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EW GURU
Latest post on 21 January 2011 - 05:12
[b'>"Do you regret being married?? If you coulds go back , would you get married again ??Where you happier when you were single? " [/b'> I do not regret being married at all. I know my life has been better because of having my husband in it. Together I think we have both been more successful than we would have if we had of been single.... You know the synergistic model of the the sum total of the parts being greater than the independent total? But having said that, there are certainly times when I vent my frustrations with him as he can drive me absolutely bonkers! However it doesn't mean I would change a thing. I would have been bored out of my brain with any of the men that I dated or lived with prior to my DH. Don't despair. Just get on, focus on enjoying your life as it stands today and the right person will come your way. Don't rush into it because you are worried about being alone. Had I married any previous boyfriends or de factos, I know now that would have been a terrible mistake. Easy to say in hindsight, but I am thankful for my caution.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 21 January 2011 - 03:55
Khatoon, you start a lot of threads about not being in love, or bad encounters. Maybe it's on your mind too much?
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EW GURU
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 19:10
Marriage is not the end of life! I think its a partnership. I do moan about my husband but if I remember correctly I moaned about my previous boyfriends too. You can still go out and have fun even though your married. DH and I have our separate nights out not often but we still do it every now and again. At times I think he is a right of s**t but he is mine and I wouldn't want to change it for the world.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 18:15
oooops , forgot to thank you ladies for your advice .It helps a lot to hear it from people who have experience. Believe it or not, your replies changed my idea about marriage and made me believe that there are many happy couples out there.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 15:12
I know that sharing the rent is not a good enough reason or the right comparison for marriage. What I meant was to have a partner to share everything with .Not only the problems and the sadness, but also the good times and nice things are more fun when you have someone to share them with.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 14:35
Married/Attached life to the right person for you, for the right reasons (love - yes I am still a believer) enhances and adds to your life. Having said that enjoy your single life. Definitely preferred ANY DAY over the wrong relationship. The worst thing you can do is start looking to be attached to have someone split the rent. <em>edited by summerdream on 20/01/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 11:51
I prefer being married especially to someone who works away a lot so I get a lot of "me time" too.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 11:48
I met my husband when I was 33 and we married when I was 35. I'd had a few relationships and lived with a major mistake for a long time before that and was happily reconciled to leading a single life when I met my now husband, and we've lasted 21 years, with good and bad and a lovely daughter to show for it. Better to be single with a good job and good friends than unhappy in a relationship, is my experience.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 11:38
Maybe I am just thinking too much about it. Guess you are right and I will feel it when the right guy comes along. I know few people who got married in their mid 30s and they seem to have made better choices in terms of marrying the right guy .
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 10:19
Enjoyed my single life, enjoying my married life. Get married when you meet that special someone that you can't live without....not because your family is worried about your single status, your parents need to see you get married before they die, you need someone to pay/share your rent, your life is getting boring, your bodyclock is ticking faster, etc. Just go and live your life!!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 10:18
Coin always has two sides. It depends which side you like more. Some people I know are perfectly happy being bachelors. Others are looking for someone to share their life with. Some couples don’t have children and it’s not bothering them at all. When others strive to have kids and cannot imagine life without. You can be happy as a single or married, with kids or without, but only in case if you really want to be. In another word: you must be happy within yourself, no matter your marital status.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 10:15
All I will say is that I'd rather be on my own than with a guy that's not right for me. I'm happily single by the way and me and my friends have the most amazing life, travelling, partying, shopping, girls nights in - and we don't have to check with anyone. On the other hand though thats not to say I wouldn't curb my single ways and settle down if the right guy came along, but he has to be something special to make me give up my freedom (so to speak). Just try and be happy with what you've got, make the most of it and let fate decide if you're supposed to meet that special someone!! :) Well said! Don't compromise just because you don't want to be on your own. I have a friend who does that; when she's single she's constantly telling me how happy she is to be able to focus on work, the gym and her friends, then she goes and hooks up with some totally unsuitable bloke just because he's there and he's interested. One minute she tells me it won't go anywhere and she's binned him, the next she's updating her FB status to 'in a relationship' just because she's so desperate to settle down. I loved being single. I love being married. I wasn't ready to be settled when I was younger but now I wouldn't change it for the world and as magicbeanza says, we've had tough times and good times but he is my rock. And just as an aside, I still have girls' nights out and trips away and it's less having to 'check' with someone than making sure all our joint responsibilities (dogs, kids etc) are covered. TBH when I was single I was never out on the pull anyway so a night out with the girls single isn't much different to a night out with the girls married! :D <em>edited by DubaiCat on 20/01/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 10:14
Married. I never got married until my 30s. I had a great time being single but towards my late 20s I think I did start looking for a life partner. Sometimes I have a dream that I am single or with an ex boyfriend and when I wake up and realise that I am with DH and have 2 children I couldn't be happier :) Good luck Khatoon!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 10:09
All I will say is that I'd rather be on my own than with a guy that's not right for me. I'm happily single by the way and me and my friends have the most amazing life, travelling, partying, shopping, girls nights in - and we don't have to check with anyone. On the other hand though thats not to say I wouldn't curb my single ways and settle down if the right guy came along, but he has to be something special to make me give up my freedom (so to speak). Just try and be happy with what you've got, make the most of it and let fate decide if you're supposed to meet that special someone!! :) very well said and couldn't agree more. you've just described mine and my girlfriends outlook to a T.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 10:09
Loved loved being single, got married at age 41 and love it too. Please don't mix up paying the rent with a benefit of marriage, this is the 21st century dear, not some Jane Austen novel!
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 10:04
happily married. i agree, there are ups & downs, but i wouldnt trade DH for the world
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 10:03
All I will say is that I'd rather be on my own than with a guy that's not right for me. I'm happily single by the way and me and my friends have the most amazing life, travelling, partying, shopping, girls nights in - and we don't have to check with anyone. On the other hand though thats not to say I wouldn't curb my single ways and settle down if the right guy came along, but he has to be something special to make me give up my freedom (so to speak). Just try and be happy with what you've got, make the most of it and let fate decide if you're supposed to meet that special someone!! :)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 10:01
Married. There are things I would change if I could go back, but marrying my DH would not be one of them. We've had tough times and good times, but he is my rock.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 10:01
Khatoon, Do you think its possible that maybe you complain to your friends about being single, and they then comfort you by airing their marriage problems and saying they'd rather be single like you?
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 09:55
unhappily single :(
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 09:51
Married.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 09:50
I think it all depends on being with the right person - you will no he is right as you will have no regrets and will never look back! I have been with my guy for 11 years and still find him sexy and attractive! and when he is away i get so excited when he is due home! As long as you have humour, silliness and keep the cuddling alive, its all good! - my guy can be a big clown at times but i wouldnt change him. Dont get me wrong we can argue like the best of them but its forgotten in an instant. As for your friends! then they are either extremely unsatified in their current relationships that they have regrets i.e. they have not found the right person. Just sit back and chill and dont worry too much about it - there will be a time for you when you least expect it! So dont go out there looking! What will be will be and when you find that guy for you, you will have no doubts about marrige then! Just get yourself out and making new circles of friends and ENJOY life now! you never know who you will bump into?!?!;)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 09:35
I think its always better to be within a family, husband & kids
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 09:35
There are ups and downs in any relationship, whether it is with yourself or someone else. Unfortunately, life is not all rosey all the time and to be honest, I'm not sure I'd want it to be. It would be quite boring, kinda like the weather here...all sunshine and beautiful everyday is nice but you just would like a thunderstorm or something from time to time for change if nothing else. At the end of the day, you just have to be happy with yourself and the choices you've made/make. I throughly enjoyed my single life, happy or sad and the same goes for my marriage. Even on the days when I want to give my DH a whack with the frying pan or DS is driving me to drink...literally! I wouldn't change a thing and don't have any regrets about my past or present life.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 09:34
best of both worlds. Love being married but also have times when i go out on girly nights or meet up with girlfriends for afternoon drinks. I don't have the energy or inlination to look at other men and I'm sure as **** other men don't look at me!!!!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 09:29
For some people (maybe the friends you mention), the grass is always greener. I don't really know what it's like to be single, I've almost always been in long term relationships. I definitely don't regret being married, my DH is the coolest, most fun person I know.
 
 

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