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I got that dreaded phone call late last night...from home

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 March 2012 - 02:09
NIP where is your mum? I am 2/3 of the way through treatment for bc i'm now back in the UK and please feel reassured the treatment these days is fantastic and catching it early is key. Mine was in many lymph nodes but because of successful chemo I didn't lose a breast although I did have extensive surgery. The treatment differs for everyone but I've met loads of amazing women who have lost breasts and the surgeons do wonders for them. Physically you change but nothing can change who you are inside and that's what matters more than anything. Others posters are right, the diagnosis and treatment stage is very tough but it changes you only in a positive way and you come through stronger. Being apart from close family isn't easy but there are so many ways you can support your mum from a distance - my sister is in the US and she has given me more support than I could imagine via email, Skype and the old fashion postal service! I still live some distance from my mum and she is unable to visit me as she cares 24/7 for my dad it hurts her a lot that she can't support me more in practical ways but she is on the phone whenever I need her. Also, the early days and weeks after diagnosis are the toughest as you try and come to terms with it, but once you manage to deal with what's hit you it does get easier as the weeks pass. Best wishes to your mum as she learns more about her treatment plan. If you need any questions answered just ask x
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 09 March 2012 - 20:48
Sorry for the bad news, ur mom will b in my prayers
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 09 March 2012 - 20:47
Sorry for the bad news, ur mom will b in my prayers
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 09 March 2012 - 20:46
Sorry for the bad news, ur mom will b in my prayers
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 09 March 2012 - 20:27
NIP, I'm very sorry to hear your news. I have an aunt who is going through the same thing this week. Hopefully your mum's cancer was caught early. DH suggested that I look at this article when we found out about my aunt. http://bibleplus.org/health/rawfood.htm Prayers to your mum. P
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 09 March 2012 - 19:18
Sorry to hear your bad news NIP. You are right, sometime it is so sh!t to be far away from home :( I know it is hard, but try to stay positive and upbeat, especially for your mum. That is what she needs right now xox
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 09 March 2012 - 18:12
Nip .. So so sorry to hear your news. I hate the feeling of helplessness when something like this happens :(. My prayers are with your mom and you. x
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EW GURU
Latest post on 09 March 2012 - 12:23
:( Sorry to hear your news NiP. It does feel rubbish being so far away, esp at times like these. I know you can't be there all the time, but you can Sky!e her regularly. When my father was ill I used to skype him everyday, it was about the only thing I could think of doing for "us" being so far away. Sending hugs and prayers to you and your mum
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EW GURU
Latest post on 09 March 2012 - 12:12
NiP, sorry to hear your news, as you say hopefully the op will remove everything that has to be removed and she will be fine. Stay positive for your mum and keep her up to date with what the LOs are doing etc as that will give her something else to focus on. big hugs
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 09 March 2012 - 11:43
Just to say chin up, chuck. Anything I can do?
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 09 March 2012 - 10:30
Sorry to hear your news, my prayers are with you and your family. Am sure you can give your support from a distance as there are so many ways to communicate but know what you mean about being there for your Mum and sister. These things cant be helped, lots live abroad nowadays. You can always go tot he nearest Church and light a candle for your Mum. Ladies, have you heard that anti perspirants are also thought to be a cause of breast cancer. Appparently there is aluminium is them and we should be using the aluminium free ones. There was a write up int he Times newspaper some time ago. I just use Impulse body spray and nothing else.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 09 March 2012 - 10:25
NIP, sorry to hear of your mum's illness and wish your family the best. My brother was diagnosed with cancer a few months ago. It was a shock, he's my big brother and I guess I thought he was invincible :) However, he's now back at work and doing well. I hope your mum will have the same happy result. <em>edited by Jadey on 09/03/2012</em>
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 09 March 2012 - 09:57
Stay positive NIP, they caught it early - that in itself is an extremely good thing. While you can't physically be there for her right now, you can still call or write, don't beat yourself up about being so far away either, we don't get to choose the curveballs that life throws at us. Prayers for your mum and your family x
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 09 March 2012 - 09:53
So sorry to hear about your moms illness. Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way. thank you Nomad. I appreciate it but can you send your prayers to my mum? xx Done... special delivery
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EW GURU
Latest post on 09 March 2012 - 09:45
My heart goes out to you; there is nothing worse than getting those types of phone calls. My best friend since 2nd grade had breast cancer while I was away. It is something I still feel guilty about -- not being able to be there. However, I can tell you that today she is leading a more meaningful life, cancer free (over 5 years) and could care less she lost her breast. I am not saying it is easy, but it changes you and, from what I have heard, more for the better. I am so proud of her. I pray it is the same for your mother!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 09 March 2012 - 09:37
So sorry to hear about your moms illness. Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 09 March 2012 - 09:32
I'm so sorry - this is the worst thing about being away from family I think. I have 2 friends in the UK having treatment for cancer and I feel so useless. Will you be able to go and see her? xxxxxx
 
 

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