 months pregnant of our first baby and it it was supposed to be south Asian dish that he learned while living there for few years, he ended up opening tin of tuna, added it to tomato paste, keep it on fire for 2 minutes and served it with whitevrice which was not well cooked. I threw up so badly and remmbering the smell and taste give me very bad nausea till now. Did I mention he didn't bother to clean up! No Mister, if you want to treat me, order a nice meal from any resturant and I will be more than thankfull ;)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 02 November 2012 - 22:46
DH cooked tonight as well, and yes it is a treat, but also frustrating, as it takes him half the day to cook the same thing I would cook in 40 mins... I did have a chuckle when I walked into the kitchen this evening and saw a ruler on the countertop.... I had to ask him what it was for and his reply was.... I had to make sure all the vegetables were 2 inches according to the recipe! Aaaaaarrrgghhhh! You made my day. Thanks for posting that. :) Yes it reminded me why I do all the cooking.... And even though he has cooked something 10 times.... Like scrambled eggs..... He will still look up the recipe!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 02 November 2012 - 22:21
DH cooked tonight as well, and yes it is a treat, but also frustrating, as it takes him half the day to cook the same thing I would cook in 40 mins... I did have a chuckle when I walked into the kitchen this evening and saw a ruler on the countertop.... I had to ask him what it was for and his reply was.... I had to make sure all the vegetables were 2 inches according to the recipe! Aaaaaarrrgghhhh! You made my day. Thanks for posting that. :)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 02 November 2012 - 22:01
DH cooked tonight as well, and yes it is a treat, but also frustrating, as it takes him half the day to cook the same thing I would cook in 40 mins... I did have a chuckle when I walked into the kitchen this evening and saw a ruler on the countertop.... I had to ask him what it was for and his reply was.... I had to make sure all the vegetables were 2 inches according to the recipe! Aaaaaarrrgghhhh!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 02 November 2012 - 20:32
I understand you. You have still 2 months to enjoy the tidiness. With a newborn it's hard to keep the whole place super clean and you might enjoy it more when your DH will offer to cook.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 02 November 2012 - 19:01
I would appreciate his efforts, and like Sugar beach says, go and do something else while he is mucking up your kitchen. And when you get back, you direct him to tidy up the way you have organized it. And reward him with a foot massage lol. If you can being pregnant of course. I would be happy if my (currently non existing) husband would make the effort:)
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 02 November 2012 - 18:52
Ermmm...you need to go for a spa/pedi/mani and out of the house when he cooks and clears up?
 
 

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