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Smoking and Preg. :(

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 12:53

Dear All,

You all might have been reading that i am newly preg. and am still looking for a doc.

This being a wonderful forum, i need advise, support and tips from all of you....

I have been drinking and smoking before i knew that i was preg. As soon as i found out about the positive result, i have not has a single drink since then......No problem and no cravings.......

But it is totally different story on the smoke front. I cant seem to survive without atleast 3 smokes a day (down from a pack a day). I dont smoke in front of anyone, so they think i have quitted as i quitted drinks.....

I know it is harmful....but please dont judge me, Help me ! ! !
<em>edited by Christeen on 11/01/2011</em>

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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 00:36
Great stuff, well done!!! :)
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EW GURU
Latest post on 19 January 2011 - 23:27
Hello All ! Thank you for the support ! Wanted to let you know that TODAY it has been more than 24 hours since I smoked a cigi.........Feeling very light headed and opening all my drawers to see if i can find a lost cigi ! ! ! :( Fab news. Told you it would happen. So pleased for you. Well done x
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 19 January 2011 - 17:32
Hello All ! Thank you for the support ! Wanted to let you know that TODAY it has been more than 24 hours since I smoked a cigi.........Feeling very light headed and opening all my drawers to see if i can find a lost cigi ! ! ! :( Good for you Christeen! A friend of mine recently stopped smoking after trying on and off for over 20 years. Someone below mentioned Alan Carr and my friend who had tried everything said his book got through to her like nothing else had!! Among many other things, he says to try and wrap your head around the fact that you're not *giving up* anything. What you're doing is taking back your life and your health. You can't miss something you haven't given up. ;) He also suggests keeping cigarettes in the house. Making a conscious choice to *take your life back* and be more healthy is MUCH easier to stick to than depriving yourself. If the cig's are there and you could have them any time you want to, it reinforces the CHOICE you have made...not the deprivation. You CAN do it...for yourself and then ultimately for your baby. xx
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 19 January 2011 - 17:32
Well Done Christeen! That is excellent. Keep away from the stray ciggies! Just a few days and you will be over the worst of it, and you (and your baby) will be better for it! Keep us posted!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 19 January 2011 - 15:52
Do not use gum or patches instead of smoking. They will still release nicotine into your body and thus hinder the blood flow into the placenta. Your baby will not get enough flood, nutrients etc. They might work for people who just mind the smelly smoke. But if you're pregnant, it's actually the nicotine that is harmful for the baby, not so much the smoke!!! Hope you'll see the embryo and the heartbeat on ultrasound and that it helps you to give up the cigaretts completely! Cheer the OP up why dont ya!!!!!!!!!!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 19 January 2011 - 15:48
Way to go Christeen! Keep it up :)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 19 January 2011 - 12:57
Hello All ! Thank you for the support ! Wanted to let you know that TODAY it has been more than 24 hours since I smoked a cigi.........Feeling very light headed and opening all my drawers to see if i can find a lost cigi ! ! ! :(
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 13 January 2011 - 08:50
If nothing else, I hope that i will get a natural aversion from cigis. when/if morning sickness kicks in ! You're hoping for an external thing to tell you not to smoke, something that will take the choice out of the decision. This will not happen. Stop making excuses like "oh, I'll stop when I hear the heartbeat" (as in "next week/ tomorrow/ some time soon"). Every single day your baby is developing at an amazing rate - every single day counts. You need to take action TODAY. Just do it. Get up after reading this, grab your cigs, tear them up and throw them down the rubbish chute. Impulse. Right now. This is the first thing you'll be doing to protect your child. Right. Do it now. ;)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 13 January 2011 - 04:57
Do not use gum or patches instead of smoking. They will still release nicotine into your body and thus hinder the blood flow into the placenta. Your baby will not get enough flood, nutrients etc. They might work for people who just mind the smelly smoke. But if you're pregnant, it's actually the nicotine that is harmful for the baby, not so much the smoke!!! Hope you'll see the embryo and the heartbeat on ultrasound and that it helps you to give up the cigaretts completely!
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 12 January 2011 - 20:16
Please call Beryl Comar and get an appointment. If anyone asks you what it is for, just say you need relaxation therapy!!! She should be able to hypnotize you.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 12 January 2011 - 15:34
Thank you Jsheperd, SalsB and Mrsrjbr, I know that you guyz r right.....cold turkey is the only option that i can see.... I just hope that hearing the heart beat (hopefully on our 7th week scan, this sat) would be the final kick for me........as after loosing all the symptoms of preg. I just dont feel preg at all...... (is it normal ??) If nothing else, I hope that i will get a natural aversion from cigis. when/if morning sickness kicks in !
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 12 January 2011 - 14:42
Hi Christeen, just read your post and wondered if you had considered trying hypnotherapy? My husband was a dedicated 40-a-day smoker, and had been for over 20 years, but visisted a lady hypnotherapist called Alla in Knowledge Village in June and hasn't touched a cigarette (or even had any cravings or physical withdrawal symptoms!) since. Being pregnant is stressful enough, so maybe this would be a preferable route to cold turkey! I can find her contact details if you are interested. Good luck! xx
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 12 January 2011 - 13:42
Going back to when I was pregnant there wasnt any kind of stigma attached to smoking and being pregnant, I didnt smoke much back then to what I do now, It has to be hard and good luck in whatever you do. I wonder if patches would help or maybe seek advise from your doctor, they must have all kinds of non smoking aids to help you along.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 12 January 2011 - 13:26
I'm sorry I do not believe in cuting down, or gum or any aids to quitting! I went cold turkey after smoking for 10 years when I was pregnant with my first DD and have not touched a cigerette since 3.5 years ago, you cannot cut down it doesnt work you just have to stop, you are either at that point or your not! Proof of this is my husband who also quit using gum - he is still using it now!!! So even thou he doesn't smoke he is addicted to the gum instead. It was **** when I quit but I had terrible morning sickness which actually helped as I felt sooo sick all the time the cigerettes just added to it. One of my friends helped hugely by being appauled that I would even consider not giving up so I pictured her in my mind all the time and the shame of that put me off too. Good luck and think of your little one you are growing, that should be motivation enough .
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 20:09
First of all, Good on your for reaching out to get some help and support from others! Perhaps it might help to get some professional help on this from a therapist or counselor. The reality is that you are trying to stop smoking (a bit feat on its own) while at the same time dealing with possible guilt or shame of smoking while pregnant--it might be hard to do this on your own particularly since it sounds like you are too embarassed/ashamed to tell friends. Talking to someone might help you understand why/when you smoke and what are some other (positive) behaviors that you can do to replace the smoking. I am not saying indepth therapy or anything, but a couple of sessions to help you form and implement a plan of attack! Good luck. I think the first step is believing in yourself that you can do it!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 20:05
Try reading the Quit Smoking Alan Carr book. I know many people that have read it and quit cold turkey ( and who had smoked for years. The day I found out I was pregnant with my first child 16 years ago I had a cigeratte in each hand, I was in such shock. I stopped straight away and glad I did. You CAN do it. Try an alternative of something else in your hand e.g. celery or carrot sticks, almonds etc to reach for instead of reaching for that pack of cigerattes. best of luck. Be STRONG and FOLLOW THRU YOUR PLEDGE. Take a copy of your scan and put it on top of that packet of cigerettes. each time you reach for the cigarettes you have to see the pictureof your unborn child.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 19:55
OP, I think your DH has to stop as well. Passive smoking is just as harmful for children (and everyone else). If he cares for the health of his baby he should quit now. Once baby is born he can't smoke anywhere in the house or around the baby anyway. Maybe it would make it easier for you to quit together... Good luck! eta: electronic cigarettes won't be any good because they still release nicotine, don't they? It's the nicotine which is harmful to your unborn baby. <em>edited by happymommy on 11/01/2011</em>
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 17:38
Dear All, Thank you the great support that you have shown me ! Plumie - Thank u ! I think u are stronger than me that u could just stop on your husband's request. Babyrat - I wish and hope that the smell of cigi will make me run towards the bathroom ! Hello.Kitty - I am sorry about you and your brother but you really have given me an insight of what can go worng. Forever21 - I am sorry for your friend's loss...hope ur baby is fine. Again thank you for giving me the strength. B.E.G: I appreciate your honesty and bravo on stopping when you did ! Lemon Drops - Thank you for the comforting words.....i know u r wishing MS with best intentions....but i need to work ! ! ! Thank you all from the bottom of my heart....trust me i am trying to quit........:( Hey Christeen Firstly, CONGRATULATIONS :) If it's any consolation I started smoking (and drinking) again after a miscarriage last year but tomorrow start the stimulation phase of IVF so today is my last day of the booze and cigs. I know it won't be easy but I shall be replacing them with lots of finger crossing, plus I shall make sure I get an (un)healthy intake of both tonight! If I can do it, you can. Here's to both of us... ;)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 17:01
Dear All, Thank you the great support that you have shown me ! Plumie - Thank u ! I think u are stronger than me that u could just stop on your husband's request. Babyrat - I wish and hope that the smell of cigi will make me run towards the bathroom ! Hello.Kitty - I am sorry about you and your brother but you really have given me an insight of what can go worng. Forever21 - I am sorry for your friend's loss...hope ur baby is fine. Again thank you for giving me the strength. B.E.G: I appreciate your honesty and bravo on stopping when you did ! Lemon Drops - Thank you for the comforting words.....i know u r wishing MS with best intentions....but i need to work ! ! ! Thank you all from the bottom of my heart....trust me i am trying to quit........:(
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 16:52
Have you tried the electronic cigarette?
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 16:46
Christeen, congratulations on your pregnancy. I know this is a hard time for you. Please don't try to do it alone. If you don't want to admit to your DH that you're smoking. At least let him know that you have moments of weakness and are afraid you might regress. Talk to an OB or GP about what options you have that may help you quit smoking whilst pregnant but are also safe for your baby (don't know if there are any out there, but it doesn't hurt to ask). This may be mean but I'm also going to wish horrible morning sickness on you... so bad that you can't ever look at a cigarette again. :) Good luck and again congratulations. <em>edited by lemondrops on 11/01/2011</em>
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 16:28
I don't have a great deal of sympathy, and I'm afraid I am judging you. I was a heavy smoker but stopped on the day I found out I was pregnant. Honestly, I felt miserable and depressed for the first week but it passed and it felt great to know that I wasn't poisoning myself or my baby anymore. Try reading Alan Carr.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 16:27
Hi Christeen, Congrats on your pregnancy and I trust that you will be able to quit since you are asking for help and support. 5 years ago when I was pregnant with DD1 I had a bump buddy @ work who was a closet smoker as well. I went into pre-term labour @ 26weeks while she continued her pregnancy until 32-33weeks when the blood circulation from her to the baby cut off due to her smoking. Needless to say that she had to be induced and deliver her still born baby :( I don't know how much she smoked per day but as HelloKitty said-it takes small quantities for it to harm the baby! Dont mean to scare you but just sharing a painful experience as a direct result of smoking. I wish you all the best and hope you do find the strength you need to stop smoking!!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 15:33
cutting down from a pack to 3 a day is already a really, really good step. It's interesting that actually for there to be any negative effects on a baby by alcohol, the mother needs to be consuming a heck of a lot - almost binging every day - whereas cigarettes are more harmful to a baby's early development in smaller quantities. My mum cut down to 5 a day when she was pg with both my brother and I. We both have eyesight problems from birth. I've had to wear glasses since I was 5 and one of my brother's optical nerves never developed properly so he can really only see out of one eye. This is a direct result of my mum's smoking, as the toxins can inhibit the development of hearing and eyesight in early pregnancy. She knew smoking was unhealthy, but simply didn't think any further than that... I don't blame her either. Add to that the horrid statistic that 8 out of 10 cot deaths happen in families where at least one parent smokes and well... if that doesn't put you off, then I don't know what would! None of us are perfect... but if there's only one thing you steer clear of during your pregnancy, it should be cigarettes (and drugs, although I doubt that would apply!)
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EW GURU
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 15:31
Christeen, It will come promise but you yourself still have to want to give up. I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was nearly 10 weeks gone. As soon as I found out I was pregnant I was in shock and had a cig to calm myself down. All I do remember was the first time I went for a scan and saw that blob I never touched a cig again. The smell of cigarette smoke made my stomach churn. Good luck and just think of what is growing inside of you. Whatever you put in your mouth goes in theirs.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 14:58
Christeen - it's hard, and i have been there! The day we found out i was expecting, i cut down to 2 a day. I was not yet prepared for cold turkey :\: 1 week later, DH had a very sad look in his face, and asked me "for the health and sake" of our unborn child, to please stop (he is a smoker as well)! That was all it took, as i could see the hurt in his eyes! I guess until you really hear the words, it is very easy to live in a world of "denial"...and YES - seeing the heartbeat and seeing your miracle move, might just be the kick in the back side you need ;) It will come, you will see! If you want it desperately enough, your mind will take over and that will be! Your pregnancy hormones will be in over drive and you may even go off them automatically!?!? Best of luck x
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 14:43
My mom smoked when she was pregnant with me. I kind of resent her for that as something could have gone wrong with me. Fortunately Im okay but please try and find a solution to stop. Have you tried hypnosis? I heard it can be very effective for addictions. Take care.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 14:20
Dear Both, Thank you so much ! First of all for not judging me and secondly for the support provided ! Maid marion: it is a good and scary visualization that you have put there....but unfortunately, cant do that, as EVERYONE (including DH) thinks i have quitted. I am so glad it worked out for your friend and she has friends like you to support her ! pancakemum: Thank you for the positive reassurance and emotional support. Right now, I am 6.5 weeks (dont know either to say this is 6th week or 7th ) and have an appointment on Sat. Will i be able to hear the heartbeat then? Honestly, even i was thinking that i need to feel (believe) that i am preg. then only i can do this (does it make any sense?). I have read what smoking can do to your baby but..............
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 13:52
Congratulations on your pregnancy!!!! Wonderful time for you and your husband but sometimes it gets a little bit hard because of all the changes you need to make. I found out I was pregnant with my DS when he was 7 weeks already. I have been smoking a pack of cigarettes and drinking a glass of wine per day while going out until that day. I gave up my wine imediatelly but it was hard with the cigarettes. My DH( who is still a smoker) just took my pack of cigarettes away. What I did first few days was to take my DH cigarette when I was getting desperate and have a puff but without breathing in. Just the habit of holding it and the taste of it made it a little bit better. The moment we went for a scan and I saw the little bub and heard the heart beat I knew it I can not do anything that can harm him. It wasn't about me anymore and was about another life now. With smokers it's a bit funny. They don't listen to anyone so I think YOU need to decide and just give up Completely! One. two, three or a pack per day it's the same. Now my DS is 7 months old healthy child. Didn't smoke a cigarette since 1 year and 4 months. Still feel like having one with a glass of wine but really happy I cut it out of my life for my son. I coudn't have done it just for myself. Sorry I didn't read what stage of pregnancy you are but it's never too late to give up when you decide. Nobody else can do it for you. During the pregnancy the reality of another life doesn't sink in for a while. Maybe if you hear a heart beat, see the bub, read about the harm smoking can do may help you decide to give up. Pregnancy it's just the first chapter of learning that you need to first think about your baby and than about yourself. It's all worth in the end. Good luck with giving up. Positive vibes coming your way.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 13:27
Everyone is different but my friend stopped smoking when we emptied an ashtray into a babies bottle full of milk. This was a very in your face way and doesnt work for everyone but it sure worked for her. She kept the bottle next to her cigs and was a very visual reminder for her of why she had to stop :) Good luck and well done on being so honest, I've never been a smoker so cant really help from a first person perspective.
 
 

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