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I lost my beautiful baby x

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Latest post on 13 February 2011 - 23:30

This is my first post. Had registered a few weeks ago but hadn't posted anything. I am 8 weeks and 3 days pregnant today. I saw my baby's heartbeat in an early scan on Monday. I had a tiny bit of dark brown discharge/blood this morning. I am a worrier by nature so booked an emergency appointment with my doctor. Was really hoping everything was fine. She couldn't find a heartbeat. Sent me to another clinic for a second opinion. Same thing. Absolutely devastated as is my poor hubby. I just can't understand it. The Doctor said the heartbeat was very strong a few days ago which she said was a very good sign. She even told me to relax that everything was fine. Why, why, why, why? I feel so empty inside and just don't know how I can cope. I am going to see the doctor tomorrow to make arrangements for what is to happen next. What a way to spend Valentine's day. I'm still praying that there is a mistake even though the logical part of my brain says that there isn't. Just so upset. Was supposed to be going on a girly holiday today with a few friends and now my suitcase is still sitting in the car. To make matters worse, whilst I sat crying in the corridor of the clinic, a work colleague who got married the same time as my hubby and I did, went into the doctor's room, obviously to go for a scan. My heart is breaking. Why our little baby? :(

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 February 2011 - 21:46
Sorry for your loss, went through this last year and now have a gorgeous 2month old. You will get through this, give yourself some time. Hugs. Xx
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 February 2011 - 17:47
Hi Gingercat, So sad to read your post, it happened to me a few years ago i lost my beautiful baby at 22weeks, cry and cry your heart out, it does get easier, and i would agree give yourself time to heal, i believe these things happen for a reason even at the time you cant understand why. lots of hugs...thinking of you...
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EW GURU
Latest post on 15 February 2011 - 14:21
Hi Gingercat So sorry to hear your news. Huge hugs to you and your DH x
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EW GURU
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 21:53
Miscarriages: painful, unfair and unexplained :( I am so sorry this has happened to you gingercat, and like many others - i feel your pain and i know your pain! Dealing with a miscarriage is like going through the "5 stages of loss and grief" - Denial (did this really happen to me), Anger (why did this have to happen to me), Bargaining (if only i did this, if only i did that), Depression (sadness and isolation) and the one that comes at the very last - Acceptance (when the dust has settled and calm takes over)! Take your time, cry when you need to, talk when you want to and don't let anybody rush you in getting over this! Everyone heals on their own time, in their own way. Remember your DH and lean on him, support him and talk to him! I shut my DH out for a very long time when i had my miscarriage, forgetting that he was suffering too :( They need us as much as we need them too! Sending our lots of {{{CYBER HUGS}}} and know that you will heal an you will get through this xxx
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EW GURU
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 20:02
I'm sorry to hear of your news, hang in there.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 19:41
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss Gingercat. Be kind to yourself and give yourself the time and space to grieve. Hugs going out to you. xx
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 19:11
Big hugs, Gingercat :( Hang in there, girl!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 16:58
Sorry to hear this ((((( hugs ))))).
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 16:53
Gingercat, I'm so sorry to hear this. I've been through it twice now in the last 8 months so I know how it is. The shock of it is the worst, especially as things seemed to be going so well. The next few weeks will be tough so be kind to yourself and go easy, cry when you need to and get lots of cuddles from your DH. x
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 16:08
Cyber hugs ! Been there and know how you feel ..... http://www.babyhopes.com/ovulation-calendar.html
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 16:03
So sorry :(
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 14:13
{{{{HUGS}}}} Sending you lots of cyber love and hugs xoxxo
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 13:57
Thank you so much for your kind words. Waiting a week before going for a D and C on Saturday. Our Doctor is kindly letting us have one more scan on Wednesday, if anything just so we can see for ourselves that there is definitely no heartbeat. So just waiting for nature to take it's course until then. You've all been so kind and I am so glad that I posted. Thank you xxx
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 13:55
Am so sorry to hear this. Sending you and your DH strength vibes!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 13:38
Gingercat, You poor, poor thing. My heart goes out to you. Hugs and kisses, and most of all, be good to yourself and your husband. It's hard to look to the future and trust how good it might be for you when a full term pregnancy progresses well which I'm sure it will. So take it a step at a time, and take care of yourself right now.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 13:35
Oh, you poor lovie. I'm so sorry. xx
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 13:12
Gingercat I know we've never met but if you would like someone to support you through the next bit, hold your hand etc. I'm here and would like to offer my support, a shoulder to cry on and a ear to listen. Please take care and Hello.Again.Kitty is right you never could have stopped this so please try not to punish yourself. Andy x
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 12:37
Miscarriage is so devastating, especially when it's your first pregnancy. I've been there too. Take the time to just grieve in any way you feel necessary, but don't dwell on the "what-ifs" because there are none. There is nothing you did, or didn't do, that would have stopped it. It happened because it needed to - think about it this way: in the first few weeks of pregnancy, there are so many millions of things happening... connections being made, cells dividing, organs and limbs being mapped out and amongst all that, sometimes, something just makes a mistake... and sometimes it's just such a fundamental thing that it can't carry on. It brings home what a miracle having a happy, healthy baby is. You'll go on to have happy, healthy children in good time too. Let yourself heal first. i wish i had read that at the time of my miscarriages ... so nicely put hello.again.kitty. sorry for your loss gingercat x
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 12:29
Miscarriage is so devastating, especially when it's your first pregnancy. I've been there too. Take the time to just grieve in any way you feel necessary, but don't dwell on the "what-ifs" because there are none. There is nothing you did, or didn't do, that would have stopped it. It happened because it needed to - think about it this way: in the first few weeks of pregnancy, there are so many millions of things happening... connections being made, cells dividing, organs and limbs being mapped out and amongst all that, sometimes, something just makes a mistake... and sometimes it's just such a fundamental thing that it can't carry on. It brings home what a miracle having a happy, healthy baby is. You'll go on to have happy, healthy children in good time too. Let yourself heal first.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 12:27
Hugs for you Gingercat. So very, very sorry.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 12:23
Sorry for your loss, Gingercat. I'm sending a very big cyberhug your way.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 12:22
I'm sorry for your loss Gingercat . Wish there was something I could say to ease your pain . I'm sure time will help you recover xxxxx
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 12:14
I can't answer the why, but just wanted to say I'm so sorry and am keeping my fingers crossed for you that it's a mistake. Take care of yourself.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 09:43
I am so very sorry Gingercat, I am sure there will be love, luck and a baby in your future. xx
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 09:42
gingercat - my heart goes out to you at this time. Take time to grieve the loss of your beautiful baby, talk to your husband, family and friends about it. Lots of hugs to you and your husband at this time. Take care
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 09:34
Hi Gingercat, Just wanted to let you know I really feel for you and your DH. Take care of each other. RosyP x
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 07:43
Thank you all for the responses. Still somehow hoping there has been a mistake :(
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 00:20
Oh-how sad-wish there was something I could say or do to make it better-sending cyber hugs your way for you and your DH xxx Just to add-just because the heartbeat was fine doesn't mean all is well sadly-I nearly lost my now 22 year old son at 8 weeks with a threatened miscarriage-he was born at 26 weeks with a rare syndrome and had 2 years in hospital and countless surgeries-he still suffers everyday-so sometimes nature has reasons we just don't understand at the time. Yes I still have him-but I wouldn't wish what he has suffered on any baby <em>edited by wuffles on 14/02/2011</em>
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EW GURU
Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 00:15
Just wanted to send you cyber cuddles. Take good care of yourself and DH. x
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Latest post on 13 February 2011 - 23:54
My heart goes out to you. Sadly there is nothing I or anyone else can say that will help at this time. The same thing happened to me about a week and a half after you a year ago. It hurts and sometimes crying is the only thing for it. Take care. x
 
 

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